What should I do if I feel like I'm going to collapse when I take care of my children?

One person takes care of children, depending on how many. If a person takes one, it will collapse, that is, he will really only have children and will not raise them. I am also a baby mother. I always take care of the children alone. I don't feel too tired. Think about how many children in a family have come with others in the past few years, and your mood will be calm. First of all, we must have a good attitude. Children are our own, which is our darling. Looking at them is happy. It is a happy thing to grow up with children every day. Only when we like children will we feel happy to see them. If we are calm, we will naturally not feel very tired. In addition, there are certain skills in taking care of children. Learn more and master some basic knowledge so as not to be in a hurry. Finally, it is natural for women to look after children. Don't be impatient. If they can't even take care of their children, what can they do?

I can understand this feeling, because a new mother, taking care of her children, has to start from scratch.

I want to say, if you can't hold it, you will collapse. Don't cry, but don't cry in front of the children. Wipe your tears after crying. You are another good mother.

When the child was full moon, the new moon expired and left. My mother-in-law went home to prepare a full moon wine for her children, but my mother can't come yet.

Those three days were my most helpless and even desperate days.

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The baby doesn't sleep, but there is no way.

The hot weather covered the child's face with eczema. The child's full moon is in the middle of 10, and the weather is not too cold. At noon, the sun is hotter than the summer sun.

The child was taken care of by the new moon. After a month, the new moon left. I couldn't coax her, so I cried. So breastfeeding, the weather is hot, with a breast pillow, the child is sweating while eating, thinking about taking it off to cool the baby, and she can cry when she takes it off. Fix it for me. There's nothing I can do.

I endured the heat, and after feeding, my back was soaked. I gave the child to my husband and held it all the time, because I cried when I put it down. We have no idea why. Don't let her go until she is tired of crying and falls asleep. At this time, I looked at the red spots on my child, and my heart collapsed in an instant.

At night, children may be familiar with the taste of the new moon. My husband and I can't hold each other. Finally, we couldn't sleep. My husband sings when he sleeps. Sometimes if he learns the new moon, he will put the child to sleep, so he won't put it down and sleep all the time.

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Give the child the first shot of vaccine.

When the baby was full moon, we went to the community health clinic on Monday and saw the baby with a doctor, saying it was still a little yellow. Let's go to the hospital to check jaundice again.

When I arrived at the hospital, it was past 8 o'clock on my forehead. I had to go home and get more sunshine, so I couldn't get an injection.

Because it is still a little cold in the morning, I am afraid that the children will be cold. I gave the child a small quilt and a big quilt. At the health clinic, the child was red in the face with heat. But the child seems to know something and has been sleeping quietly, which has not brought us much trouble. I'm really afraid that she will burst into tears.

I went to the hospital again and waited in the inpatient department for nearly 20 minutes. I think the room is very hot. It's really hard to look at my little treasure. It's even worse after the exam.

When I got home, I took off my child's schoolbag and found that the child had a rash on his face and legs. There were milk stains on her face, and my husband and I didn't give her a bath, so tears came down in an instant.

Now that I think about it, those days were really hot and unbearable, and I really felt a sense of despair. I thought to myself, people will be happy if they have children. How can you be abandoned by your family? At the saddest time, my emotions were directly transmitted to my husband, who held me helplessly and cried.

Even when he called my mother-in-law, his voice choked and he almost cried. At noon on the third day, my mother-in-law came back, feeling a little at the bottom.

Now that the baby is two and a half months old, my heart is not so anxious. Now the baby only looks for me, and I don't cry in my arms. I'm glad I didn't give birth to her, but the child's digestion is not very good, and I'm still a little worried, but I have a mother-in-law, and I'm not afraid.

When you take care of the children by yourself, you must do everything by yourself. I want to tell you here that it is even harder to be strong, even for the sake of children, you have to live. Children can feel your optimism.

Also, be sure to let your husband take part in taking care of the baby, and don't fight alone, because a person fighting alone will really hit despair.

Finally, good luck!

So, what if a person collapses with a child?

Talk to friends

Compared with working mothers, the life with children is narrower and it is a more closed world. When they collapse, chatting with friends is a good way to release their emotions. When someone understands their inner emotions, they will feel much more comfortable.

Sometimes, things that break us down may not be as serious as we think, but friends will look at them from different angles and may help us clear the fog.

Schedule a time of your own.

When the child falls asleep, watch a movie he wants to watch, listen to his favorite music, do a yoga, or write down his experiences, inner thoughts and feelings in words.

Show the child to her husband for a few hours.

When Mr. Wang comes back from work, you can take him to look after the children for an hour or two and give yourself a break.

Read your favorite book.

Choose a book you like to read. Reading can calm a person's heart, and many difficult problems in life can also be solved from books.

How can a person take care of children to prevent emotional breakdown?

Make more friends.

