Is there an alcohol rehab facility in Xintian County, Yongzhou, Hunan?

Alcoholics Anonymous* is a group where everyone is in the same boat. All members work together to solve their problems through mutual communication, mutual support and mutual encouragement. solve existing problems and help more people free themselves from alcoholism.

. A desire to quit drinking is the only qualification required to join the association. There are no dues or fees to join A.A.; the association is self-sufficient through donations from its members.

.A.A. is not aligned with any sect, faction, political opinion, organization or institution; it does not wish to be involved in any disputes; it neither supports nor opposes any activities.

.Our main goal is to stay alcohol-free and sane, and to help other alcoholics achieve this goal as well.

We believe we are addicted to alcohol and resolve to stop drinking, no matter what the cost. But over and over again (even hospitalization is ineffective) we can't get rid of the control of alcohol. We are so miserable that we really have a dead end. What can we do to stay sober for a long time?

Here we will introduce some methods that will help you avoid relapse as long as they are implemented carefully.

1. Remember: Alcoholism is an incurable, progressively worsening, and fatal disease.

Alcoholism is a progressively worsening, fatal disease. This disease is caused by the body's sensitivity to alcohol coupled with a psychologically difficult and compulsive desire to drink. Currently, there is no drug or psychotherapy "cure" in the medical community - we cannot simply be hospitalized or take medication to change our traits and return to the normal, moderate social drinking that we experienced in the early days of drinking.

Thousands of alcoholics cannot stop drinking, and not only do we see many alcoholics drink themselves to death - they die from the "withdrawal" syndrome of delirium tremens (D.T.'s) ) or convulsions, or die from cirrhosis of the liver caused by drinking, and there are many more deaths that are not officially attributed to alcoholism but are actually caused by drinking. And when car accidents, drownings, suicides, homicides, heart attacks, fires, pneumonia, or strokes are listed as direct factors of death, the fact is that the alcoholic's heavy drinking behavior contributed to the conditions and direct causes of death.

Most of us are not yet on the verge of the horrific final stages of alcoholism, and so drink now thinking we are far away from that fate. But if we continue to drink, there is no doubt that there is only a dead end.

Many alcoholics who cannot quit drinking will blame their excessive drinking on their weak moral values, or think that it is due to their unbalanced mentality. Yet there is nothing morally wrong with alcoholism because it is a disease. At this stage, it is impossible to overcome it by the power of one's own will alone, because the excessive alcoholic has lost the ability to make free choices in the face of alcohol.

So we don’t need to be embarrassed about our illness, there is nothing shameful about it. It's not our fault, we didn't want to be alcoholics, and we didn't try to get the disease any more than anyone wants to get pneumonia. Experience shows that as long as you have a strong desire to quit drinking, fully understand the seriousness of the problem, and take care of yourself in a way that is free from alcohol and full of happiness, then you can still live a happy, healthy and valuable life like a normal person.

2. Stay away from the first glass of wine

“If you don’t drink the first glass of wine, you won’t get drunk.” “One glass is too much, but twenty glasses are not enough. ”

When we develop from drinking too much to being addicted to alcohol, frequent drunkenness seriously interferes with our life and work, so we reduce the frequency of drinking, or try to control the amount of alcohol to one or two drinks, or Switch from alcoholic drinks to beer or wine to keep yourself from getting too drunk. Maybe we can stay alcohol-free for a while, and then when the opportunity arises (some special occasion, personal confusion, or nothing special at all), we start drinking again, and at first we think of just one drink, since one drink does not cause Regardless of the serious consequences, we feel it is safe to have another drink. But it turns out that's just a trap - when we've had two or three drinks, we feel good about it, and then we think one or two more drinks will be okay given our level of drinking. As a result, we drank too much uncontrollably and returned to our original drunken state.

Doctors who specialize in alcohol dependence tell us that it is the first drink that triggers the underlying desire to drink, which in turn makes us lose control. This repeated experience leads us to conclude that trying to control how much we drink and planning how not to get drunk is impossible, and that avoiding that crucial drink—“never the first drink”—is the key to long-term sobriety.

Alcohol dependence is an addiction to alcohol. Alcohol is a soft drug like any other addictive substance, and the only way we can stay in recovery is to stay away from the first dose of the narcotic that caused our addiction.

