Accidentally bump into male and female colleagues hugging in the office, how to resolve the embarrassment?

The woman is unmarried and the man is married. They are the same department, superior and subordinate.

The woman is an assistant, and she is very handsome. This man is the department manager. At that time, the children at home were all 3 or 4 years old.

This kind of dog blood story can often be found in online novels and story meetings.

I will meet it in my life, but I think it should not be an accident, but it is actually quite embarrassing to meet it.

It's already past eleven o'clock at night.

Accompany customers, pass by the company, and want to go to the company to get a copy of tomorrow's information.

In fact, this information can be obtained early tomorrow morning.

But I'm too lazy to get it from the company early in the morning. I thought it was done now, so I can sleep in tomorrow and go directly to the client.

A lot of things, that's all

The lights on the whole floor of the company are basically out, except for the door, except for the small conference room in the corner.

I took something from the drawer, turned off the light and wanted to leave.

Drinking wine that day was also an eventful autumn. I turned a corner and went to that office to see who was working overtime.

That scene, sweet but not too bloody.

There is a pile of bidding materials on the table. The woman is sitting on the man's body, but she is not neatly dressed and her hair is messy.

I'll close the door at once.

Awkward.

Later, the female colleague bowed her head when she saw me.

There's nothing wrong with male colleagues. We have a good relationship, as everyone knows.

I didn't tell anyone about it because I thought it was someone else's private life.

But knowing that this kind of thing has already started, especially if one party is unmarried, it will be difficult to clean up after a long time.

Then things went on according to the routine.

The woman is pregnant and wants to marry the man, and the man's wife comes to the company to make a scene.

Finally, the man divorced and left the company with the woman, mainly because he couldn't stay any longer.

They finally got married. I heard recently that they got divorced. They should have been together for six or seven years.

I heard that a woman had an affair and didn't escape itching for seven years.

About office romance, from a professional point of view, it is very inappropriate. But from the perspective of human nature, the office is the most prone to romance.

It's easy to get along and get to know each other.

As long as there is a little spark, it is very likely to start a prairie fire.

However, this kind of thing is a personal matter. As an unintentional voyeur, the best response is to ignore it.

Especially in the workplace, don't be a gossip.

If you are a woman, you can't help it. You can gossip with your girlfriends from non-company colleagues.

Don't tell me that you are a quiet woman who can keep secrets.

If you are a man, try to keep it a secret, because gossiping about others is far less enjoyable for men than for women. Do something else with intense happiness.

In short, in principle, try not to gossip, which is someone else's private affair.

In addition to respecting the courtesy of others, there is another important reason for dealing with people in the workplace.

In the workplace, if these two people have positions and power, they can punish you. When they suspect that you are spreading this, it is also time to punish you.

In the workplace, multiple enemies are not as good as multiple friends, and multiple friends have multiple paths.

And it didn't harm the interests of the company and you. Why are you so actively involved?

I remember that in my second job, a female colleague who had a good relationship with me once asked me for help. She said she worked overtime that night and hung out with a married supervisor in a department. The point is, what if other colleagues find out?

The scene of her asking me for help is still fresh in my mind.

She called me that night and said in a hurry, what should I do? I am ashamed to death. Help me.

I was still wearing a mask at home, so I asked her to speak slowly.

It turned out that at 7 o'clock that night, she specially arranged documents in the office and waited for other colleagues to get off work. She is the only one left in the company, and their office is open, that is, one workstation for one person. Then, in order to save electricity, the female colleague only turned on the light above her head, and all the other lights were turned off, and it was dark all around, leaving only the light on at her position.

At this time, the male supervisor in the next office brightened his voice in the dark, and then came over like a gentleman and handed her a thermos bottle filled with brewed rose tea.

In this atmosphere, it goes without saying that female colleagues and male supervisors look at each other affectionately. She flirtatiously drew a circle on the male supervisor with her finger and looked at the male supervisor with blurred eyes. At this point, the male supervisor couldn't help it. He grabbed her hand and held her in his arms. They couldn't help teasing me.

Just when they were deeply in love, the key rang "Lang Lang" in the dark, and then the heavy "hum" of a male voice line made them both jump up and stare at the darkness. Because the light is all concentrated in their area, by contrast, the surrounding environment is too dark to see clearly.

She quickly tidied up her skirt and buttoned it, and the male supervisor sneaked over to see who was there.

"I don't see anyone. He's gone." The male supervisor looks back from time to time while sorting clothes.

"Whoops, what should I do? I'm ashamed. I don't know who it is for. " My colleague burst into tears with fear. The male supervisor comforted her and sent her home.

