Innate temperament - radical type

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Let me lead you to continue learning about the natural temperament: radical type

First, let’s take a look at the radical type. Like the optimistic type, he is an extroverted temperament type.

Just from this name, everyone can feel that radical people are energetic and have particularly strong inner vitality. They have perseverance in doing things and will not accept failure easily. As long as their goals are set, they can be the kind of people who will try 101 more times after failing 100 times in order to achieve their goals. They will never give up until they reach their goals. .

They are particularly capable of action and will take action once they decide. They are natural leaders and are unwilling to settle for the ordinary. When they go to school for further studies, they want to be the squad leader, or they want to be first in the exam, or they want to be the leader in a group. They have strong organizational and command abilities. The ultimate goal in life is to pursue achievement. If there is no achievement, he will be very depressed.

As for what specific achievements he is pursuing? It depends on how he was raised, what kind of outlook on life he has established, and what goals he has set for himself. If his goal is money, then he will do anything to make money; if his life goal is reform, for him, his own life can be given up for reform, so for him He can also let you sacrifice the lives of other people. He will sacrifice no matter how many people sacrifice for this reform, as long as his goal is achieved.

So it can be said that radical people are adventurers among us humans. They are rarely afraid of uncertain things. As long as the goal is determined, they will move towards the goal; they are reformers among us humans. , advocates various new theories, does new things, and is also a big entrepreneur in our lives.

So for such a child, basically we only need to give him enough psychological nutrition, and we can ignore almost everything else. For example, as long as he wants to do well in the exam, he will use his own set of methods. Push yourself by setting goals, because radical children have strong self-discipline, are not afraid of difficulties, and have the advantage of persisting to the end. What parents have to do is to guide his goals, and then he can leave the rest to him.

At this point, everyone will ask, with such a good natural temperament, does he have no shortcomings?

1. ? Of course there is, first of all, because radical children have great energy, a strong sense of strength, and very strong willpower, so they lack some compassion and look down on the weak. He will think that others should be as strong as themselves.

2. ? In addition, radical people are irritable and irritable. If you offend him, his anger and methods will be very intense, and he will often use anger to control others. Aggressive children are more likely to fight. They will use fighting to control you and make you listen to them. They are also good at forming cliques.

3. Radical children are more emotional and will seek revenge.

You see, if you offend an optimistic person, they will forget about it in a few days; if you offend a melancholic person, he will hurt himself in his stomach; if you offend a calm person, he will hurt himself in his head. Think about why this is happening, figure it out, and get over it. But if you offend a radical person, even if it is your child, he will definitely take revenge. He must avenge himself, otherwise he will not be able to survive, and his revenge methods can be very large.

How to raise radical children:

1. When you are with a radical child, you should not try to control him, because when he faces people who want to control him, he will Will definitely fight back. But he is very good at controlling others. As long as he has the opportunity and as long as you are willing, he will control the people around him. Therefore, in the process of raising him, it is best for parents to provide love and affirmation according to his needs, to assist him when he needs it, and to satisfy his sense of accomplishment.

Knowing this characteristic of him, we know how to get along with radical people: that is, we must not confront him head-on, and learn to talk to him neither humble nor arrogant. If you are afraid of him, he will control you. , if you are not afraid of him, he will be more fierce. Fortunately, they have a characteristic. As long as what you say is helpful to his goal, that's fine. As long as he sees why he needs to change and why he needs to make some adjustments, because it is in the greatest benefit to his goal, then this radical person (child) will be willing to make changes and adjustments for the goal. Yes, if not, it can't.

Case: The story of my child Lele. Part of his natural temperament is radical. He will be 8 years old next month. At this age, he is like us when we were young. His ideals are big. He has set himself His ideal is to be a scientist when he grows up, and of course we encourage him. A few days ago, the math teacher assigned me two pages of handwritten calculation homework. He didn’t want to do it, so he told me: “Mom, I know all these questions, and I can do all the calculations verbally, but it’s slower.” , I don’t want to write anymore.

"According to my past habits of confrontation, I know that if I control him and force him to do it, he will jump, yell and cry, and he will also become enemies with me for it, and it will take a long time to deal with his emotions. , that would really take a lot of energy and energy from me. So I thought of this natural way of communicating with radical people, and decided to give it a try. I said, "Well, then your homework is up to you. Bar. ? But did you know that all scientists must have good basic knowledge so that they can slowly develop their ability to master more powerful knowledge? "After Lele listened, she paused for about 2 seconds and stopped talking. She took out her notebook and started doing her homework. I was extremely shocked at Dr. Lin Wencai's understanding of human beings and his method of raising children according to their aptitude. , great!

2. The second point of parenting is that if your child is a radical type, he will set his own goals and find ways to accomplish them, and he will be energetic and act quickly. He speaks very slowly and procrastinates, but he is very responsible for himself. He is a natural leader and is very capable of making decisions. The only thing he has to do is to cultivate children's love from an early age and create opportunities to develop their love. They are caring. But they may be overshadowed by the target; and they will regard others as being as strong as themselves and less compassionate, so when they are young, they must deliberately let such children get in touch with nature, small animals, and plants, and express themselves to others from an early age. Love, take care of the weak.

Radical people have made a lot of contributions to our world. If you add love, compassion and talent to your nature, you will be a good person. people.