My 80-year-old father died and asked me to lend him money to treat his illness. What should I do?

Many people say that the older people get, the more afraid they are of death. I think it's true. When they are young and alive, they don't think they can't be cured. They have to borrow money from home to treat themselves. However, once they are old, they have to say that their desire to survive is really strong.

At the end of June last year, my father-in-law suddenly couldn't walk. He went to the hospital for examination and said there was a tumor on his spine. At that time, his father-in-law was 73 years old. The doctor at the county hospital said that conservative treatment was recommended. After all, he is old and the operation is risky. At that time, he wanted to go to a big hospital to see if there was a good plan, so he transferred to the city hospital. The doctor in the city hospital saw the film and said that if his family wanted to have an operation, he could do it. If the tumor is benign, he is expected to resume walking. But we still need to do another comprehensive examination. I was dumbfounded when the exam results came out. In the advanced stage of lung cancer, the tumor on the spine has metastasized above the lungs. The doctor said that life expectancy is only three to six months. Family members will decide whether to treat.

Husband and brother discussed it and decided to give up treatment. After returning home, they should treat the old man well, eat and drink, see what unfinished wishes my father-in-law has and help him realize them. However, my mother-in-law has always hoped that the two brothers can pay for treatment, but she also understands that the two sons can't fill in hundreds of thousands of dollars, and they can't guarantee that they are all well, so they are very entangled in their hearts and always have emotions. Later, my father-in-law disappeared in early August, and my mother-in-law scolded and beat two children at the funeral, complaining that her husband and his brother had no conscience and did not treat her father-in-law well.

Actually, I don't think what my husband and his brother did was wrong. The old man's condition is there. Knowing that treatment will only cost hundreds of thousands of dollars to buy peace of mind, why do you have to bear hundreds of thousands of debts on your son even if you can't keep the old man? More people can choose to help the elderly when they are dying. One is wealth and indifference, and the other is ignorance and filial piety. Depends on which one you choose.

More than 80 years old, incurable disease, and my son needs to borrow money to save his life?

Ma Mo, a collector, said that after the old man got sick, his thinking was abnormal.

In his later years, he held military power in his left hand and his thoughts were abnormal. Suddenly ordered, transfer troops to kill the enemy, the messenger immediately ordered, sent troops to attack, and shocked Shan Ye. The officers and men turned around and replayed: The enemy has retreated, and the commander can retreat and rest.

In fact, the subordinates are making the coach happy. They know that they are invincible and their subordinates are elites. They are worthy of the coach's reputation.

Children and grandchildren should make overall consideration for themselves, treat them conservatively, suffer less, live with dignity and walk peacefully, and don't have to spend money to find guilt. This is my opinion.

My second sister left first. My second brother-in-law is over 80 years old His son is filial and mature and is not short of money. I have the final say: conservative treatment, treatment at home, full-time care for the eldest son, care for the other three sons at the expense of the boss, and treatment for the second daughter-in-law and the little dean at home. Conditions are better. Prepare some opioids and go quietly.

Netizens have a lot of comments, and they have different opinions and are filial. Careful care, less pain, less pain. Unreliable tonic, according to the economic situation, buy less and try, it will definitely be ineffective, so he gave up. Surgery? Chemotherapy, radiotherapy and chemotherapy are not recommended after the age of 60. If you are in good health, you can use it. Targeted drugs are domestic drugs, which are imported at their own expense from 400 yuan every month. Now it has been included in medical insurance, and it costs about 2,700 yuan per month. If you take it for eight months at most, it will be ineffective in the future, or you can't continue taking it. Targeted drugs are only effective for several diseases, and money can't buy life. Find a reliable treatment plan, people and money are empty, and resolutely don't.

My 80-year-old father is terminally ill and asked you to lend him money to treat him. I think you can do your best. After all, he is his own father. You only have one life, and if you lose it, you will never come back. Nobody said that? Parents are here, and there is still a way to go in life. With both parents dead, there is only the way home. What's more, if you go to school and get married, he will do everything he can to help you complete the important events in life smoothly and lead a comfortable life. It is also appropriate to repay him. So, try your best to be worthy of your parents and the world!

If it is incurable, there is no need to borrow money for treatment. Because overtreatment not only brought income to the hospital, but also hurt the immunity of patients, and brought physical and mental pain to patients. Losing everything could not save their lives, and eventually they were ruined and lost. It is best to support symptomatic treatment and reduce pain. At the same time, children should take good care of the elderly in life, make the elderly happy, comfort and accompany as much as possible in spirit, and let him walk the last journey of life calmly and peacefully.