Then, the female colleague thought about it, didn't know who that person was, so she called me in a hurry and asked me what to do.

I was speechless about their behavior, and I thought to myself: What can I do? You deserve it. Who told you not to love yourself?

On the other hand, it is not clear who saw their indecent scene that night. However, what female colleagues have been worried about has not happened. She is most afraid that the company will start spreading the news about her and the male supervisor. So far, no one has talked about it. It should be the person who found it and hid it in his stomach. However, female colleagues have been living in a world of fear.

I think, if I were the one who watched them cheat in the dark, I would pretend not to see it and leave the scene quickly to avoid an embarrassing scene. The other party didn't find what you saw was the best, otherwise these things were spread out, and the parties must think that you spread them out and hold a grudge against you.

So, it's best to get out of the way and pretend nothing happened. Even if you see it, you should pretend to leave calmly, without embarrassed smile, greeting or saying anything.

My Lord, it's good to get the message.

Bless them on the spot.

Tell me a real case. In 2009, I started a business in a chemical plant in dongfeng town, Zhongshan. One night, I came back late from going out, so I parked my car in the parking space under the office building and ran to the Datong office of the sales department with a big bag of information.

At that time, the office building was empty. Because of the carpet on the stairs, I walked all the way to the second floor without a sound. Just as I opened the door of the sales office, the scene in front of me made me dumbfounded.

The married sales director and a married female colleague embraced. The director put her on the table, and suddenly she heard a noise in the door. The two people who are playing unrequited love are also startled and both look at me.

I blushed instantly, but fortunately my brain reacted quickly. I immediately said, I envy you both. It's really romantic. I can't see anything.

Say that finish, scrambling to put the data back to the filing cabinet, the car keys to the director.

And the two of them have been looking at me with hatred, and that woman has been sorting out clothes.

Shortly after I left the office building, the director called me and told me not to talk too much. I told him that I was too busy to care about the private affairs of those adults.

Later, the director and the woman didn't feel sorry for me, but we didn't say hello outside of work. Later, I don't know why, in front of hundreds of people, the company's major shareholder deliberately said that the director was incapable of bragging. He can start with the security guard at the door. Such an insult directly made the two of them resign and leave.

I've seen this before, right? But I'm the real hero, not just bumping into my colleagues.

After graduating from college, I joined a company to do financial work. As you know, there are more girls working in finance. There are 7 people in our department, 3 men and 3 women. Because the company developed rapidly at that time, all departments welcomed new people, and it happened that there was a female college student in our department. Don't say that the female students who just graduated are different. They are tall, smooth-skinned and particularly energetic. Of course, this female colleague was still single, and I was quite attractive at that time. All three women in the company are married, all over 35 years old, and are responsible for all kinds of gossip topics all day.

Female colleagues are arranged next to me, and it is natural to get along with each other day and night. How can I put it? We hit it off, and a love affair began like this, but no one else knew when we started the company. You know, office romance is not prohibited by the company, but it should not be too obvious. We are also afraid of affecting others.

One day after work, we decided to go to the movies, but the movie didn't start until 8: 30, so we stayed in the company for a while. You know that no one runs a company, and when you are alone, you always want something exciting to happen, so you get together and hug and chat with each other.

Guess what? Before we started the operation, a man broke in. The man was startled to see us like this. He took one look, said that he had forgotten the document, picked it up and left in a hurry.

After a few days, we all knew about our love affair, and now it has become a hot topic in running a company. We both praised me for my ability and quick start. Actually, I don't want to make it public, but I'm afraid it will affect my girlfriend. I intend to transfer to another department. Usually we don't do anything out of line in the office, and no one else knows about it. As a result, the whole company knows, and all kinds of rumors are everywhere. What else did your girlfriend fool around with an old man?

My girlfriend was in a particularly bad mood, so I was naturally angry and went to a senior manager of the company. That man is my friend's father. I have a very close relationship with my friends. As soon as my friend interceded, his father agreed. At the end of the year, I found a reason to give that person a low score. The assessment score was at the bottom of the company, and there was no bonus. Then I was eliminated at the end of the year.

You see, this is a disaster from the mouth. We were young and in love, and you lied to me. If the old man hides the hidden rules of his female colleagues, there may be some lace out! Encounter this kind of thing, when never happened, otherwise the leadership have plenty of opportunities to pick up you!

As an overtime worker, I also had a similar experience, which was very strange.