3. Use the "24-hour" plan

In the days of alcoholism, we often solemnly swear "never drink again" when we are very uncomfortable. "I vowed not to drink for a year." From the bottom of our hearts, we really didn't want to get drunk again. Of course some people will have reservations: that the pledge is only for "hard liquor", not beer. In fact, beer and wine can also make us drunk, but we need to drink more to achieve the same effect as liquor.

We suffer just as much damage from drunkenness with beer and wine as we do from hard liquor.

However, after a while, the vows and painful memories will be left behind. We started drinking again at some point. Our "forever" never lasts.

Of course, some of them did keep their promise and quit for a long time, maybe 2 months, half a year, or a year, until the time came and we felt that we should be able to drink freely and in a controlled manner... and we started drinking again. , and soon fell into the original troubles, along with new guilt and regret.

Alcohol dependence is a permanent, irreversible disease, and experience tells us all that we should not make a long-term commitment to staying sober. A more practical and effective way to say it is: "I'm just not drinking today."

Maybe we drank yesterday, but we can decide not to drink today. No matter what temptations and irritations we encounter, we try as hard as we can to avoid having that first drink of the day.

If the desire to drink is too strong, then break the 24 hours into smaller units - at least one hour - and we can tolerate the discomfort caused by this temporary suspension, then add one more hour ! One more hour! Keep going. If we succeed today, we have reason to believe we can do it tomorrow.

The "24-hour" plan is very casual. We can start over at any time, no matter where we are. At home, at work, in the hospital room, at 4:00 in the afternoon or 3:00 in the morning, we can decide at any time not to drink for the next 24 hours or 5 minutes.

We're just trying to live today (now) just to stay sane - and it works. Once this way of thinking becomes part of our thinking, we find that living in 24-hour blocks is equally effective and satisfying for dealing with other things.

4. Take action

The more we want to stay away from alcohol, the more lingering thoughts of drinking will linger. So simply staying away from alcohol (or not thinking about it) isn't enough.

Once you stop drinking, how do you spend the free time? Most of us have formal jobs to do, but there is still a lot of free time that must be filled. Therefore, we must develop new hobbies and arrange colorful activities to fill these times, and at the same time find appropriate outlets for the energy that was once addicted to alcohol.

There are many things we can do that are suitable and meaningful for us.

1． In the early stages of quitting drinking, you can take a walk or brisk walk. Especially going to new places you’ve never been before. Go for a leisurely stroll in a park or country lane, but not a tiring march.

2. read. Although some of us cannot make up our minds to read books, we should really read some books to broaden our horizons, increase our life experience, and be more attentive.

3． Visiting a museum or gallery, some people choose photography is also a good idea.

4. Swim, run, bike, yoga, or other exercise recommended by your doctor.

5. Tackle those long-neglected household chores. Organizing wardrobes and dressing tables, filing documents into categories, or dealing with things we have put off for a long time. But when we do these things, we should not be greedy for more and act within our capabilities. Instead of cleaning out the entire kitchen or organizing all the files at once, clean out one drawer or file folder at a time and do the rest another day.

6. Try taking up a new hobby. Choose activities that are not too expensive or demanding, that are purely recreational, that are refreshing and invigorating without the pressure of competition. For example, singing, writing, tropical fish, carpentry, basketball, cooking, bird watching, amateur performances, wood carving, gardening, guitar, movies, dance, stone carving, potted plants, collection, etc. Many people find that the activities they really enjoy now are hobbies they never considered trying.

7. Rediscover the fun of the past. A watercolor painting, billiards or Go game, reading notes, etc. that you have not polished for many years, to continue these hobbies. But if you feel it is no longer suitable for you, just give it up.

8. Go to class. Studying Japanese or English? Love history or math? Want to learn about archeology or anthropology? Or cooking, computer operation, then take correspondence courses, TV universities or adult education (just for interest, not necessarily with a credit certificate). There are also many places that offer classes that only take one day a week, why not give it a try? Taking classes can not only broaden your horizons, but also broaden your areas of life. If you get bored of the class content, don't hesitate to quit immediately. Only by learning to give up activities that are not beneficial to us or have no positive, positive, or healthy meaning can we muster the courage to face it again, and only then can we have the opportunity to experience a new dimension of life besides drinking.

