How to effectively drive each other's emotions when chatting?

Then you have to find the point that can arouse the other person's emotions, which is what ta really cares about.

For example, a boy likes cartoons very much, and now many girls like them. If you talk to her about cartoons that everyone is interested in, congratulations on opening the topic, and then find out most of the topics that people want to talk about. For example, Naruto, if you want to talk about Jiraiya and ferrets, you can be interested.

But if the girl opposite likes Korean dramas, it's a pity that you probably can't talk anymore because the other party is not interested in what you are talking about. Because two people are not in the same dimension at all, there is nothing to talk about.

I am just giving an example. I'm not asking people to talk about this hobby. Of course it can be done, but the efficiency is very low and the effect is not obvious. I mean, to find out what she cares about most, you need to have a certain grasp and understanding of the other person, otherwise it is difficult for you to imagine it out of thin air.

Also, it doesn't mean that we can't talk together without common interests, as long as we can find each other's emotional points.

Emotional points are generally annoying things that people think about, and they have always been in their hearts. Girls are generally those trivial things. You tell her that people in your dormitory don't seem to get along very well. I think that xxx, she xxxx. Like this one, a girl can generally tell you her "grievance" like a spill the beans. Be careful, don't talk like this at the beginning, or people will think you are free.

So to sum up, you must have a certain intersection, which seems reasonable and not too abrupt, and then cut into the emotional points she is interested in, and then "tear" her around this principle is absolutely no problem! If you are a girl, you must talk to her!

What the other person cares about is what you want to talk about!