About seven or eight years ago, in an internet company, because the project was in a hurry to go online, I worked overtime intensively at night, especially the technology and tests were all full (the technology was generally male and the tests were all female). The company was on the fifth floor, and I was in charge of the online operation of the project, so I stayed to help with the test. It's about midnight 1. Seeing that everyone was hungry, I decided to apply to my boss for funds to buy supper. When I was carrying two boxes of family buckets, I found that there was no movement when I pressed the elevator, so I couldn't help taking the stairs. There are many things, and it is inevitable that there will be noise when walking. When climbing to the third floor, I heard the gasps of men and women (probably brain tonic). I looked up and it was the boss of the technical department. The girl has squatted down, staring at each other, relatively silent. Maybe she's crazy. I was still young, blurted out "Li, what a coincidence" and got on the plane as if I were dead. Then I told myself that everything should be natural, natural. Keeping secrets for leaders is a professional ethics, and I still smile when I see leaders. Later, the technical boss was promoted to vice president of the company, and I was transferred to the office as an assistant. I got a promotion and a raise and spared no effort to help me improve my skills. Up to now, my wife has told me to remember the kindness of the old leader and not forget the cultivation of others.

Therefore, it warns us that the wicked and the noble are only in one thought, and your professional ethics will repay you.

I have also encountered this situation, which is very similar to the subject's situation and very embarrassing. Let me talk about my experience.

Just last year, when I was working in a software training company, the training class teacher was a middle-aged man in his late forties. In Shanghai, I think she is still relatively young in her thirties and forties. A sister-in-law in her twenties came to the training department. She was a training assistant when she first came in. Men have families, and women are still single. Shortly after she graduated from college, the director took good care of her when she first came in. Many people talk about whether our director has a family behind his back.

After work once, I thought I had training to do the next day and the training materials were still in the company. I want to go back and get the materials. As a result, as soon as I opened the door, I saw our director hugging the girl, and it was after 7 o'clock in the evening. At this time, others have gone home from work and are in the company. The scene was once very embarrassing. At that time, my mind was blank, so I took my USB flash drive and left, just like I didn't see it.

On the way back, I kept thinking about what to say at that time. What to say won't make them feel embarrassed, and they are all embarrassed. The last thing I want to do is to forget it. Anyway, they are embarrassed, not me.

Next, I also went to work in the company normally. I have never mentioned it, nor have I told anyone. After all, it's not good for everyone to say such things. If the leader remembers it, it will be difficult to carry out the work in the future. However, the director seems a little nervous. Why did he call me alone after work the next night, telling me not to say what I saw yesterday? In fact, I know everything. I promised him happily. I never mentioned it.

In fact, everyone knows this kind of thing, just telling the truth, because it is not good for everyone and is not good for their future career development, so let others talk privately, at least I have not participated. In the workplace, it's actually very complicated. I don't know when others know that you are talking about him behind his back. She may have a bad opinion of you. It's normal to put on small shoes for you. In order to avoid unnecessary trouble, it is best not to participate in such things.

If I encounter similar things in the future, I think it's good to smile. It's not easy to joke about this kind of thing, because others are actually very nervous when they see you. The more you joke, the more afraid he is that you will tell, so at this time, we just need to smile and pretend that nothing happened. "You can eat whatever you want, but you can't talk nonsense", especially this kind of thing, is a joke. This is not the time to joke.

Don't mention it in future work, because the leader thinks that only you know it. If you still say this in such a high-profile way, the leader will definitely think that you spread his story and have a great influence on the leader. Leaders also care about their own reputation. After all, he needs to manage the employees below, and he has a bad reputation. It is best not to say anything when such a thing happens, just work honestly.

Finally, sometimes we just keep smiling when we don't know what to do. We don't please others, and we don't laugh at others. A polite smile can solve many embarrassments and keep a normal state of mind. We don't have to pretend not to see it, and we don't have to deliberately clarify it. After all, we are all adults. It is the embodiment of professionalism to leave room for everything and maintain a good sense of boundaries.

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Everyone is a master storyteller. Let me tell a story, too This story is pure fiction. Please don't sit in the right position.

The story goes like this:

In 2005, due to the company's good leadership, few employees in Shanghai resigned, and the employee stability was very good. After a long time, my colleagues get along well.

Due to the hot weather in summer, in order to take care of employees, the company implements the summer work system and goes to work at 2: 30 noon to give everyone plenty of rest time. So many employees will have a good sleep at noon, and some will even go to the company to open an hourly room in order to have a good rest.

One day at noon, I had dinner with my boss. I talked about some work at dinner and returned to the company at about 1: 30. Unfortunately, the company elevator broke down at noon that day. Because the company is on the eighth floor, my boss and I can only take the stairs and climb slowly.