9． Volunteer to do some useful service. Many hospitals, children's service agencies, and social welfare groups are in great need of volunteers to provide various services. We have many choices. When we can contribute to others, even if it is just a trivial service, we will feel particularly useful. We will even feel very interested when talking about the process of participating in these activities and related information. And particularly devoted.

10． Dress yourself up. Most of us know that there are many ways that a new haircut, new clothes, a new pair of glasses, or even new teeth can have unexpected and pleasing results.

11. Play with ease! Not everything we do in our daily lives must be proactive and innovative. We also need to do some activities purely for fun, such as your favorite kites, zoos, comedy movies, soul music, detective novels, etc.; if you don’t like it, find other fun activities that have nothing to do with drinking, purely To reward yourself.

5. Change old habits

In the process of our alcoholism, there are fixed time periods, familiar places and accustomed activities. Especially when we are tired, hungry, lonely, angry, or particularly happy, these seemingly ordinary and recurring scenes are dangerous traps for our waking lives.

When we first start sobering up, it can be helpful to look back at our past drinking habits to find ways to overcome our addiction. The place where we often buy alcohol may be a supermarket on the way to work. Each of us always has our own favorite drinking place. Whether it’s drinking with friends for fun or a habitual drink at a fixed time every day, we can find out from our past drinking patterns what time and days we are used to drinking.

We can adjust all the details of life that are related to the drinking problem.

8. Get adequate rest

People who are serious alcoholics generally do not understand why their bodies are tired. In fact, there are at least three reasons stemming from the characteristics of alcohol: ① Alcohol is a high-calorie drink that can quickly provide energy; ② Alcohol paralyzes the central nervous system, making alcoholics unable to detect symptoms of physical discomfort; ③ When drunk and paralyzed After gradually disappearing, the anxiety that followed caused another feeling of tension.

Feelings of anxiety and uneasiness may continue for a period of time after we stop drinking, leading to bipolar disorder and insomnia. We also often feel very tired and drowsy, often alternating between the two conditions. As the process of stopping drinking continues, both of these problems will gradually improve, so there is no need to worry.

This reminds us that we must have adequate rest during the initial stage of stopping drinking. Because when we are tired, we often have the idea of ??picking up the first glass of wine again.

Many of us are eager to understand why we sometimes have the sudden urge to drink for no apparent reason. If we analyze the situation carefully, we will find that this situation often occurs when we are feeling particularly tired, but we do not understand the correlation at the time. We often consume too much energy and don’t get enough rest. Generally speaking, we can recover immediately by eating fast food, snacks or taking a nap. At the same time, the thought of drinking will disappear; even if we don’t fall asleep immediately , but as long as you lie down for a while or take a nap on a chair, you can relax and eliminate fatigue. Of course, if we can arrange enough rest time for ourselves in our daily plan, we will have better results.

Insomnia often occurs after stopping drinking. And "insomnia" is often used as an excuse for us to have a drink or two, so we must take some measures to help ourselves avoid drinking again.

Sometimes instead of lying in bed tossing and turning and being unable to fall asleep, it is better to simply do something you like. Even at one or two o'clock in the morning, you might as well get up and read or write until your body needs rest.

Re-examine your daily life habits to see if any bad habits have caused your sleep disorders. For example, did you drink too much tea or coffee at night? Is the diet moderate? Is there a moderate amount of exercise? Is the digestive system functioning normally?

In addition, many traditional and old remedies are also very effective in solving the problem of insomnia. For example, drink a cup of hot milk, take a deep breath, take a hot bath, read a monotonous and boring book or listen to light music, etc.

If the situation does not improve or even worsens, we recommend seeking diagnosis and treatment from a more skilled physician who also understands alcohol addiction.

We must remember: sleeping pills do not solve the insomnia problem of us alcoholics. Experience shows that when you become dependent on drugs, you will inevitably end up relapsing! Moreover, using drugs to fall asleep requires taking great risks. Therefore, we would rather endure short-term discomfort than risk resorting to medication until our bodies can regain healthy sleep habits.

After getting rid of the shackles of alcohol, many of us have been horrified to find that we had a vivid nightmare about our return to drinking in the dead of night or at dawn. We feel so shocked and distressed by our return to drinking, but this phenomenon is not a bad thing. It means that we have really changed our past and realized that we can no longer continue to binge drink like this, so we are dreaming In the middle, I also subconsciously agree with my choice to stay awake.

