Chatting spirit

..... Of course I blame you. You can't chat because you are too shy.

Unlike introverts, introverts generally feel energetic when they are alone, while shy people want to communicate with others at any time, but they don't know how to restrain the anxiety caused by interpersonal communication.

Many boys are afraid of being rejected when flirting with girls for the first time, and they hide shyly for fear of leaving a bad impression on girls. This is a typical example.

On similar occasions, we often become confused, at a loss, which affects our expression and even leads to incoherence.

This question is so common that it is said that chatting is the best choice when chatting up people. So, how about talking about the weather? Without a new topic, the chat can't go on, but it falls into an awkward atmosphere.

I have been waiting for a "suitable" opportunity, and I don't know when it is suitable. Actually, I'm just not prepared. This "suitable" time can be any time, and "waiting" is just an excuse.

I always feel that I am not good at this and that, and I am worried about leaving a bad impression. I spend all my time obsessing over my shortcomings, afraid of getting hurt and afraid to take the first step.

For example, some chubby girls are unwilling to talk to others. Why? Because they care too much about their appearance and think that being fat is a "defect", it is undoubtedly bring disgrace to oneself who takes the initiative to strike up a conversation.

Inferiority means paying too much attention to other people's opinions, ignoring one's own advantages and lacking the courage to take the initiative.

Because of our small circle, we seldom have the opportunity to meet new friends or people in different fields. Are you troubled by the lack of social skills?

My social skills have not been exercised, and I don't know how to deal with people, which is one of the reasons why I can't chat.

Don't give yourself negative psychological hints.

On strange occasions, we sometimes think, "Do I look embarrassed?" "Nobody cares about me, do you dislike me?" "I don't look good, so I won't talk."

In fact, we just became nervous in the crowd, not as embarrassed as we thought, and people around us didn't dislike us, just because we thought too much. On the contrary, if we are aware of this, it will be easier for us to take the initiative to chat with others.

Pay attention to the things around you, not yourself.

You may feel that others are staring at you, which makes you feel uncomfortable. This twisted feeling is the chief culprit of your anxiety.

At this time, we can be interested in people and things around us. Instead of obsessing about yourself, it is better to appreciate some interesting things and dilute your insecurity.

Keeping a straight face can make people feel uncomfortable. In fact, sometimes it's not that others don't want to get close to us, maybe it's just that we look in a bad mood and others don't take the initiative.

Even if you are nervous, keep smiling and look natural, and others will take the initiative to get along with us.

We can ask friends to introduce their friends or acquaintances, because it's a good idea to meet new people.

When we get to know new friends, they are actually a little shy like us.

At this time we don't have to worry about our own shortcomings. It is better to find some topics to talk about and establish a talkative image.

Just like we are preparing a speech, we constantly correct our words and deeds in front of the mirror. We can pretend that someone is standing opposite us and chatting with us, and practice it again and again.

Chatting topics, in addition to the weather, can also be recent news, sports events, hobbies and so on.