The collapse of adults is in an instant.

At this time, I cried in the bathroom, and my tears were like a flood, and I couldn't stop. ...

33-year-old office worker, married a Fujian native. The reason for getting married is purely to be nice to me, an honest man in other people's mouths. I had a happy time after marriage, and all these changes came from the birth of my daughter.

Late childbearing and early pregnancy, without the pain of painless delivery, make me more cautious about my daughter's love, which is that my husband's relatives are too cautious about my evaluation. This detail comes from my mother-in-law's description of me. My mother-in-law, originally from Chongqing, went to Fujian very early and came to Chongqing 20 days before I gave birth. Now she is taking care of my daughter in Chongqing. She was very kind to me before she was born. I am sincere to her. After giving birth to my daughter, I felt the idea of giving preference to boys in Fujian, which was directly revealed from my mother-in-law and directly reflected in taking care of my three meals a day. I couldn't bear to eat the leftover soup and water and hid the knife in my mouth, which led me to secretly cry countless times in a month. My husband also stayed up late in the month when his mother came. During the epidemic, his family could not live without a three-piece mobile TV sofa. I cried and told him that I was going to have postpartum depression, and it was not easy for him to reply to me. There is no warmth between the lines. Even if the doctor said that I had a difficult labor, he cried, and what he said the next month was unreasonable and didn't affect him at all. From then on, my mother-in-law and I really became daughter-in-law and mother-in-law.

After I went to work, my mother-in-law took her daughter to do everything in her old and stubborn way, completely ignoring my advice. For example, my daughter is only three months old and is required to drink water everywhere every day. Bottles are never sterilized. She washes milk without washing her hands, supplements food when changing milk, stays home for four months and drinks cold water. After playing outside for a few hours, she quietly gives my daughter bananas. All this led to my daughter's intermittent diarrhea for two months. I cured her of diarrhea in a month when she returned to her hometown. Two days after she came back, my daughter began to have a fever. The fever doctor told her to drink more water and rest at home. If she doesn't listen, she must take a few hours. Fortunately, the cycle was shortened by three or four days. As long as the baby is in good health, I didn't make any comments. Even if she didn't believe what the doctor said, I acquiesced in her doing some messy exorcism at home.

My mother-in-law weighs less than 1.50 and more than 1.30 kg. She cries for heat all over her body every day, so she has been dressing my daughter less according to her own feelings. The weather contrast in Chongqing these two days is that she wears cotton-padded jacket in the morning and gauze in the afternoon, and it is quite windy to take her daughter for vaccination in the morning. After playing for 30 minutes, I left. I went to work first and asked her to take a taxi back later. Promised well, I walked home and blew my daughter back to the front with a waist stool. Why do I know? She said it herself. When my daughter came back from work at night, she began to have a runny nose, sneeze and break out in a cold sweat. I told her that I had a cold. She said she sneezed every day, so I gave her cold medicine. She really had a fever at midnight. When I went out the next day, I told her to take medicine on time and put it on the antipyretic sticker. Don't blow it out. I haven't heard that there is no fever during the day. In order not to let others know that I have a fever, I also took off the antipyretic paste. At night, the high fever remained at 38.3 degrees. I told my husband that you told your mother not to take the children out during the day, and then go out to play when the fever has gone down. Why should I let my husband talk? Because he didn't listen to me several times, he replied to me. Is it normal during the day? What does it matter? For a moment, I felt like I was casting pearls before swine. On the third day, I didn't go to work to take her home. My mother-in-law dyed her hair in the living room early in the morning, and the mask of beauty didn't fall off. The pungent smell spread all over Kaka's corner. I had to keep my daughter in my room until the pungent smell dispersed before I took her out. She hangs on me all day, making noise when she burns, and having to hug her when she sleeps. My mother-in-law is already crying and refuses to eat complementary food baby. Let her cook porridge lightly the day before, without meat. Don't listen to feed after 7 pm, which leads to food accumulation and poor appetite. Later, I brought the baby over and didn't let her feed it. It's hard to take care of you if I'm unhappy without eating. At noon, I slept with my child and she was playing with her mobile phone outside. The child has a fever and can't go down in the afternoon to take it to the hospital. As a result, the meal was not ready, so I cooked some noodles to eat. Later, when I went downstairs, I met the doctor in the clinic. Before I was born, I had been injected with an abortion injection. He saw my daughter say that she had no inflammatory symptoms, went home to take cold medicine and feed more water. She had a fever for a while, and I was not too worried. I brought the medicine back. Bathing my daughter at night, thinking that her husband is going out to dance square dance at seven or eight, let her go. As a result, the wormwood water I washed for my baby was dark and she looked at it and cried. I have had a fever for a long time and my body is soft. I can't sit still. I held her and bathed her repeatedly. After taking a bath and taking medicine, my mother-in-law jumped back from the square dance. My husband hasn't come back yet It's already 9:30. I usually get home at 7:40. I called to ask, the car just drove out and came back. He clearly heard the voice of the other party playing cards, and he would not take the initiative to play cards, but he would never learn to refuse anything. I hung up on him and still believed what he said. Colleagues at the back unit said that they didn't know that my child had a fever. He was playing cards in the office and just left. When I heard this sentence, all the grievances and anger were completely out of control at that moment. I put my daughter to bed after taking a shower and thought about it. In the past year or two, whenever my mother and I have a little disagreement, it's all his mother's call. My daughter never went home early, regardless of fever and diarrhea. Well, the company has always had dinner, and I have done everything at home. Usually, even if she has a fever, the temperature will not drop all day. You still have the heart to play poker. Give it to her at night. In his understanding, I was angry only because he played poker on the day when his daughter had a fever.