When we can sleep peacefully without drinking, it feels so wonderful, a kind of pure physical and mental pleasure. From now on, we no longer have to suffer the painful torture of hangovers, nor do we need to worry about losing our temper and memory after drinking. A blank wait for the dilemma to arise. This means that we can now welcome a new day with gratitude and hope!

9. Be cautious about drinking situations

In the early stages of abstaining from alcohol, keep an appropriate distance from your former fair-weather friends, or find a reasonable excuse to avoid people whose main activity is drinking. Banquets are a smart idea. But sooner or later we have to attend some drinking party, so how we deal with it is important.

If the host is an old friend, you can tell us in advance that you are now quit drinking; or at least one companion knows that we are quitting alcohol and understands its importance to us - he can support you and reduce The pressure you will be under.

In addition, if adding some nutrients to your stomach before attending the party is beneficial to stabilizing your mood, you can also bring a small bag of your favorite candies or alternative foods with you. Sometimes we can leave early if there is still a long drinking time in the evening after dinner. Most people almost didn't care at all that we were gone, they were too busy drinking or something like that.

In general, we should not be too nervous because (1) others’ drinking is not what we originally thought (2) very, very few people notice or care whether we drink (3) love us friends or relatives who are happy to see us not drinking.

At the party, relatives and friends who drink may ask:

"What did you drink?"

"It's okay to just have one drink"

"Why don't you drink?"...and so on.

We try our best to explain in a way that does not lie and allows others to understand and accept it quickly. Examples include “health factors” and “doctor’s orders” “I find myself unfit to drink alcohol”. Most people can accept the fact that we are no longer drinking and stop asking me questions about it.

Of course, the sooner we confess the truth to people we know well, the better for ourselves. Most friendly people will appreciate our honesty and encourage our efforts to break free from alcohol addiction. Saying out loud to others that we don't drink can do ourselves a lot of good, strengthen our resolve to stay sober, and may have a side effect: sometimes when we make such a statement, it encourages others who want to or If people who need to drink don't drink, others will not look down on you.

When we are asked what we would like to drink, most of us can settle for a soda or other beverage to make ourselves more comfortable.

Normally, we don’t want others to pay too much attention to our quitting alcohol, but we want to be able to tell everyone about it in a discreet and private way rather than in a public way. But sometimes a well-intentioned friend or family member unintentionally becomes overly concerned about our recovery from alcohol addiction. This may make us feel quite embarrassed. At this time, it is best to try to endure it, usually no more than 2 minutes. When we feel calmer, we can calmly explain that we sincerely appreciate their concern.

Sometimes a person who drinks a lot or a former drinking buddy is not satisfied with you suddenly not drinking. When you encounter this kind of forced situation and feel unhappy, please remember that there are thousands of people who drink a lot. Recovering alcoholics support you, even though we are not here, our hearts are with you. You have to learn to avoid this kind of people. Sometimes you can just find an excuse and leave directly. Even if you offend this kind of people, it's not a big deal. After all, we are just taking the necessary steps to maintain our own health.

11 "Things that are priorities should be dealt with first"

"Things that are priorities should be dealt with first" means that no matter when, where, or under any circumstances, giving up drinking is important to us. It is the most important, life-or-death matter for us - if we don't work hard to maintain good health and protect our lives, we won't be able to have families, careers, and friends. We must first save our own lives before we can appreciate everything we have.

Staying sober every day means that we must take whatever actions are necessary to remain alcohol-free, and we must also try to avoid doing anything that may stimulate our desire to drink. Even if there is any inconvenience, we will not hesitate.

"Prioritize things first" also contains other very important meanings. In the early stages of sobriety, we are often hesitant and difficult to make decisions. As a newly sober alcoholic, we don’t know where to start when faced with a mountain of household chores; at work, we can’t decide whether to answer phone calls or write letters; in many aspects of real life, we hope to be able to fulfill all the responsibilities and duties that we have neglected in the past. obligation. But obviously we can't do it all at once.

So, the principle of "first things first" can help us prioritize things, whether it is related to alcoholism or not.

In addition, we can also apply this adage to the time we have when we wake up. When planning daily activities, you can arrange the order according to the order, priority and importance of things to avoid making the schedule too compact. We need to remember that good health is another priority. Because if we are overworked or hungry, it is very dangerous for us alcoholics.