The story takes place between the seventh and eighth floors.

When my boss and I walked to the seventh floor and a half, we found that the sales manager of the company and an employee of the administrative department were cuddling, and 5000 words were omitted here.

Because I am familiar with the sales manager at ordinary times, I gave him a thumbs up. Of course, the boss looked pale and hurried back to the company without saying a word.

After going to work in the afternoon, the boss called me and the sales manager to his office. As a bystander, I heard the boss reprimand the sales manager. Of course, the boss just reprimanded the sales manager and said nothing to the employees in the administrative department.

I didn't think it had anything to do with me, so why did you drag me into it? Now that I think about it, maybe the boss thinks that I am a witness, and I hope this matter will stop here and not spread in the company again.

The boss is the boss, and he does things resolutely. The staff of the administration department didn't come to work the next day. Later, I heard from the administrative manager that the boss forcibly dismissed the employee and paid him half a year's salary on the spot. Of course, why did you fire the employees? The administrative manager doesn't know. He is only an administrator, and he is very surprised. And I, the boss, the sales manager, all three of us know it.

After this incident, the sales manager restrained a lot, and the boss also did some measures, such as canceling the daylight saving time system.

The story has been finished, but the influence and enlightenment brought by the story have been continuing.

In fact, this kind of thing itself has nothing to do with you, let alone your interests, so when you encounter this kind of thing, you can go as far as you can, and you can't see it if you can't see it. You must be confused. Don't pretend to be smart, it may hurt people.

I can't help but click in when I see the problem. I happened to meet the same thing in the previous stage: I accidentally met a female boss and a male colleague with a family. Unexpectedly, the subconscious reaction actually made me get a promotion recently!

At the end of 2065438+2009, the company's business was busy, which made the employees in our department who didn't usually work overtime start their lives for a few days. It was also those days that I accidentally bumped into my boss having an affair with his colleague Li Ge-the boss and Li Ge had supper together and fed Li Ge their own special meal. You know, although we have never met Li Ge's lover, we all know that he has a family! The three men looked at each other for about 2 seconds (it felt particularly long). I immediately narrowed my eyes and walked into the office naturally. I said hello to the leader first, and then asked Li Ge if he had seen my glasses (I am nearsighted, Li Ge knows). I usually put a pair of nearsighted glasses in the office and wear contact lenses to work. When I feel uncomfortable, I will take them off and put them on.

When I got home at night, I comforted myself for a long time. People are not embarrassed. What am I embarrassed about? Ignore it!

On the night I ran into it by chance, I told myself over and over again that "disaster comes from my mouth" and remember not to "talk nonsense". There are no small things in the workplace. In a word, one thing may affect your future career direction. I don't want to ruin my "good things" because of other people's "bad things".

The worrying thing still happened, and the company began to have a "wind"-the boss and Li Ge had an improper relationship. When my colleagues chatted with me about it, I was scared. Although I know in my heart that this is not what I said, I am still worried about being misunderstood by my boss and Li Ge, which will eventually affect my work. Helpless, I can only pretend to be "deaf". I was told that I didn't participate or agree, so I didn't hear it. Hide if you can, and don't talk about this topic.

Unexpectedly, after the company resumed work, I was informed of a promotion. When the boss talked to me, I realized that Li Ge's lover was the boss, and they were originally a couple. The colleague who heard that "the relationship between the boss and Li Ge is improper" actually found something after me and began to gossip ... The boss affirmed my character and thought that the company needed me to be a work-oriented person, regardless of others' right and wrong. In this way, an accident got me promoted!

Suddenly seeing this problem, I can only hehe. There are often men and women in the workplace, but they have heard of cuddling at work, but they just have no chance to meet.

Let me review the previous topic:

Looking forward to, looking forward to, finally going to work. I couldn't wait to tidy up the papers on the desk, turn off the computer, and then picked up the car keys and ran out. A year's plan lies in spring, and a day's plan lies in work. Life from nine to five is very pleasant. People who are not active after work either have an affair or have problems. ...

The car caught fire and drove home. I just passed a traffic light. I want to call my dear and invite her out for dinner. I checked the co-pilot's cell phone. Anxious to get off work, I left in a hurry and left my cell phone at work. At this moment, I have seriously violated the old saying, "Now is now or never.".

At the crossroads, turn around, and then run back to the unit to get your cell phone. There is no time to take care of the scenery along the way. As long as it's not a red light, the car basically keeps driving. It's time to test my driving skills and courage. Soon I returned to the place where I couldn't wait to leave from one to five.

