Interesting talk about the personality characteristics and psychology of four characters

Some people say: "Character decides fate", and Le Jia said that "Character decides fate" when analyzing the color of personality. I haven't studied this statement in depth, and I dare not talk nonsense. Let's sort out four kinds of people we often meet from the perspective of life, analyze their personality characteristics and behavior patterns, understand their psychology through their personality characteristics and behaviors, and grasp the proportion of getting along with them in order to communicate better.

The first category: be a good teacher.

Overall characteristics: Such people often have their own independent thoughts, have their own set of guidelines for doing things, and are also good at thinking in work or life. However, they often have a strong desire for self-expression, have strong confidence in their own thoughts, behaviors and ways of doing things, and feel very good about themselves. But the judgment of people and things is also prone to extreme and paranoia.

Lack of points: such people are prone to fall into a strange circle of self-expansion, accustomed to flattery, have strong confidence in themselves, and rarely listen to other people's opinions, even if they are beneficial to themselves.

For this type of person, Sister Xiaowen has some suggestions. To be a teacher, you should stop. First of all, we must find out what other people's needs are, who you want to preach to, and how many "dry goods" you can take out to preach to others. Maybe when others are crying and suffering, you unconsciously judge and evaluate them, making others more collapsed. Or maybe you will meet an introverted and intelligent master who is far superior to you in knowledge, IQ, EQ and wisdom. Not only do you not know, but you also preach to people one by one, and others can only listen as jokes. Therefore, if you can't catch a person, you can't stop preaching to others, preaching and instilling all kinds of "wisdom". Without equal and sincere communication, interaction and communication between people, it will really only make people bored.

The second category: spit and complain.

Overall characteristics: In our work and life, we often meet people who are full of complaints. Such people always make people feel depressed and picky, and always feel that they are in a miserable situation. Complain that work is too hard, that life is not easy, that people around you don't know themselves, and that the weather is changeable. Complain this today, criticize that tomorrow, and spit out all the people and things around you. In short, there are very few things that make you happy and satisfied, and nothing is pleasing to the eye. I have been looking forward to a trip. I want to yearn for poetry and the distance. I either escape what I face or talk endlessly.

Lack of points: such people reveal a kind of depressed and afraid to approach, and there are too many negative, negative and pessimistic emotions. Once they get close, their sense of oppression and tension will immediately affect the people around them.

For such people, Sister Xiaowen's suggestion is only one sentence: "If you are restless, there will be dirt. If you want to be rich, you will be embarrassed. " The root of complaining, criticizing and spitting is nothing more than dissatisfaction with reality, while dissatisfaction comes from comparison, dissatisfaction, jealousy and desire, which will cause psychological imbalance under long-term repression. So, adjust your mentality, put aside the shackles of desire and let the sun shine into your life. In fact, life is not as bad as you think. Complaining won't solve anything. Only when you are calm can you calmly analyze and think. Otherwise, people will be restless and rivers and lakes will be everywhere.

The third category: boastful type.

There is a saying: "A boaster must have low self-confidence", and I quite agree with this view. So people who like to cry roast meat have several different behaviors:

First, as soon as you learn something, as soon as you hear something important, come out and show off and shout loudly that you know this and that. You can do anything, how good you are and how capable you are. However, it's hard to lie when you can blow it out.

Second, I always say that I am not easy. I don't know where to spend so much money all day, and there are no more famous brands at home. All kinds of high-end goods are flooding and assets are everywhere.

Third, I regard gossiping about other people's privacy as my own skill. When I hear the so-called "secret", I can't help having a strong impulse to share it.

Fourth, friends can do anything all over the world, and people are familiar with each other. As soon as they meet, they become like old acquaintances and have great momentum. I just had dinner with someone, maybe just to make up the numbers, and immediately praised myself for having dinner with someone and being good friends with someone. For example, someone called to invite him to dinner, and his third aunt's brother-in-law's little uncle's big cousin was his good friend, who was his relative, and celebrities depended on him ... and so on. In short, all the tall relationships are pulled on themselves.

Anyone who has the above behaviors is a natural speaker with strong expressive ability. At the same time, I am particularly eager to be appreciated and concerned by others, hoping to become the focus of everyone. I can't help but want to attract others' attention and attention. Once I get a cold shoulder or others don't buy it, I will immediately feel disgusted with the people around me.

Disadvantages: lack of discretion in dealing with people, how annoying, trying to be brave, raising oneself and belittling others from time to time, having a mouth that will always give you trouble and an impetuous and erratic heart.

However, there is a good saying: "Those with full ears of rice are all with their heads down, and those without grains are all with their heads up!" " "So, sister xiaowen suggested not to show off to everyone. In this complicated interpersonal society, everyone around you knows who you are. They can brag for a while, but not for life. Of course, if you like to get along with such a person, don't expose him and let his vanity be satisfied; If you don't like it, just ignore it, smile and go in one ear and out the other, because such people generally have strong self-esteem, so don't stimulate them even if they don't like it.

The fourth category: sensitive closed type

Overall characteristics: this kind of person is completely opposite to a braggart. They always like to hide in a quiet corner, don't like excitement, don't like being concerned by others, have a serious lack of self-confidence, are very concerned about the evaluation of people around them, and are particularly sensitive to people and things around them. A little difference can stimulate his fragile and sensitive nerves. If you don't care about other people's words or careless actions, you will analyze and repeatedly ponder whether others are targeting yourself, or whether others have opinions on yourself, and so on. They are eager for others' understanding, but they are afraid to reveal their feelings to others. Even in the way of expression, it is inevitable to beat around the bush, and I always like to hint at others when expressing my thoughts.

Disadvantages: fragile heart, easy to get hurt, often self-pity, worried, like to immerse themselves in memories of the past, always suppress their emotions, preferring to wronged themselves. Therefore, in interpersonal communication, they often bear heavy psychological pressure, giving people a feeling of poor communication and uselessness.

For this kind of person, Sister Xiaowen always has unspeakable pity. Although the world is not as perfect as they think, and people around her can't fully understand and take care of their feelings, she should give herself confidence and courage to go out. Don't always live in other people's eyes and comments, dare to express her thoughts boldly, don't always make yourself feel wronged, and don't waste your feelings on trifles. But one thing, they are often delicate, sincere and full of feelings. Therefore, in the process of interacting with them, we should try our best to understand them, respect them, encourage them, and let them have more courage and enough confidence to face themselves.

These four types of people are the types with high probability in our lives. They have no intention of targeting specific people or things. They just want to let us know more about the discretion when we get along with each other and reduce unnecessary troubles in interpersonal communication through simple combing and analysis. In addition, I believe that many people are not like this for multiple reasons. Then overcome weaknesses, self-stripping, self-sublation, self-improvement, so as to better face life, which is the significance of my writing this article.