In the eyes of this Chongqing woman who lives in Fujian, everything in the family should be a woman's, so that she will say a few words sourly when her son does something. For example, if I ask him to pick up a glass of water next month, she will reach out and help him pick it up. For example, if I ask him to go downstairs to the supermarket to buy something, she will get the message and say it is unnecessary. For example, her son uses a household vacuum cleaner to suck dust and clean the floor. She will tell my daughter whether your father is diligent and like a woman when you grow up, and then tell her son in Fujian that her youngest son has never been like this. Maybe she has selective amnesia about my previous cleaning. Similarly, my mother-in-law is his day in my husband's heart. My mother-in-law took care of her little son, and when she was scolded by her little son, she would make a video to complain about my husband. My husband was very angry and miserable at that time, so I can't say that my mother-in-law is not good at all in our family, and I can't make any comments. Maybe this is the way my husband loves his mother in his eyes, even if she says she is uncomfortable there one day. I can't find the right words to describe this love.

I have a quick temper and a hot temper. I'm the kind of woman who can talk things out, but I won't make trouble without reason. Respecting the elders is my consciousness from childhood, because I also have parents, but in my cognition, the healthy growth of a family should be to work together, run together, run in with each other and compromise with each other. The situation in our family now is that I have to force my husband to move forward in all aspects, and then my mother-in-law is unhappy. She thinks that her son should enjoy the treatment of reaching for clothes and opening his mouth to take food. I don't know where she got her confidence in honey juice. She doesn't consider herself from Chongqing, nor does she consider herself from Fujian. So it's your side that often talks to me. What are the people like here? I don't like Sichuanese. Ps: I'm from Sichuan. She said she didn't like Sichuanese. She told me by video phone with her good sister in my second month. I sat next to her holding the baby, but I married my husband because she repeatedly asked my husband's cousin to tell my family that we should get married. My husband and I talked about the death of his friend for about half a year, and his father died in middle age. So, whether we have any results in the future or not, I went to Fujian when his father died. Later, my wife kept urging me to tell my parents about the arranged marriage, saying that the closest person in my family had died, and I would get married in three months or three years. Seriously speaking, my husband's cousin's three views are correct, rich but low-key He has been taking care of us since we got married, and I have always kept this feeling in mind. Based on my cousin's three views, I think a big family is not much different. However, I was wrong. My husband's family condition should be poor in Fujian. I don't have much money at home, and the down payment for buying a house in Chongqing is half that of both of us, and I borrowed some foreign debts. Therefore, the management and construction of our small family really depends on ourselves, but my husband can't understand this. He is very satisfied with the status quo. Even after having a baby, he still lives a single life. My mother-in-law doesn't know where she got her confidence in honey juice. How can his son not have a point in his heart? Later, I found out that this confidence came from her second daughter-in-law's family. The second daughter-in-law can help anything if she has money at home, and then she may feel that her eldest son is a little disadvantaged in looking for me. I don't think her family has no money, no car and no room to take care of her character. Now she still feels that she has taken advantage of her son.

Although my family is either rich or expensive, it has always been based on the principle of reducing the burden on me and my brother. My mother doesn't care about the living expenses I gave in the early pregnancy. Tell me that you bought a house when you left. It's stressful. My parents came to see me when I gave birth. My mother-in-law shows her superiority everywhere like a guest. All the expenses of my mother-in-law in my house are borne by us. I should help me with my children. The baby is almost one year old and didn't give socks.

It said that my mind was blank and I didn't know what I wanted to express. I will blow myself up and cure myself. If I do it again, I will have a baby at the strongest time, and I will take care of the baby myself, so that my mother-in-law will not get involved in our small family. The girl who is going to get married sincerely suggests not to marry far away. Customs and habits may be obstacles to living together in the future. Don't listen to others praise him for his honesty when he gets married in 2020. Maybe he can be honest enough to make you think that although he is married, he still lives alone. Maybe he is still a mother-in-law.