Knock, knock, knock, knock, knock Why is there a colleague's car at the door of the unit? Are you still working overtime? Guys who work overtime without overtime pay are kicked in the brain by donkeys, and they are all laughing and not paying.

I didn't think much, so I slowed down the pace of youth and chic. I gently pushed open the door of the office for fear of disturbing my friends in the office. Wow, a fiery scene unfolded before me like a focal plane. If it weren't for the vast white sky in the afternoon, I really thought it was a spring dream, but it wasn't my dream.

In front of colleagues, men and women hug each other tightly, as if they are warming each other, and as if they have another purpose. When they saw me, they didn't part immediately, but hugged each other for a while and then slowly separated. They must hate me very much.

Hehe, um, I, um, came back to get my mobile phone, hehe, I forgot to take it when I left. ...

I thought I didn't do anything bad, but when I said these words, I felt my brain buzzing and my legs were a little out of control. They watched me pick up my cell phone, then closed the door and left. I looked into their eyes awkwardly, as if I had done something bad. I really want to say you go on, I'm leaving! But in the end, I left quietly without saying anything.

This is a typical office adultery, with the name "adultery" and the nickname "No proper relationship". When this happens to you, as the title says, your head is sprouting. The woman is not her daughter-in-law and the man is not her husband. What they do together has nothing to do with what we do.

In fact, the best way is to close the door and walk away silently, and then remember to give them a sweet smile when you leave. Because your smile can catch them off guard, they must leave quickly, otherwise, if they don't want things to fail, they will definitely be covered up, because they accidentally saw something they shouldn't have seen and lost their lives, which is very unworthy.

As for how to resolve the embarrassment, in fact, the embarrassment has passed. When we meet again, as long as you don't talk, nothing will happen unless they mention it. If you are kind, you should keep their secret. Of course, I also hope that they will be kind and not be killed for fear that things will be revealed.

So, it's okay to be embarrassed. Most importantly, we have to find out how they treat you after disturbing their "good things" and breaking their affair. When dealing with this kind of thing, you should play it by ear. If you have a good relationship with that man, you can ask him what the plot was like that night. Of course, the relationship is iron, or you will be beaten. In short, protect yourself first, human nature is unpredictable, and you have already broken the affair.

One day after work, I walked out of the company for half an hour. It suddenly occurred to me that I had left an important document in the office. I needed it that night and went back to the company immediately. At that time, the office building was empty. Because of the carpet on the stairs, there was no sound when walking. I walked all the way and opened the door of the office. I was stunned by what I saw.

A married male colleague and a married female colleague embraced together, and the male colleague hugged her tightly. Suddenly I heard something at the door, and the two people who were having an affair were startled. Both of them looked at me. I blushed instantly and my brain reacted immediately. After saying something, I envy you two, you are so romantic; Don't worry, I won't say anything. But this is an office, so be careful.

Say that finish, I quickly took the information and left. In the next few days, I didn't say much, and both of them were very calm. Work belongs to work, private affairs belong to private affairs, and everyone is fine.

First, don't talk about the private affairs between colleagues, and don't make rumors.

In the workplace, remember four sentences. Don't listen, don't look, don't talk, just don't listen to what you shouldn't listen to; Don't watch what you shouldn't see, and don't say what you shouldn't say. Because the workplace is a place where gossip prevails, the relationship between colleagues is very sensitive. The relationship here is too complicated and involves a wide range of interests. Talking about private affairs between colleagues will cause great trouble, so be sure to keep your mouth shut. In the workplace, sometimes it's really better to have more than one thing!

The best response to such things in the workplace is to ignore and turn a blind eye. And keep it a secret from now on. Don't talk nonsense. At that time, when I saw my married male and female colleagues snuggling together, I could only pretend that I didn't know anything and didn't tell anyone. Because I think things that harm others and do not benefit themselves should be left to rot in the stomach.

Second, work belongs to work and face it calmly.

In the workplace, colleagues of the opposite sex spend 8- 10 hours together, and the probability of personal feelings is quite high. During my work, I have the same occupation and my hobbies gradually fit in. The right time, the right place and the right people make it easy for the office to be ambiguous. But the office is a workplace, and work belongs to work, so face it calmly.

Although I bumped into the ambiguous behavior of married male and female colleagues, I feel that work is public-to-public, so there is no need to get involved in personal affairs and face it calmly. I am calm, they are calm, they are all fine.

To sum up, private affairs are not good, business is business. Face it calmly, okay.