How to treat anxiety and fear?

Everyone has anxiety and fear at times, so we don't need to take them too seriously, nor should we be overly anxious or afraid.

Anxiety is a kind of mood when a person encounters some things to deal with and is under great pressure. You are anxious, which means that you are worrying about this matter and thinking about ways to solve it. This matter is very important to you and needs to be solved urgently, resulting in an inner feeling. Proper anxiety can make you more focused, while excessive anxiety will affect your physical and mental health.

fear is a kind of fear, an inner feeling. This has been around since childhood, and everyone is afraid of something. Sometimes anxiety is also caused by fear. Because of fear, you are anxious. The more anxious you are, the more afraid you are.

Anxiety and fear are normal emotional reactions. Anyone may have anxiety, but it is not as big as illness. If your anxiety is serious enough to affect your work and life, then you may really need to see a doctor.

Anxiety is unnecessary or excessive nervousness, fear and fidgeting, and when you are anxious, you will also have dry mouth, sweating, rapid heartbeat, trembling, frequent urination and other manifestations. Some special anxiety attacks even have a sense of near death, or evolve into obsessive-compulsive disorder. Although anxiety disorder belongs to the category of neurosis, the disease experience of anxiety disorder is very unhappy, so you should see a doctor as soon as possible if you can't adjust yourself.

Some people are naturally anxious about anything, which we call anxious personality. Such people will be burdened by their own personality in their work and life, learn to let nature take its course, and do whatever it takes. If they don't deliberately worry about what hasn't happened, they will gradually stop worrying. If you are so anxious that you can't do anything for a while, you can take an anti-anxiety drug temporarily. For example, I have taken buspirone myself, which is safe, with few side effects and not calm. I'm a psychiatrist, don't worry, listen to me!

Anxiety disorder is a kind of neurosis, which also includes depression, obsessive-compulsive disorder, phobia, hypochondria, neurasthenia and so on.

The manifestations of anxiety disorder are anxiety, nervousness and fear for no reason, and neurological dysfunction also occurs at the same time: chest tightness, palpitation, shortness of breath, sweating, trembling all over, etc.

You can consult a professional doctor about the cause and treatment. I'm here to talk about the vicious circle of three levels mentioned by writer Ke Yunlu in his book Anxiety Disorder.

first, the vicious circle between mental illness and career. If you can't bear the pressure in your life and career, you will have anxiety. On the other hand, if you have anxiety, you will have bigger problems in your life and career. The more you can't do anything, the more anxious Liu is, the more you can't do anything, and the result is that you are stuck in it.

second: the vicious circle between physiology and psychology. Because of anxiety, the body is uncomfortable and uncomfortable, and because of these discomfort, the heart is even more anxious.

third: the vicious circle between several neurosis.

It's true that when you have anxiety disorder, you have all kinds of restrictions in your thoughts and actions, and this restriction aggravates the anxiety disorder. If you want to cure anxiety, you have to get rid of this vicious circle. The following suggestions are made.

1. I believe that anxiety disorder can be cured and eventually recovered. Remind yourself from time to time with this mentality and strengthen your self-confidence.

2. since anxiety is a disease, there is a process, and it can't be cured in one day or two. Give yourself a relatively natural environment. Everything has an anxious side and a relaxed side. It will be much better to think on the loose side, let it go and relax your emotions.

Of course, I'm not a professional doctor, so I can't give more professional advice, so I said my feelings, hoping to help.

The question to be answered today is: How to treat anxiety and fear? Let's compare them first. What's the difference? If a woman, her son is in hospital because of "urticaria". She always has a fear that her son will die at night. In fact, she went to the doctor, who told her that the disease would not die. But she is still worried that her son will die. This kind of worry is "anxiety" rather than "fear".

A person is going to visit relatives tomorrow. On the way to relatives' home, there is a mountain road. He was very anxious and scared tonight. He is afraid that it will rain on his way tomorrow. He is worried that it will rain, and he will slip on this road. What should he do if there is danger? This thing didn't happen, but he had the fear that this thing brought him. Is this fear "fear"? No! It's not fear, it's anxiety. Ok! So anxiety and fear, slowly came out.

