What are the customs of inviting wine in Guangzhou?

If you marry a chicken, follow the chicken, and if you marry a dog, you should follow the customs of my hometown in Guangzhou. When in Rome, do as the Romans do.

Negotiation on issues such as banquet and wedding, ritual gifts, red envelopes, dowry, etc.

(1) Use cake sheep, acacia, Jiahe, latex paint, live chicken or printed cloth for marriage proposal. -"Leading the way chicken" means good luck.

(2) Gifts

Premarital gifts are the most solemn and important, and the betrothal money, betrothal gift and dowry mutually agreed by the two families should be fulfilled on this day. On this day, the man's family filled all kinds of betrothal gifts prepared in advance with food boxes, boxes and reeds, stuck red cypresses, or picked or carried them, and the man's aunt and sisters sent them to the woman's family in a mighty way. It is common for a man to send a whole pig and whole sheep in a "gift", so there is a lyric of "giving a gift to a pig" in folk songs. Cake food is also a must-have, and it is a "big cake". There are more than a dozen kinds of cakes, ranging from one to several kinds according to the conditions of each family and the degree of extravagance, as well as roast pork, chicken, goose, duck, fish and steamed cakes.

when the woman receives the gift from the man, she immediately sends the dowry that was originally scheduled to the man. Mainly for daily necessities, such as clothes, quilts, pillows and mats, as well as wardrobes, dressing tables, suitcases, eight immortals tables, bedding items, refrigerators, televisions and rice cookers.

"Gifts" are usually held on the day before the wedding ceremony, and the atmosphere is very strange and festive. Those aunts and sisters who send gifts are usually dressed up and dressed up, and they choose a crowded road to tell each other happy events along the way.

(3) Receiving the bride

Generally, it includes three links, namely, building or warming the house, welcoming the bride and returning to the house, which lasts for three days. Shop or warm house on the first day, welcome the guests on the second day, and return to the door on the third day. The customs in Huizhou are different. The wedding basically refers to welcoming the bride and delaying the bride. As for welcoming the bride (that is, receiving the bride), it mainly includes several main customs such as paving the house, welcoming the bride in a sedan chair, sprinkling salt rice, stepping on the concave column across the fire and so on.

1. bunking

bunking is an old custom that has continued to this day. It is a custom for a woman's sister-in-law to help decorate her new house when she sends her dowry to her husband. Pay attention to two points. First, pay attention to the orientation and feng shui of the beds, cabinets and dressing tables. The most important thing is that the wardrobe mirror can't face the bed. Mirror is synonymous with shining a demon, and it is obviously unlucky to shine a demon mirror on the bed. Second, people who shop houses should have a "good life". People believe that the standard of a good life is mainly "many children and many blessings". Therefore, widows, infertile or infertile women are not allowed to participate in the shop, and those who have many children and many blessings are naturally the main participants in the shop.

2. Flower Night

On the day before the bride's wedding, the sisters-in-law (who must choose the so-called lucky person) of the clan should dress and dress the bride specially, which is called "flower arranging" by the people. This night, the folk custom is also called "Flower Night", which is a very solemn ceremony before the bride's wedding.

When performing this ceremony, the bride is often accompanied by crying and singing. At that time, when the bride is facing a major turning point in her life, she is usually very emotional. The bride cries sadly and stays up all night, which shows a traditional wedding atmosphere of "happiness and sadness".

3. The float welcomes the new

Drumming all the way. After arriving at the girl's home, the girl's sisters refused to leave the door, and the groom quickly sent "Li Li". After passing through the sisters, the bride could be taken out. The bride cried and refused to leave, and the male family used both hard and soft methods to coax her out of the boudoir and get on the bus. The groom also gave the driver a "profit".

4. Sprinkle salt rice

When picking up the bride, put some salt, rice, black sesame and other things in advance, that is, sprinkle them along the road on the way to pick up the bride, which is called offering sacrifices to the bridge god; What was sown along the road was to sacrifice to the road god.

The custom of sprinkling salt and rice is actually a variation of the habit of "sprinkling corn beans" in Chinese traditional marriage customs. "Sagu bean" is mostly a relic in the north, but it is not common in the south.

5. Cover your head, step on the concave fence and cross the fire.

When the bride gets home, this is the groom holding a fan and fanning each other. If the elder sister-in-law of the man's family is in the same position, they must use covers (bamboo containers), screens and other things to shield them from meeting the bride directly. Folks believe that the bride's good fortune is the head, and her murderous look is very strong. The groom uses a fan to fan it, which means "weakening her murderous look", and people avoid seeing it, which means "avoiding her murderous look". In some places, when the bride gets off the sedan chair, the groom blocks the back of the bride's head with a concave column (a container edited by the editor). According to the folk saying, all married women should be filial, even if they get on the sedan chair and go to the man's house, they should turn back step by step, and the groom's concave column is famous for covering the bride's line of sight of constantly turning back. This practice is to make the bride concentrate on marrying the man's house and not always think about her family.