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80-year-old father died, asking the subject to borrow money for treatment. What should the subject do?

Summer cold to talk about their own views, hoping to provide you with some solutions:

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The father of the subject is over 80 years old and has an incurable disease, but it is quite difficult for him to borrow money from the subject for treatment.

My father wants to go on living and see the world, but he has an incurable disease and doesn't have enough money to treat his father.

But as children, we should try our best to do what a child should do.

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The father of the subject has an incurable disease, and the treatment is definitely not good, but the doctor will also give him some advice and give him some life-saving potions, but these potions will definitely have a time limit, for example, they can only live for one month and two months.

In this case, the subject tried his best to save his father's life. Even if he lives for a few months, his father will not be angry if the subject tries his best. Subjects will also be more comfortable.

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Is the subject an only child? If not, the subject can ask other brothers and sisters to pay the father's medical expenses together, which will also reduce the burden and pressure on the subject.

Most people will have a lot of disappointment when they are about to step into the end of their lives. The subject can find some hospice care public welfare organizations, seek their help, help father accept this fact, help father realize some unfinished wishes, and let father leave safely and comfortably. This is what we should do as children.

The above is my opinion, I hope it will help you.

A good doctor once told me that if you get cancer after 60, let it be. If you don't treat it, you may live longer, and if you treat complications, you may live shorter.

My colleague's father also has cancer. His father didn't know at first, but later he gradually learned that his family kept it from him. Later, my colleague discussed with his family and decided to treat his father. Although the doctor said it was of no therapeutic value, he and his brother paid for his hospitalization. In those two years, he didn't dare to rest at work, but he worked overtime. Back and forth, more than 200 thousand only lived for about a year. But before he left, his father was still complaining that he had not been operated on, fearing that he would spend money not to treat him. He also said that he was afraid to think about his family property when he was in hospital. In fact, my colleague is going to divorce in order to pay the medical expenses, but his parents haven't paid any money themselves. During that time, he was almost crazy and asked us what we meant by "blood".

I think people's minds decrease when they get old. Children just need to have a clear conscience. In this case, the patient may not live for a few more days, but also suffer a lot of unnecessary pain, which is not worth the candle.

In this case, only when the doctor tells the truth can the family members easily accept the incurable disease of the elderly. This must be a very painful thing, as a member of the family, we should also understand. How to treat hopeless patients, I think we should give priority to care, comfort and psychological counseling. At the same time, it is also necessary to carry out necessary drug treatment to minimize the pain of patients. Placebo therapy is also a means to bring hope to patients. I hope the patient can leave safely in the end and the family members will not feel guilty.

Depending on the specific situation, if he is terminally ill and unable to return to heaven, he can only stay at home and wait on him for the last time, considering the financial constraints.

In most families, the son gave everything and borrowed money to continue treatment for the 80-year-old father who was terminally ill, while the old father loved his son dearly and refused any treatment. Your house is just the opposite, to be exact: not a family, not entering a house.

Seventy is over eighty. Instead of constantly investing money for the so-called filial piety in others' eyes, it is better to take my old father home and ask his wishes so that he can have a good way to leave.

China didn't have euthanasia. You have to relieve the pain of the old man and see what you can do. If he has any ideas, you should try your best to finish them, which is filial piety.

I am disgusted that some people say at this time that even selling iron should be cured, or life should be extended for a few days, not to mention that post-treatment is equivalent to murder. Even if it can last for a few days, they have to clean up their finances. Will the old father in your hospital bed agree if he is conscious?

What is the heart of those who ask for debt treatment? It's no one's problem that people are old and can't get through some hurdles. What can mortals do? Then use moral kidnapping to make his descendants weak not only now, but also in the future. Aren't you evil?

The so-called filial piety is not to throw money irrationally and shed a few tears to prove sadness before the old man leaves. But when the old people were alive, did you really accompany them and give them relief?

I'm Yue Lao. Give me your heart and I will reassure you.

I guess old people don't know it's a terminal illness. If they knew, they might not ask. My parents told us a long time ago that if the treatment is not good, don't save them and let them rest in peace. After my mother became ill in 2008, my father decided not to rescue her: 14 days later. My father is too clever. Lung cancer in 2065438+2007 was 93 years old. We didn't tell him at first, for fear that he would lose confidence when he heard it. The doctor advised against chemotherapy and told him a week before his death. I guess he thought of it himself. He told us everything when it was hot. First, he burned the ashes and put them under the tree, and then waited until the weather was cooler. I'm afraid we are too old for our health. What a good father.