The disease of "urticaria" is an incurable disease. That is to say, her son is dying, and she is very anxious now. What is this anxiety? It is not real anxiety, it is fear. Because her son is really going to die, she is afraid. If the second person visiting relatives is really walking on the mountain road, it is raining heavily, and the road is very rough, and he has several falls. At this time, he was very, very afraid, and this fear was real fear, not anxiety. Why? Because things are happening. The first point is the difference between "anxiety" and "fear"

So from this point of view, the difference between "anxiety" and "fear" lies in: one is the worry that has not happened yet; One is the fear that is happening. So "anxiety" didn't happen but I felt afraid; And "fear" is happening and I feel a kind of worry and anxiety. After this distinction is made. You can compare the two. At once, it was compared with many problems in real life.

so it's different when we comfort different people and help them. People who help "anxiety" are different from those who help "fear". Right! Help the "fearful" person, because he is experiencing a real fearful event, so we should give him more support. What about helping the "anxious" person? We should let him jump out and see that he is not in the fear event, but he is worried too much. The second point is the value and characteristics of anxiety < P > With this, let's talk about the second point is the value and characteristics of anxiety. Why is there "anxiety"? There is an inverted "U" theory on the theory of anxiety. (The "U" is inverted, which is like the lowercase letter N) What about this inverted "U", which is equivalent to an anxious line. If our anxiety is zero here, we will continue to go up, and when we get here, it will be ten, twenty, thirty and forty, and when we get to the top here, it will be fifty. Then this 5-point, anxious 5-point is the time when a person is most efficient in doing things.

why? Because anxiety makes people start a mechanism to pay more attention; More focused; Pay more attention to this matter; More involved in this matter. If this person is not anxious at all, then he is careless, and this matter is definitely inefficient. So we let others do the work, and we want to make him feel anxious.

but if we give him too much anxiety, we say, if you can't do it, you can't do it well today, and I will fire you tomorrow. This person's anxiety ranges from 5 to 6, 7, 8 and 9. Let's look at 5, 6, 7, 8 and 9, and we'll come down. After coming down, that is to say, the higher the anxiety score, the lower the efficiency of this person. He has been anxious: what should I do? What should I do like this? How about tomorrow? What if I don't do well? All right! It's over. He has been immersed in anxiety. His work efficiency suddenly dropped.

So anxiety is a good thing. A certain degree of anxiety will make a person take one thing seriously and concentrate on one job, so that this person can concentrate on doing it well. But after the anxiety is too high, its efficiency will decline. So the value of anxiety is that it can make people start a state of work-the state of engagement. The characteristic of anxiety is that it can't be done without anxiety, and it can't be done with anxiety. This is about anxiety, and that's all we have to say. The third point is the value and characteristics of fear

and then we will talk about fear. When a person is afraid, he will start the defense mechanism: I am experiencing a dangerous environment. There is a snake in front. This snake is a poisonous snake. If you bite me, I'm dead. So I'm going to start a state of defense, so that I can be vigilant and not be hurt to save myself. So fear, first of all, one of its primitive instincts is to save your life, to save yourself from harm-this is the value of fear.

everyone thinks: one doesn't know how terrible fear is. Standing on the edge of the cliff, you look at the bottom and you feel happy and fun, then it's over. A "feeling mechanism of fear" will be activated immediately in your mind, and you will feel very scared. Step back quickly, so that you won't fall. So fear protects people. We said, "Fear is not terrible. It is terrible not to be afraid and not to know fear. "

There is a saying that "all drowning people can swim". Why? Because he can swim, his fear is not strong. So he might go into the waters of some strange places. He didn't understand, and as a result, a whirlpool spiraled in, and a weed under it bound him, which blocked him and prevented him from getting up. And the person who can't swim and can't swim is afraid, and he's afraid to go there. He's always groping around that side. Oh, don't fall in, so he won't die. Why can't it drown? Because he is careful.