Many women will become more and more alienated from their friends in the workplace after becoming full-time mothers. At this time, it is a good thing to make more friends with your precious mother. Children can play together, and so can adults. Time will pass quickly, they can share experiences and help each other, which will add more fun to life.

Take the children outdoors more often.

Choose outdoor places close to home and take children out for a walk. Riverside, park, playground, zoo, reading room, etc. Are all good choices. Children can get in touch with new things and meet different people every day, and adults will feel happier.

Find a hobby of your own.

I remember a treasure mother once shared that during the period of taking care of the baby, she made many different handicrafts with old things at home, including all kinds of bags, sofa cushions, diapers and small dolls, which were both interesting and lovely, and at the same time, she could also make handicrafts with her children.

When a person takes care of the children, when the children are naughty and rebellious, the housework is complicated and can never be finished, and there is no one to help all day long, our emotions are easily on the verge of collapse.

If it is not adjusted in time at this time, it may affect the harmony of children and even the whole family.

So, what methods can you adjust your emotions?

1. Watch funny videos or variety shows.

Funny videos have the effect of healing sadness.

While the child is asleep, put aside the housework for a while and sit down and watch funny online videos or variety shows. Laugh a few times more, and you will feel much more relaxed.

2. Have a good sleep.

Some troubles and some negative emotions will automatically fade or disappear after a sleep.

When our inner fortress collapses, perhaps watching our children fall asleep quietly and sleeping with them can make us calm down, clearly analyze our situation, then shake our heads and move on.

3. Talk to friends and relatives.

Speaking is a great weapon to relieve our negative emotions.

As we grow up, get married and have children, it seems that we are suddenly overwhelmed by the triviality of life. There are so many friends who have been out of touch for a long time, and the once sincere friendship has long since disappeared.

Which old friend will we think of when we are depressed? Come to think of it, take the initiative to contact and have a good talk.

After talking, maybe we will feel relaxed and free, and have the courage to laugh at life.

4. Sing or do something that interests you.

Singing helps to vent emotions. While the child is sleeping, shout a few times and vent freely. After that, maybe my mood will calm down again.

Or, do something else that interests you, read a novel, or write something, and write down your thoughts and feelings. Maybe you will feel better.

5. Have a good talk with your father.

Many times, our emotional breakdown is inseparable from the child's father's incomprehension and non-sharing.

A young girl, as a mother, shouldered the heavy responsibility of the family with her narrow shoulders. Without the support and sharing of men, you will feel at a loss after a long time.

The noise of children, the complexity of housework, the confusion of parenting and the indifference of men have gradually destroyed our strength.

At this time, it is necessary for us to talk openly with the father of the child, so that he can understand our difficulties, understand us more and be considerate of us, and then make more contributions to parenting and housework, so as not to be physically and mentally exhausted and on the verge of collapse.

6. Seek outside help.

When your emotional breakdown is difficult to adjust, you can seek the help of your child's grandparents or grandparents to see who is convenient to go home to help you and let you catch your breath.

Really can't. If you are really in a bad mood and are afraid of affecting your children, you can also send your children to your grandparents' house for a few days, and then take them back after I adjust my mental state, so as to welcome a new round of baby-taking time with a sunny attitude.

It is inevitable that a person will have emotional breakdown when raising a baby, and we also have many ways to adjust ourselves.

However, if bad moods happen too frequently, you should consider whether you are not ready to be a full-time mother, whether you are not suitable for taking care of your baby full-time, and it is time to negotiate with your father and make some adjustments to your current situation.

Today, I took my daughter to the park to play. I happened to meet a lady who was alone with a 3-or 4-year-old child. This woman is under 30 years old, but her hair is much whiter. The child is as thin as a monkey.

When chatting, she said that she took care of her children alone, her husband worked in other places, her mother died early, her mother-in-law was in her hometown, and she was sick all the year round, so taking care of her children fell on her alone.

Looking at her haggard appearance, I can't help feeling.

A person's life with children can only be experienced by those who have experienced it. Bathing, cooking, reading picture books, washing clothes, wiping the bottom, mopping the floor, feeding, taking medicine ... Thinking about what children in early childhood interest classes should learn and winning at the starting line is accompanied by deep anxiety.

People around me snore and fall asleep, but they can't sleep after a busy day, which is accompanied by hair loss. The next day, I combed my hair and pulled out the fallen hair from the comb. The heartless person around me is still laughing: there is a depilatory monster in our family!

Why not be sad?

So, dear you, you must know how to cherish yourself.

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When you bring your child to collapse, get social support first, and let your grandparents, grandparents, seven aunts and eight aunts help take care of your child, so that your child can have a chance to catch his breath, chat with his girlfriend, and go shopping to buy things he likes. Say to yourself: hard work!

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Read books and listen to music. Read picture books to children and cultivate their interest in reading. Children can be quiet, and it is naturally easier to bring their own children.

