Do you have to learn to control your emotions if you want a happy marriage?

Many people think that controlling emotions means not quarreling, but I think this idea is all wet. Couples who really have a good relationship will never stop quarreling, and they will not use the cold war to solve problems when they should quarrel.

Qiqi said that in this marriage, she was completely hurt because her husband was a man who especially liked the cold war. Every time two people disagree, he starts to be silent, or hides in the toilet to smoke and play games, which drives Kiki crazy. One doesn't know what to do.

Kiki has communicated with her husband countless times. Why did she choose to escape when she encountered a problem? Why can't she communicate well to solve this problem? But her husband said that quarreling was too hurtful. Anyway, she'll be all right in a minute.

Kiki is really fed up with this method of solving problems with cold violence. She hopes that when encountering problems, two people can sit down face to face and have a good talk, tell each other what they think, and then find a solution to the problem together. Instead of avoiding it, I think the problem can disappear like this.

If the problem is not solved, it will never disappear, it will only accumulate more and more, like a huge snowball, and finally it will collapse completely because of the falling of a snowflake.

This is why many people feel that the other half who is obviously good suddenly left. You may feel sudden, but you don't know how much disappointment and sadness the other person has accumulated.

People who know how to control their emotions will understand how terrible the Cold War is and that problems in marriage must be solved in time, preferably overnight.

No irony

We often describe some people? Hard mouth and soft heart? Like my neighbor's ball. Her name is lovely, but she is already the mother of a six-year-old child.

Qiuqiu is a very virtuous woman. We can often see her taking her children to buy food, cook and do housework. I always thought it would be profitable for her husband to marry such a woman.

However, Qiuqiu has a particularly bad habit, that is, no matter what others say, she likes to say the opposite, especially to her husband.

My husband said that someone from our company was traveling, and the photos were good. The ball would say, yes, nice person, and you?

My husband said that the weather is very hot these days and the house is very stuffy. She would say, yes, you just have the money to buy an air conditioner.

My husband said, I bought you a bag. See if you like it. Bohr said that you have a conscience, but that's what you should do.

My husband said that you work hard at housework, and the ball said, yes, I haven't seen you share it.

My husband said, I am very busy recently, and I have to work overtime. The ball said, when are you not busy? You are busier than the president.

In fact, as we all know, this is not what the ball wants to say. She wants to say, honey, you have worked hard, and I feel very happy now. I am very happy that you are good to me. I still hope you can help me spend more time with me.

However, she just can't say what she wants to express in the right language and way. She has done so much in her marriage, but because she likes to say irony, her husband can't feel the warmth of this family.

We often think that women like Qiuqiu are very unlovable, but this is really a loss. There are many things to do, but not as good as a talking woman.

A smart woman must know how to express herself in time in marriage, and also know how to cultivate a soft appearance, run a good marriage and get the best happiness.

Don't expose shortcomings

Smart women must know that men are the best-faced creatures in the world, and even timid men want their women to give them face, because men have heroic complex and want their women to worship themselves.

Just like Nan in Struggle, I don't like Yang Xiaoyun always talking about his shortcomings, although I know nothing. When Yang Xiaoyun exposes his shortcomings again and again in front of many people, he will fly into a rage and fall in love with a girl who is willing to worship him.

In fact, many women are like this in reality. They always feel that exposing a man's shortcomings makes them feel good, but forget that hurting a man's self-esteem again and again is actually pushing him further and further.

You see, many men who cheat are actually incompetent men. Because they don't get the respect they deserve from their wives, they have to go to women outside to seek this feeling. So, they use deception to make those women feel that they are very powerful, so as to achieve such a balance.

Really powerful men never need to cheat to prove their charm, because they don't lack love at all.

Of course, so do women. Many men like to belittle their wives in order to show off themselves, but this will not only make their wives really surrender to themselves, but will make them more and more chilling.

Really smart couples must praise each other in marriage, because good children are boasted and good marriages are boasted.

Don't dig up old scores.

No matter how loving a couple is, they want to divorce 50 times in their lives and kill each other 100 times. However, this does not affect the lifelong love of these couples.

Smart couples are all finished after quarreling. When they were sleeping, they didn't remember the reason for yesterday's quarrel at all, and they didn't remember the old sesame seeds and rotten millet in their hearts, letting them rot and give birth to bad seeds.

Colleagues said that he really hated digging up old scores when his wife quarreled. Things that happened many years ago can be taken out at this time. The real problem has not been solved, but the contradiction has intensified.

Marriage is a patch on one wound after another. Don't always try to open these scars. After a long time, scars will never heal, become scar tissue and become a lifelong pain.

Quarrel must be practical, solve the problem and let bygones be bygones. People who know how to control their emotions will certainly do so.

A good marriage needs the joint efforts of two people, and a good marriage will definitely make you better and better. Learning to control your emotions is a compulsory course in marriage. Only by continuous cultivation and continuous improvement can this relationship move towards a better future.

Hurting people with words is the stupidest thing. Never be a fool in marriage, be a person who will love and be loved.