What should I do to avoid getting angry when chatting with straight men?

When chatting with straight men, female friends often get angry. Next, I will tell you some ways to deal with it.

First: think rationally and calmly about the contradiction between two people before quarreling. What is the connection between the contradictions? It is better to have a continuous logical order, but it is not so important without it! But you must remember which points to talk about, and you must mention them all when you quarrel! Stop arguing, you're missing something! ! Sometimes I find myself missing something after quarreling ... so I feel indignant and dissatisfied with myself. How masochistic I am! I must remember to prevent this low-level mistake from happening again!

Two: What are the solutions to different contradictions? From our own point of view and from the other side's point of view, as well as a comprehensive plan given by both sides, it will be useful when quarreling. We will discuss with each other in this process, and then combine the new ideas generated by two people to modify a plan that will make everyone compromise as much as possible.

Third: don't use too fierce words to attack him personally when quarreling. Talk about things, don't argue, learn to adjust and manage your negative emotions, and listen to each other's ideas with respect, provided that they are willing to respect and listen to your ideas. Attitude is mutual, otherwise we will play the lute to a cow and communicate with each other, so that we can get rid of it early.

Fourth: If there are contradictions, try to solve them in time. If left unchecked, contradictions are like buried bombs, and it is easy to accidentally step on the thunder and explode by themselves. At this time, the lethality will be greater than before. Because contradictions accumulate and roll like snowballs, the impact of collapse is devastating. Don't try to avoid problems, but establish benign communication for feelings. This feeling is positive and sustainable.