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Take children to the playground, let them play with game equipment, communicate with other children, improve their communication skills, expand their thinking ability and liberate themselves. They just need to pay attention to the safety of their children.

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Invite relatives' children or children's classmates and friends to play in their own homes. They can play together, play house and build blocks, so that they can relax and chat with their parents, talk about their lives with their children, vent their emotions and achieve the effect of relieving stress.

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If you feel too stressed, you must talk to your family or friends and get their gentle comfort and patient care, so that you won't become ill with depression.

The above five points are my little experience, I hope I can help you.

Honey, remember to take care of yourself.

Love yourself

I feel very broken when I take care of my children alone. At this time, there is no other way to stick to it.

It's really tiring to take care of children alone, which can really make people collapse. I know this very well.

When my son was young, my mother-in-law was busy with her own career and had no time to take care of me and my children. My husband went out to work at that time and had no time to help.

I want to take care of my children, open my own shop and cook my own meals. Not only that, the clothes of adults and children are still waiting for me to wash.

When a child can't crawl, it's easy to say, if someone comes to buy something, I will put two pillows on both sides of the child to prevent him from turning over and choking. Every time you cook, you have to wait until the children go to bed, just like marching to fight, grabbing and scrambling in the rice cooker. People are cooking in the kitchen, and their minds are on the children. I have to go into the house every once in a while to see if the child is awake.

Husband can't count on it at all. At night, you wake him up to feed the baby with milk powder. Occasionally, he does it once and a half. If there are many times, he is not good. He can either fall table tennis or pull his face, which is not angry enough. My husband never got up ten times at night during the whole stage of my son's breastfeeding. You can't count on him even during the day. At that time, there were not many jobs, and many times there were no jobs. He didn't help me when he had no job. He hangs out and plays mahjong with others to see old brands, or he goes to his classmates to blow three blows and six whistles.

It's time for dinner. If children don't sleep, adults can only go hungry. It's time for bed. If children don't sleep, adults can only be in a daze. Want to go to the toilet, no one to look after the children, so we have to hold our shit and hold our urine, wait for someone in the store to buy something, and find someone to look after the children for a while. ...

Neighbors saw that I was really tired, so they came to help look after the children when they were free. That's why there is no shortage of people.

Looking back on my life with my children now, I still seem to have a lingering fear. That was a real collapse. It's really crazy

Fortunately, everything survived. Almost in the blink of an eye, my son has grown into a handsome boy.

So, bite the bullet and everything will pass.

Note: The pictures are selected from the Internet.

Dear Ma Bao, taking care of children alone can really break down sometimes. Me, too, Bao Ma. Like you, I have always been alone. My mother-in-law and I have been separated. I have been cooking and eating alone since I was pregnant. My husband goes to work every day, and I am alone. My mother-in-law didn't come to help. I can't say anything until I have a baby. My mother came to help for half a month. Then I asked my mother-in-law for help for one hundred days. After a hundred days, my mother-in-law left. This is me alone.

Every time I take my baby to cook, it's a sloppy job. Just take a bite. My baby eats milk powder. If you don't breastfeed, you don't have to make do. I see her every day. When washing clothes, I teased her while washing. If I don't listen, I will hug her quickly.

The news now is more and more like that Bao Ma got depressed after giving birth to a baby. There are both negative comments and positive comments in the news. Many people say it's easy to have children or take care of them at home. They don't have to work, and they are not satisfied. They really don't know how such a precious mother came over. Their hearts are so strong. When I meet a good husband, I comfort them every day, help them and look after the baby together. When something bad happens to them, they not only

But we must be strong ourselves. We have children, and watching their innocent smiles every day makes me feel particularly beautiful and worthwhile. Their world is only us, and mom is everything to the baby.

I was depressed at first and complained a lot. Every day, like an dissatisfied wife, she is in a bad state. Later, I gradually felt that this was not good, which had a great influence on her. My happiness became my most annoying state, so I gradually figured it out, moved on and thought more positively.

Dear Ma Bao, you can do it too. Think about it every day, go out for a walk more, get better every day, and get better gradually. Let's go

I also have children, and I can understand how you feel. Sometimes, I feel tight in front of my children and can't cry. I think what I'm suffering now is caused by my old brain, and no one can blame me. You can only cheer yourself up and think of the bright side. To put it bluntly, I can't afford to hire a nanny myself, so improve myself and love myself more.

It's really difficult to take care of children alone. Like you, children have to take care of themselves. My mother-in-law helped me a month ago and doesn't want to bring it these days. All kinds of people want to make trouble and try their best to coax you. Usually, I'm bored. Fortunately, my husband understands better, and he will talk about her when he sees her wrong. Sometimes when you are particularly bored, you can divert your attention and listen to music to ease your mood when your child is asleep.