Therefore, we should correctly understand these so-called negative emotions, fear and anxiety. They are all an instinctive need in our evolution. Because of some instincts we have evolved, the first function is to save our lives first, and the second function is to protect our survival so that we can survive and develop. This is my answer to this question, thank you!

About the author:

Wei Zhizhong, member of NLD, member of Chinese Psychological Association, second-level psychological counselor and psychological supervisor. Engaged in psychological consultation and psychological education for 18 years, published 17 psychological works and more than 6 papers. Visiting professor and invited researcher of China Environmental Protection University, Guangzhou University and Wuhan University. He has been interviewed and reported by hundreds of media such as People's Daily and southern window. He is currently the president of Guangzhou Heart Ribbon Psychological Volunteers Association and the president of Wei Zhizhong's psychological online school, which has more than 2, students.

I'm Zuo Shu, a psychology teacher who is engaged in psychology and mental health education. Let me answer your question.

Yes, how to treat anxiety and fear? I will answer your question from two aspects.

first, anxiety is a manifestation of fear; Specifically speaking, first of all, fear is an emotional reaction such as worry and nervousness, which is a psychological reaction of human beings and human individuals when they face the threat of external beasts or natural disasters. This is a defensive psychology developed by us in the long evolution process. When we encounter danger and threats, we will show psychological activities such as fear, worry and nervousness, which is called anxiety in psychology, such as anxiety, fear and even panic. Secondly, anxiety also comes from our repression of satisfying our desires (various psychological needs). For example, if you get up late in the morning and don't eat breakfast, you will have a meeting as soon as you get to work. You will take breakfast to the meeting room and eat it at the meeting, but you are worried that the leader will see the criticism, so you will show fear emotionally and secretly eat, but your heart is still uneasy.

Secondly, from the philosophical and psychological point of view, anxiety, fear and other emotional reactions are all worries about our own living conditions; For example, if you need a job, you will be worried and afraid without it, and you will have to worry about three meals a day; However, with a job, you feel that there is too much work pressure and you feel that you can't do the job well. You will also be worried and afraid, that is, psychological pressure in psychology is manifested as anxiety; From the nature of human animals, anxiety (fear) is an innate psychological function. People can't do without anxiety. It is our instinctive response to defend against external threats. However, anxiety is not enough. If people are often in anxiety, they will be too alert and often in an alert state, which will affect our physical and mental health, leading to our irritability, excitability and even impulsiveness, which will turn into anxiety for a long time.

Therefore, anxiety is necessary, but excessive anxiety is a pathological phenomenon, and we must grasp the boundary of moderate anxiety.

Thank you again for your invitation to psychology teacher Zuo Shu!

anxiety and fear are common psychological states of modern people. There are many reasons for the formation of such emotions, such as work, marriage, children's education, etc., which can bring you emotional fluctuations. It can be said that as long as you step into life, you may be troubled by this aspect, so it is necessary to know how to deal with the emotions here. The following suggestions are for your reference.

1. Are the things you are anxious about in the future? You think about the way to deal with that matter in advance prematurely and think it over and over again many times. If it is something to be reversed in the future, then what you are afraid of is not this thing, but the fear itself, so you don't have to be anxious and afraid of an idea.

2. If this thing is going to happen, then don't run away. First of all, accept the existence of this matter from your heart, and then make a list. What is the worst possible result of this matter? Then try to accept these worst results, and you will relieve a lot of anxiety and fear.

3. In fact, those things that you are anxious about, even if they do happen, you will definitely deal with them bravely. The reason for anxiety is that you are afraid of what you are anxious about. You have to escape and don't want to face it. You hope to avoid it by your own methods. But you should know that many things in life are unpredictable. You just have to take this step in front of you. It happened and you are destined to face it.

4. No matter how anxious you are and how often you think of anxious things, don't stop what you are doing. Going to work and living normally can help you not to be limited to those things in your mind.

5. Remember: any fear is a paper tiger, it just tests your patience, determination and courage.

fear is you, and you are fear.

Because all fears come from your original memory, a person has never seen, heard or realized death, and he will not have any fear of death, only in his memory.