In addition to the custom of covering the head, there is also the habit of stepping on the fence. As soon as the bride gets off the bus, the male family quickly lays a concave fence in front of the bride's feet, so that the bride can step on it. The folk call it "the pedal concave fence turns with the nest", which is very famous. This is to let the bride concentrate on being a cow and a horse in the male family's "nest" after passing the door.

It is customary to let the bride cross the fire when stepping over the concave fence to enter the house. Even if there is no special brazier, some old people will grab a handful of grass and burn it at the door for the bride to cross. This custom is called "cross-fire" in the north. In some places, it is a trans-carbon fire, which is a relatively long folk custom. He has two intentions. One is to take the word "Wang". After the bride crosses the handle of Wang Huo, she will bring "Wang Huo" to her husband's family in the future. The other is to use the word "avoid", mainly to avoid evil worship. Folk people think there are two sources of "evil". One is that when they get married, the audience is like a cloud, among which there are inevitably some people who have funeral and illness at home. Folk people think that they have evil worship, while Huizhou calls these people "jealous"; Another evil source comes from the bride herself, and a woman's body is "dirty", which is an old traditional concept in China.

Although it takes the meaning of "flourishing fire", it is mainly to ward off evil spirits. The things such as flourishing grass, silk grass, and picking cards burned in the brazier are all traditional things to ward off evil spirits in China. In particular, "wangcao" and "plastering medicine" are all protective drugs that people use to ward off evil spirits.

6. Holding candles

After taking the bride home, before the bride enters the bridal chamber, the boy first holds the candles and puts them in the bridal chamber. The folk song also sings the cloud: "Hold the candle and hold it to the bride's room (the meaning of the end, or the innermost meaning)."

one by one, according to the customary practice, you should first choose a boy (generally, there are many brothers in the family), pick up the bride with the wedding procession (at this time, you have already held the candle), and then take it back or directly hold the candle in the bridal chamber for placement. This should be because it is vulgar to serve children. Taking boys with many brothers as the introduction, lighting incense for the bride and beautiful woman will attract children and grandchildren.

7. Drum music for welcoming the bride

The whole process of "picking up the bride" is generally non-stop. The "gongs and drums cabinet" is mainly composed of gongs and drums, cymbals and cymbals, with suona. The drum band played back and forth with the wedding procession, which rendered the festive atmosphere.

(4) Bride who is lagging behind

When the bride arrives home, she first visits the church, pays homage to the ancestors of heaven and earth, pays homage to her parents' hall, and offers tea to the elders of the male family in turn, which is called "drinking bride tea"; And the elders have to write back the "Li" package to wish the newlyweds good luck. After the ceremony, it will be a big banquet "and the bride's wine".

after the wedding banquet, people can't wait to pour into the new house. First, we should "eat bride's tea and smoke bride's cigarettes". According to the rules, the bride should light each tea one by one. At this time, people often let the boiling tea pour full and deliberately let the bride burn it. And deliberately blew out the fire that the bride lit, leaving the bride at a loss; Later, let the bride walk on a long wooden bench a few inches wide, which is called "crossing the overpass" The two ends of the bench are easy to tilt, and the middle is only one palm wide, so that people walk on it unsteadily, and some troublemakers deliberately break the foot of the bench in advance so that the bride can fall off the bench. As for asking the bride and groom to bite candy and say obscene words to the bride, it is common. The further down, the more chaotic the order. Some secretly stab the back of the bride's neck with barbed objects such as loose needles, or spray pepper on the bride's face, and push it left and right. Sister-in-law's sister-in-law who came with her family tried her best to persuade her to support her, but it didn't help. The bride also forced a smile, but sweat and tears streamed down her face. This trick on the bride is often delayed until late at night.

the habit of "listening to the room" is also a new house. Generations have hit each other, and even today, the legacy of this marriage custom is faintly visible.

(5) Going back to the bride's home in three dynasties

On the day after the wedding, the bride gets up early to serve her family, and welcomes relatives and neighbors who visit her during the day. On the third day, she will make some gifts and go back to her parents' home with the groom early in the morning, which is called "Going back to the bride's home in our dynasty". It is a very particular etiquette in Huizhou traditional wedding customs. If it is said that proposing a bride, giving a blessing, settling a deal, reporting to the Japanese newspaper and giving a big gift are pre-wedding ceremonies, and welcoming a bride and delaying the bride are wedding ceremonies, then it is a wedding or ceremony to return to the door in three dynasties.

Huimen in the Three Dynasties was closely related to the custom of "beating a husband" in ancient times. When describing the custom of "beating a husband" in the Northern and Southern Dynasties, the book "Miscellaneous Women in Xiyang" said: "On the day when a husband worships the pavilion (the house where women live), the women in the husband's family gather together, and each takes pleasure in beating a husband with a stick, to the greatest extent."

