People's innate temperament

When a large number of parents face some "problems" of their children, their first reaction is: "How can this child be like this?" Or: "When I am old, it is no problem to use this method. Why can't I have a second child? " There must be something wrong with him. "

What parents need at this time is thinking, not just blaming their children for being so weak, lazy and irritable.

In fact, this has something to do with the child's natural temperament.

People's natural temperament can be divided into four categories: optimism, melancholy, calmness and radicalism.

Just like plants, some like wet and some like dry; Some like yang, and some like yin; Flowers of the same species are divided into big flowers and small flowers.

Just like animals, monkeys like to live in the Woods and climb up and down; Fish like to live in water and swim freely.

To raise plants and take care of animals, we must follow their growth characteristics in order to grow well.

Similarly, raising a child is the same, knowing their natural temperament: see what kind of children they belong to, and in what ways is he more talented? In what ways are problems prone to occur?

We should encourage more talented people and give them opportunities to fully develop in this field. In places prone to problems, guide children as soon as possible to avoid problems.

This will make the parenting process more effective. More importantly, children are happier, have more opportunities to do things well in their own fields and gain more sense of accomplishment.

If we look in the wrong direction (for example, we use the wrong way to raise plants), the child can grow up, but he may not grow so well and can't show his best part.

Each of us combines the above four qualities, but one of them accounts for the largest proportion in our personality, which is manifested as our dominant temperament.

At the same time, people with a temperament don't have all the advantages and disadvantages of this temperament type, only that they have a higher tendency.

After all, a person's personality is determined by "innate temperament" and "acquired learning"

Just like a coin has two sides, an innate temperament will have some advantages when it has some characteristics of this temperament.

Understanding different innate qualities will help us better understand children, treat some behaviors of children more objectively and have higher acceptance.

Study with children and meet a better self.