How did Zeng Guofan get rid of lewdness?

Zeng Guofan, as a saint admired by later generations, actually has many bad habits, one of which is lewdness. He finally got rid of lewdness through self-discipline and distraction, but it was extremely difficult.

So how did Zeng Guofan get rid of lewdness? Let me analyze it carefully for you.

I. Self-reflection

Before becoming a scholar, Zeng Guofan had been in a daze. Besides reading, he has many bad habits, such as impetuousness, arrogance, hypocrisy and lewdness.

Later, in the twenty years of Daoguang, Zeng Guofan successfully went to Beijing to be an official. He began to re-plan his life and set the great ultimate goal of becoming a saint.

Zeng Guofan's father Zeng Linshu went to Beijing to live, and he gave Zeng Guofan advice. His father left in a hurry a few days after he went to Beijing. Zeng Guofan is a little puzzled. After his father returned to Hunan, he wrote a letter to Zeng Guofan, urging him to make contributions and not be lewd. At this time, Zeng Guofan suddenly realized.

With his father's instruction, Zeng Guofan immediately set out to change his bad habits, among which lewdness is very difficult to change. After all, Zeng Guofan was only 28 years old.

Zeng Guofan's lewdness is very interesting. His lewdness likes to see beautiful women. However, in the Qing Dynasty, it was not as open as it is now. At that time, women seldom went out shopping and hid at home. As there were no beautiful women in the street, he went to a friend's house to see them.

If he hears that someone has married a beautiful wife, he must try his best to take a closer look, and he is often in a daze at first sight, and his heart is in a daze. These things are recorded in his diary.

In addition to seeing a friend's wife, Zeng Guofan is also very lewd about his wife. Even though his wife is ill in bed, he still has many ideas. For example, he recorded in his diary that "I am in a bad mood at night and hate to smell groans". This is when Mrs Ouyang is ill and bedridden. Zeng Guofan suddenly had a desire, but he could not solve it. He is very depressed and irritable.

There are many such details, which are recorded in Zeng Guofan's diary. It was through his own reflection and his father's persuasion that Zeng Guofan became more aware of the seriousness of this problem and was determined to get rid of bad habits.

At first, he kept a diary to supervise and reflect on himself, so as to get rid of his bad habits. If he can't supervise himself, show his diary to his relatives and friends and ask everyone to supervise him together. Later, Zeng Guofan even showed his diary to his younger generations, asked them to annotate it and asked them where they did and didn't do it.

In this way, let the younger generation supervise themselves, they will be more complacent and set an example for future generations, killing two birds with one stone.

In Zeng Guofan's diary, we often see some other people's comments, that is, Zeng Guofan has always insisted on letting people supervise himself. Supervision and introspection made Zeng Guofan take the first step in abstinence, but it did not completely change.

Second, divert attention.

After self-reflection, Zeng Guofan still felt that the effect was not obvious. For example, in the twenty-second year of Daoguang, one morning he got up and wanted to read a book, but he couldn't stand it. He's always thinking about things he shouldn't. No way, he finally did something indescribable with his wife, Mrs. Ouyang.

Afterwards, Zeng Guofan cursed himself as an animal in his diary, which made Zeng Guofan more aware of the importance of getting rid of bad habits. After careful consideration, he found that the main reason for his lust was energy.

So Zeng Guofan began to practice regular script, write articles and read books every day, and then went out for running to exercise, so that he was tired and distracted, and his energy was transferred to other places, and his attention to lewd things would be reduced. Over time, he will become more and more forgetful and change himself.

The distracting effect is really useful. Later, Zeng Guofan gradually got rid of the bad habit of lewdness, and he also kept a diary to supervise himself to get rid of many bad habits such as arrogance and hypocrisy.

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Everyone has some bad habits. The key is whether we are willing to change ourselves. It may be far and difficult to change our path, but as long as we persist, you will surely see unexpected results!

Here comes the master. I'm wuyue. Let me answer this question.

Zeng Guofan is known as the last "saint" in modern China.

But sages are also human beings and have secular desires.

Zeng Guofan's life, before and after forty years old, are two completely different life periods. Before the age of forty, you are a human being, and after forty, you are a "saint".

The subject asked Zeng Guofan how to get rid of his lewd habits, and I'll answer Zeng Guofan's questions in this regard.

When Zeng Guofan was young, like many sons and brothers, he liked a dissolute and romantic life. Go to pubs and brothels with friends every day. It's called greeting.

At that time, there was a popular saying among Hunan people in Beijing that as long as Hunan villagers died, there would inevitably be two people. who is it? One is Jiang Zhongyuan, a native of Xinning who was present to offer condolences, and the other is Zeng Guofan who must write elegiac couplets.

You see, Zeng Guofan was such a pushy person when he was young.

Zeng Guofan wrote many elegiac couplets, two of which were actually addressed to prostitutes in brothels at that time.

The prostitute's name is aunt.

The other one is called Chunyan.

Some friends will ask when they see this, where is Aunt Chun Yan? Please open your eyes and find it yourself, hehe.

This kind of poem is the legendary "prostitute poem".