Also known as "delayed groom", it is similar to the habits of "beating a husband" and "playing a husband" in form and content. According to Huizhou's custom, the first thing a couple does when they arrive at the Yue family is to meet their parents-in-law, and then meet all the relatives in the family one by one. When visiting the sisters in the clan, they often start to "lag the groom". According to the traditional customs, the groom goes to the ancestors of the Yue family and the four gods of the Yue family house. At this time, it is convenient for the sisters to boo at one side, or let the groom worship several times to prevent him from getting up; Or let Xinlang kneel down frequently and not let it be intermittent; Some good people will drag the groom to the henhouse or pigsty, saying that they want the groom to worship the god of henhouse or pigsty, but in fact they are teasing the groom. If the groom does not obey, the sisters will forcibly "enforce the law", making the groom have to obey.

after the ceremony, the Yue family gave a banquet for her husband. During the dinner, Yue Zhang and the elders in the clan asked the groom to solve some pairs and problems, saying that it was a test of the groom's talent, but it was actually a dilemma for the groom; And those good sisters, at this time, copied the practice of "delaying the bride" to tease the groom, making the groom flustered.

Although the "delayed groom" is not as good as the "delayed bride" in degree, the Yues' sisters always point their finger at the groom, which is roughly a kind of "revenge" for the bride being teased in the men's house.

It is a custom of Huizhou traditional marriage to go back to the door in three dynasties after the wedding, so the etiquette is quite particular. When returning to the door, the first gift is chicken, which is called "leading the way chicken" by the people. This is a necessary auspicious thing. The rest of the gifts, such as fish, meat, goose, seafood, delicacies, cakes, etc., are all yours. For these gifts, the male family usually prepares one more, such as two pieces of meat and two pieces. After the female family receives the gift, it is customary to go back to the male family for one piece. Others, such as big oranges, are also indispensable. If there is no big orange, it must be replaced by oranges. The big orange means "good luck", and after the bride's family receives the gift. And give it back to the man's orange (Ji).

except those who are married from a long distance, the marriage takes place in the city and the suburbs. In the three dynasties, the Yues usually invite their husbands, brides and sisters-in-law to have a meal, then make some gifts and return the same day.

Among the envoys returning to the Protocol, there are red hair cakes and red gathered cakes steamed by my mother-in-law, and "leading the way" is indispensable. Huizhou also has the custom of returning home in January after marriage. In return, my mother-in-law steamed a big cage (a kind of glutinous rice sweet cake) and my mother-in-law steamed the cake.

Booking a banquet 1. Generally, you choose a lucky wedding day to get married, and you usually need to book in advance.

2. When making a reservation for a banquet, there should be clear requirements for the host family seats, while there are no special restrictions for other guests. Most of them are on a first-come-first-served basis or made by the host family.

3. It is suggested to arrange the location for the guests in advance to avoid improper arrangement due to hurry. In particular, some relatives and friends may have feelings that are not harmonious or distant, so as to avoid misunderstanding, it is best to arrange seats in advance systematically and assign station numbers so that guests can get into their places safely.

4. When booking a banquet, the name of the banquet hall must be listed on the order form, so as to avoid the crowded location or scattered seats and no complaints in the future. 5. In terms of dishes, you should check with the banquet department in detail, pay attention to some bluff words, such as "Auspicious Seafood" or "A Hundred Years of Harmony between Dragon and Phoenix", and clearly specify the contents of the dishes. Abalone or shark's fin, whether the suckling pig is whole or part, should be clearly listed.

6. When making a reservation, don't forget to arrange a lounge for newcomers, and ask if there is safe equipment. The bride's room should not be too far away from the place where the banquet is held, and the area should not be too narrow. Please ask if there are any facilities for hanging evening dresses and ironing. F}u'A,Hc

7. Ask clearly the price of each service, such as tea, bottle opening fee, beer, soda, snacks before dinner and numerous service fees. 8. Before paying the deposit, you should ask what the deposit will do if the wedding banquet is cancelled due to bad weather or unexpected events, and whether you want to compensate for the losses. Don't forget to ask for a deposit receipt. It is necessary to be clear about the amount of seats that can be increased or decreased and how to deal with the remaining banquets. .

9. The attendance rate of guests should be taken into account when budgeting the number of banquets, so as to avoid some embarrassing situations due to insufficient or exceeding guests.

1. The fees and scope of services should be clearly set out in black and white, and no promises should be made verbally.

the gift is to return immediately after the wedding, at least half of it. When people arrived at the banquet, they returned at that time, and when they were away, they returned later. It means to give and take, to treat guests as a courtesy, and on the other hand, to say a word, which represents Geely.