A story about civility and etiquette

Zhong You, Zi and Lu Ji, from the State of Lu in the Spring and Autumn Period, were proud disciples of Confucius. He is straightforward, brave and very filial. In the early years, my family was poor, and I often picked wild vegetables to cook, but I went home from a hundred miles away to serve my parents. After his parents died, he became a big official and was ordered to go to Chu, with hundreds of chariots and horses and accumulated as much as 10 thousand grain.

Sitting on a piled brocade mattress and eating a sumptuous banquet, he often misses his parents and laments, "Even if I want to eat wild vegetables, where can I get them?" Confucius praised: "You served your parents best when you were alive, but you missed them after you died!" " ("Confucius' Thoughts").

Emperor Han Ming respects his teacher very much.

When Emperor Liu Zhuang was a prince, Dr. Huan Rong was his teacher. Later, he succeeded to the throne and became emperor. He once went to Taichang House in person, sat in the east of Huanrong, set up a few sticks, and listened to the teacher's instructions as he did in the past. He also called hundreds of North Korean officials and students taught by Huan Rong to the Taichang Hall to pay tribute to his disciples.

When Huan Rong was ill, Ming Di sent someone to offer condolences, and even went to see the teacher himself. Every time I visit my teacher, Ming Emperor City gets off the bus as soon as he enters the street to show his respect. After entering the door, I often hold the teacher's skinny hand and cry silently for a long time.

The emperor of the dynasty did this to Huan Rong, so "the assistant ministers, generals and doctors who asked for illness dared not come to the door by car again, and they all worshipped under the bed." After Huan Rong's death, Ming Di changed his clothes, attended the funeral in person, and made proper arrangements for his children.

3. Taste the soup.

The third son of Emperor Gaozu was born to Empress Bo. Eight years after high school (before 18) is the throne. In the name of benevolence and filial piety, he is famous all over the world, and he never slackens in serving his mother. His mother was ill for three years, and he often disappeared and took off his clothes. Let mom bring the soup, and he won't worry until he tastes it himself.

During his 24 years in office, he emphasized the rule of virtue, advocated etiquette, and attached importance to the development of agriculture, which made the Western Han society stable, the population prosperous, and the economy restored and developed. His rule with Emperor Han Jing was called "the rule of culture and scenery."

4. Ceng Zi avoided the seat.

Ceng Zi is a disciple of Confucius. Once he sat next to Confucius, and Confucius asked him, "The king of the sages has supreme virtue, and he needs mysterious theories to teach people all over the world and make people live in harmony. There is no dissatisfaction between the monarch and the minister." Do you know what they are? "

Hearing this, Ceng Zi understood that Confucius wanted to point out the deepest truth in his heart, so he immediately stood up from the mat where he was sitting, walked outside the mat and respectfully replied, "I'm not smart enough. How can I know?" Please ask the teacher to teach me these truths. "

Here, "avoiding the seat" is a very polite behavior. When Ceng Zi heard that the teacher was going to teach him, he stood up and went to the mat to ask the teacher for advice to show his respect for the teacher. Ceng Zi's polite stories are told by later generations, and many people learn from him.

5. Chengmen Sydney

Shi Yang admired Cheng Cheng's knowledge and went to the school in Hao Cheng to learn from his teacher. Four years later, Cheng Hao died, and he continued to learn from Cheng Yi. At this time, he is 40 years old, still respecting teachers and studying hard. One day, it snowed heavily and it was freezing. When Shi Yang encountered a problem, he braved the cold wind to ask his classmate You Zuo (1053- 1 123) to go to the teacher's house for advice.

When he came to the teacher's house, he found the teacher asleep in the chair. He couldn't bear to disturb him, for fear of affecting the teacher's rest, so he stood quietly outside and waited. When the teacher woke up, the snow under their feet was one foot deep and covered with snow. The teacher invited Shi Yang and others into the room to give them a lecture. Later, "Chengmen Sydney" became a widely circulated model of respecting teachers.