What are the performances of people who are not confident?

As the weather gets warmer, there are more beautiful women wearing skirts, suspenders and hot pants showing white long legs. There was no Zhihu before. I saw someone send a reader's letter to the newspaper asking, "Go shopping with my husband. He likes to see beautiful women. What should I do? "

What's the problem? I saw the title, and the secret answer was "help him watch it together!" " "

Domineering!

Beauty is a landscape, who doesn't like it?

After the rain cleared, the sky showed a rare A-Park blue. I took Comrade Jason for a walk. When waiting for the traffic lights in People's Square, I saw a tall and thin woman in front, suddenly reminded of a question and whispered:

Hey, did you find out? I used to see a woman about my age and often asked you, "am I fat or is she fat?" I haven't asked you since I lost weight. Right?

He gave a thoughtful "well".

Yes, when I lost 30 Jin and successfully reduced my weight from 136 to about 100, I will never compare my weight with many women in the street again, and I will never "torture" him with that question again. I don't take strange women on the street to prove to him that "is she fat or am I fat?" "Is she fatter than me?"

And the woman I chose to show him is obviously fatter than me.

I know very well, but I just want to hear him say, "She is much fatter than you!" " You are not fat, just right. "Or" You are much thinner than her ... "

Looking back on the past, I realized that I asked him for proof because I was not confident!

When he said "that Xiao Ni is really beautiful", most of the beautiful women I watched with him would make up a knife, such as "legs are not straight", "neck is too long" or "two lives" and so on. "Two lives" means watching "charming" in the back, running and watching "scary" in the front, one in the front and one in the back, and both lives are gone.

There is such a story in the Warring States period.

Zou Ji is eight feet tall and very beautiful. He put on beautiful clothes and asked his wife, "Who is beautiful, Xugong or me?" His wives and concubines all say that he is the most beautiful. He asked the guests at home, and the guests said the same thing. Later, I saw Xu Gong in the north of the city, looked in the mirror and felt ashamed.

This story comes from the famous "Zou Ji satirizes Qi Wang as a teacher". Zou Ji "thought at dusk" and finally realized a truth.

The beauty of my wife is my own, and I am also private; The beauty of my concubine is afraid of me; The beauty of the guest is mine. What does he want from me?

Zou Ji went to appear before Qi Weiwang and told the King of Qi what he knew. The King of Qi accepted the suggestion, issued a decree, offered a reward for remonstrance, made a public speech, and rewarded those who cared about state affairs and actively remonstrated. This teachable and learnable story has become an eternal story, and learning ancient Chinese requires memorizing the text.

Now I have a new understanding of this story, that is, Zou Ji may not be confident, and men will also ask others "am I beautiful?"

In marriage and love, people will be asked "Do you love me" from time to time, and there will be "Do you love me or not?" The moment you asked me how much I loved you, especially those who asked not to talk to strangers except flirting or emotional appeal, was it because of inner confidence or extreme confidence?

Similar abnormal questions include "who was rescued first when your mother and I fell into the water at the same time?" I support women who ask such questions to hit their faces or have a rest!

Knowing the director of a brand manufacturer, he revealed that he was a "super confident" person. Once at a brainstorming meeting, he came up with an idea and got applause. He also said, "How can I be so smart?" ? ! Sometimes I feel-too smart! "People who are too arrogant are generally not very likable, but their self-confidence can often infect others and even make people praise.

In Snow White, the evil stepmother often asks the mirror: Mirror, mirror, who is the most beautiful person in the world? When the magic mirror answered "Snow White is more beautiful than you" without hesitation, her stepmother was murdered. It can be seen that people who are extremely confident and conceited and people who are not confident will not only ask others (including the magic mirror) for proof, but also have a heart to kill.

When I first joined the work, a pretty girl joined the job. As soon as she entered the company, she won the title of "Black Peony" and became the target of many bachelors in that factory. At that time, she didn't want a single dormitory, and sometimes she shared a bed with me on the night shift. Actually, I'm not used to sharing a bed with a colleague who is "not good enough". At that time, I had not learned to refuse.

A question she often asks others: What do you think of me?

When I asked, I smiled: quite good.

The more times she was asked, the more annoyed she became. Later, the relationship gradually faded, and even words were rarely said.

She later married a young worker in the factory and suffered domestic violence after marriage. I once saw her being beaten from upstairs to downstairs with my own eyes, and I thought she was actually very pitiful. Such a beautiful girl, if she was more confident and found a good man, wouldn't be beaten?

Zhang Xiaoxian once wrote: If a man knows that you love him, he won't say that he loves you. Men only say "I love you" to women when they are not confident enough.

When women are not confident, they will chase and ask "Do you love me" all day? "Where are you?" "When will you come back?" All right.

A confident woman, with a correct understanding and evaluation of herself, will become the best self, and will not prove to others or outsiders that she is fat or not, beautiful or not. A confident woman can live brilliantly and live better!

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