When we are severely addicted to alcohol, our entire lives become very chaotic and disorderly, often making us feel unstable and on the verge of despair. Staying awake helps us get back on track with our daily lives, adjust our pace of life, and enable us to live a more organized life - this is, "first things first."

12 , Get rid of loneliness

Alcoholism is often described as "a disease of loneliness."

We drink alcohol mainly for social and entertainment reasons at first. Infusing alcohol into the body helps us to be enthusiastic, cheerful and versatile in an instant.

However, once the effects of alcohol wear off, what is left is a more alienated and unsocial feeling, which also makes our mood more depressed and difficult to resolve. At the same time, if we feel guilty, ashamed and uneasy about our drunken or drunken behavior, these complicated emotions can easily make us feel abandoned and exiled - endless darkness and indescribable feelings. Heart-wrenching pain. So we quickly picked up our glasses again.

While we drink alcohol, we come into contact with people from time to time. Yet most of the conversations we consider important are kept deep within ourselves and never easily spoken out. We're pretty sure we're never understood, and we often don't care much if we're understood by anyone else.

Years of alcoholism make us suspicious, distrustful, and self-centered of others. We habitually show intolerance, stubbornness, and indifference, as if we have always been withdrawn and difficult to get along with.

When we begin to have the opportunity to develop normal interpersonal relationships with others, and even accept friendship from others. The burden of fear within us often holds us back for years, and we begin to feel lonely and depressed. The outdated thinking of the past can easily encourage us to pick up that first glass of wine again.

Facing the challenges of alcoholism alone is so dangerous, and even with great determination and desire, there are almost no examples of people who can overcome it on their own. When you are alone, the thought of drinking often creeps into your mind, sneakily and cunningly. When we feel lonely and empty, the urge to drink always seems to defeat us faster and stronger.

But now that we can sail forward with other like-minded friends, our journey to recovery will be safer, more meaningful and more secure. Therefore, we are no longer taboo about asking others for help. Accepting help from others during the recovery process is not a sign of cowardice. It is extremely meaningful to cooperate and work together with others, because we all need to help each other.

Of course, each of us needs some time alone to sort out our thoughts, conduct self-reflection, or deal with some personal matters to release the accumulated stress of daily life. But it is quite dangerous if we overindulge ourselves and wallow in isolation. Especially when our mentality gradually becomes withdrawn, depressed, and self-pitying, it is better to be with friends than to be alone and feel sorry for ourselves.

For these reasons, our advice to people who have just stopped drinking is to “avoid letting yourself get too lonely.”

When the thought of drinking comes to mind, if you can pause your thinking and find someone to talk to or communicate with others online as soon as possible, you can at least start to get out of that dangerous state of isolation and helplessness.

13. Beware of anger and resentment

Hostility, resentment, and anger are always inseparable from our drunkenness, which makes our alcoholism problem worse.

"Why do you want to get drunk?" - A very common answer is that drinking can increase your courage, so you can reveal your feelings to others, and can freely express your feelings that are usually difficult to face, don't know how to deal with, etc. The emotion of anger and dissatisfaction.

At the same time, drunkenness is often accompanied by anger. Alcoholics may also greatly enjoy the feeling of power over others that comes with drinking.

There is a strong correlation between alcohol-induced anger and violent assaults and homicides. Including criminals or victims, a high proportion of accidents occur while they are under the influence of alcohol. Rape, family discord and divorce, child abuse, and armed robbery are also often caused by drunken sex.

Even if we do not commit any of the above-mentioned crimes, our tantrums and anger can cause others to feel nervous and worry that they may act violently at any time. So we must be aware of the risks lurking behind anger.

Based on human nature, anger is undoubtedly a common occurrence. Violent behavior or verbal attacks in anger not only cause harm to others, but also endanger the overall social security. Moreover, the accumulation of anger also has a very negative impact on mental health. This hostile attitude towards others will seriously damage our hearts, leading to depression.

While anger is a universal human problem in many ways, in the case of an alcoholic it is even more threatening and destructive.

All sober alcoholics are almost unanimous in agreeing that our own anger is often self-destructive. Feelings of hostility, resentment, jealousy, and anger force us to have the urge to drink again. So we must be wary of ourselves, and there should be other better solutions besides having another drink.

