Loneliness is a good weather for a person.

Mr. Lin Yutang once said: Take the word loneliness apart, there are children, melons, puppies and mosquitoes, which are enough to prop up an alley in the midsummer evening and are full of human feelings. Young children hold melons and willows under the shed, and fine dogs chase butterflies in narrow lanes. The world is bustling with laughter, and I am the only one who has leisure. Children's fruits, cats, dogs and flies may have nothing to do with you. This is loneliness.

Are you lonely now?

If your answer is not lonely, then you must have been lonely at some point, although it was short-lived, just like me.

There are two kinds of loneliness, one is inner loneliness, that is to say, although there are many classmates and friends around you, even colleagues, they can't enter your heart. You feel that people who are not in the same world with them have no common language and won't open their hearts and speak your mind.

One is the loneliness of environment. Go to work alone, get off work alone, sleep alone, eat alone, go shopping alone, or even eat hot pot alone. No matter what you do, you are lonely and have no friends.

I have had both kinds of loneliness, and the deepest feeling is that loneliness is not terrible, because it is a kind of growth, and this feeling of loneliness is only temporary for a moment.

Just like everyone's life, it is a staged experience.

Everything has two sides. This experience brought me not only bad feelings, but also growth.

I remember when I just reported to the company last month, I moved into the dormitory alone with my luggage. Looking at the empty dormitory, I was shocked. There is no furniture, no tools, no kitchen utensils, and the light bulb is broken, leaving only a separate bed board.

When I wanted to move the bed to another room and to the door, I found that the bed area could not leave the door of the room at all; When I tried to replace the broken light bulb, I found that my height was not enough, and there were no tools in the room at that time.

My heart is broken, thinking about why I choose a person to live in a strange city. I should go to my friend.

The solution is always more difficult than the reality. After a while, I finally cleaned up my house. Two rooms, one living room, one kitchen and one bathroom are actually quite good to tidy up.

From the beginning of fear, I have to lock the door again and again when I sleep, and now I sleep until dawn every day. From the initial collapse to the present enjoyment, such a change is unexpected to me.

Now, I still live alone and work alone, but I enjoy the loneliness of this environment. Because it is a state-owned enterprise, it usually has regular working hours and is free after work.

Go to bed early and get up early at regular intervals every day, walk to the company for about 15 minutes in the morning, enjoy breakfast happily, arrange work for the day, occasionally work overtime after work, sometimes exercise, or read books and catch up with plays, go out with three or two friends on weekends, or sleep in and read books in the dormitory. Life is simple and ordinary.

In the days when I study alone, I feel that my heart has become more firm than before. Besides being able to bear the loneliness of the environment, I am full of hope for the future. Gradually, I have a different view of life outside. I may jump out of the door of the system in the near future and roll in the rough waters. Although I don't know how much it will stir up, at least I won't regret it in the future.

The other is inner loneliness, with no one to tell and no place to vent. We need to solve it ourselves slowly. Positive guidance will stimulate self-success, and negative extension will lead to some bad psychological diseases or even extinction.

I once saw such a news on Douban: a 19-year-old student committed suicide by jumping off a building. The main reason is that he is gay and not accepted by this society, especially patriarchy.

He wrote in his suicide note, "He doesn't need to blame anyone for leaving, it's his own free choice. After living in this land for 19 years, I am more and more aware that everything is irreversible. "

He can even imagine jumping off a building and dying. He wrote in his suicide note, "The nameless organ may be the brains splashed on the greening plants, and the black blood is constantly oozing out." From the moment he fell from the building, he had given up the world and communication with everyone.

His heart is lonely, no one can walk into his loneliness.

In the end, only the tears of relatives are left.

In fact, whether it is environmental loneliness or inner loneliness, it varies from person to person, and some people need to spend a long time to solve it; For some people, it is very short-lived.

Because loneliness is the normal state of life. You should learn to be patient, after all, life is so long.

Happiness is over, sadness is over, why not choose to laugh at life?

Finally, I share a passage from Liu Tong: "If life remains unchanged, my attitude towards life will change. Boredom seems boring, but after boredom, there are often endless words. Many things in life will be super beautiful only if you really insist on doing them. I used to think it was good that many people liked me, but later I thought it was good to always like someone. Remember to live every year and see your own changes every year, so you won't be afraid of getting old. "

Good luck!

—— The article was first published in "Be Happy" of WeChat official account.

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