First, let’s identify the various faces of anger: intolerance, contempt, contempt, jealousy, hatred, snobbery, ridicule, hatred, hostility, dissatisfaction, tension, sarcasm, ridicule, self-pity, malice , distrust, doubt, anxiety, care, suspicion, suspicion, suspicion.

In the past when we drank, we either got into trouble, got stuck in it, or overreacted and made a fuss out of a molehill. This trait becomes even more obvious when we start drinking again.

Many of us believe that anger is the result of internal fear. We're often not sure what exactly we're afraid of, and sometimes it's just a vague, indescribable panic. We often get angry at someone or something suddenly without any foresight.

Failure and frustration are also factors that cause us to become angry. As typical alcoholics, we lack the patience and perseverance to accept failure. Whether it is a real or imaginary situation, when faced with complex and difficult-to-handle dilemmas, we habitually choose to drink to solve the problem.

The other kind of righteous anger is even more difficult to deal with - we often think that we are upright, chivalrous and cynical, and that what we do is based on justice and justice, so we should stick to it. However, this mentality gradually erodes our souls without realizing it, and eliminates our ability to resist the first glass of wine.

Even if we are really full of grievances and have been treated extremely unfairly, anger is still a luxury that we cannot afford. No matter what kind of anger it is, it will eventually make us pick up the first glass of wine again, leading to the road of self-destruction.

When we start to lose our temper, it can be helpful to eat something sweet or drink a non-addictive sweet drink.

If we can divert our attention in time and start dealing with other matters, there will be immediate results. We can also pause by calling a helper or contacting other members who are staying awake; consider whether we are overworked, and if so, taking a moderate rest can restore our strength and eliminate anger; similarly, we can also quietly meditate , meditate on the meaning of the phrase "live your own life and let others live", let yourself calm down slowly, or engage in other unrelated simple work, or even enjoy the music you once liked...

< p>We can also summarize the sources of anger into: things that we cannot change (such as traffic jams, weather, waiting in line for checkout...). In this way, we can accept it with a mature and rational attitude, No need to sulk or drown your sorrows in alcohol.

Sometimes we feel dissatisfied with our surrounding environment or our own lives. If we are faced with the impact of changing jobs, moving, getting divorced, etc., then when we need to make decisions, we must be cautious and analyze carefully, and avoid being impulsive and reckless and making helpless decisions. In other words, no matter how unfavorable the situation is, we should calm ourselves down first, and then we can have a calm attitude and constructive ideas to deal with the things that bother us.

Another effective way to remove anger is virtual substitution. Let’s think about it, if a mature, sound, and wise person faced the same situation as us, how would he respond and what actions would he take? Try it a few times, it really works.

In addition, we can also eliminate anger through lighter physical activities - deep breathing, hot baths, sitting in meditation or even shouting loudly can help relieve emotional tension.

We do not recommend purely repressive, patient, cover-up, and closed coping methods. We must learn not to be controlled by anger, but still make a difference. If you fail to do this, you are at great risk of returning to drinking again in the future.

14. Be kind to yourself

Long-term and severe alcohol abuse has caused great damage to our bodies. If we want to recover, it will definitely take months or even years. .

Most people lack a correct knowledge and understanding of the nature of alcoholism (including ourselves in the past), which makes the stereotype of shame and shame deeply imprinted on alcoholics. We now know that drinking alcohol is not evil or immoral, and we also recognize that it is important to readjust our perceptions and attitudes.

We examine ourselves, have we restrained ourselves from picking up the first glass of wine in the past 24 hours? If this is the case, it is indeed worth patting yourself on the back. Are your three meals normal today? Have you fulfilled your obligations? In other words, are we doing our best to put our best foot forward today? If this is the case, then this is all our reasonable expectations.

Sometimes we do less than we originally expected, and even our ideas and actions may regress a bit. But we should be relieved - we are not perfect creatures, and we should be sure that we have made progress, rather than just sighing that we cannot reach perfection.

Of course, there are many things in real life worth looking forward to: Are we enjoying life recently? Are we actively adjusting and improving ourselves? Have we ever missed admiring a beautiful sunset or a new moon? Would you like a nice dinner? Have you gone on vacation, joked around, or started a new relationship with the person you love? We do want to make ourselves happy, this is what we can do, why not do it.

If we cannot be kind to ourselves now, we certainly cannot expect ourselves to be kind, respectful or considerate to others.