Look at this Zeng Guofan, where all his knowledge has been used.

It is said that Zeng Guofan gave up sex at the age of forty, because at that time he would lead troops and set an example to rectify military discipline.

But as far as I know, Zeng Guofan didn't really quit.

Because at fifty, he married another concubine, Chen.

How does Zeng Guofan define foreign affairs? He said, ah, he has severe psoriasis, and he is itchy when he sleeps at night, so he needs someone to scratch him. But he was training in Anhui, and his wife was not around, so he married a little wife to tickle.

Judging from the later situation, Zeng Guofan's concubine Chen's tickling kung fu should be very good, because it is said that Zeng Guofan's body is getting better and better and he is in a good mood.

At the age of 57, Zeng Guofan mentioned in his letter to his son that he wanted to marry a concubine, but for some reason it didn't come true.

Therefore, in my opinion, Zeng Guofan is not abstaining from sex, but abstaining from romance.

Moonless culture, reading classics, and taste culture

The first method: keep a diary and scold yourself.

As the saying goes, a leopard cannot change his spots.

If a person is naturally lustful, how easy is it to really change?

Therefore, Zeng Guofan has willpower that ordinary people can't imagine.

Scholars who read sage books, especially those in the Ming and Qing Dynasties, were deeply influenced by Neo-Confucianism, and their minds were full of Neo-Confucianism. The way to sanctify is to "preserve justice and destroy human desires."

Therefore, many literati want to reach the realm of sages, and they despise their "eager to move" behavior. Regard lust as the head of all evil.

Moreover, these scholars are often obsessed with cleanliness and think that abstinence from color is the way to seek holiness.

There are many men who have no sexual desire, and Zeng Guofan should be one of them.

He also recorded all his color centers in his diary.

Once at a friend's house, I saw a beautiful housewife. "It's rude to watch it several times."

He stared at his friend's wife. In ancient times, people paid attention to see no evil, saying nothing if you are indecent, and not listening if you are indecent.

As a scholar, he despises his own behavior, so he feels rude.

At 14 o'clock in the first day of November in Daoguang, the weather was getting cold. That day, he got up early and read a book, but found nothing. At noon, he felt that "people should be arrogant and uncontrollable", so he did something shameful, and then he called himself "what an animal!" In his diary.

Zeng Guofan also looked at his friend's beautiful concubines and his words were frivolous.

After reading it, I went home to write a diary and scolded myself: "I am not a human being, I am ashamed." What else do you ask? "

Over time, he began to get rid of his unbearable habit, stopped spying on his friend's wife, and even began to taboo his loving behavior with his wife.

The second method: follow your father's instructions.

1838, Zeng Guofan went to Beijing as an official for the senior high school entrance examination. Later, he took his father to Beijing to play. After his father came home, he wrote him a letter and gave him a piece of advice: abstinence, no work and no eating.

Zeng Guofan was ashamed and thought for a few days.

From this sentence, he thinks that if we don't give up color and control our desires.

That may have died long ago. It's really unfilial for white-haired parents to send black hair.

So in order to be filial, he began to restrain his desires. The third method: turn yourself into a learner and a workaholic.

In order to quit color, Zeng Guofan is really throwing caution to the wind. When the desire is at its peak, he first resists by his own willpower and can't help studying crazily.

Many people have nothing to do in life because of laziness, and eventually they are mediocre.

Zeng Guofan was diligent all his life: physical diligence, hand diligence, eye diligence, oral diligence and heart diligence.

Zeng Guofan was diligent, and Zeng Guofan set an example. He got up early before dawn in the army, supervised the training of soldiers and handled complicated affairs.

Under such circumstances, he arranged his time so full that he had no spare energy to think about lewd things.

But, on the other hand, men are not good at debauchery, so what can women expect?

References: the front and side of Zeng Guofan

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Text: Chen Xian

Zeng Guofan's life has experienced many ups and downs, plus decades of ups and downs in officialdom and countless experiences. It can be said that he knew the way of success or failure and became a pillar of the late Qing Dynasty. But Zeng Guofan was lewd when he was young, and he also made many mistakes made by men. He is addicted to beauty and can't extricate himself. So how did Zeng Guofan get rid of his lewdness?

Zeng Guofan realized that he should not be like this. He knows that lecherous people don't achieve much, and many successful people are ruined by it. From then on, Zeng Guofan decided to turn over a new leaf, and he wanted to "learn and be an official." At that time, he also set a few rules for himself.

But there is one shortcoming that is difficult to change, that is, lewdness, lewdness of men, which is more normal. In addition, he was also an official at that time, in his thirties. Since ancient times, lust has been hard to extinguish in the world. The stronger a person is, the harder it is to resist the temptation of eroticism.

But since he wants to be a saint, he can't just talk without doing it. He thought of a way to keep a diary every day and record things about colors to alert himself. He met the hostess at a friend's house and wrote in his diary that he had seen others several times. It was really rude. At another friend's house, he saw his beautiful concubine and criticized himself in his diary, so he had a habit of not tolerating other people's wives, that is, forcing himself not to look at other women, which led to some alienation from his wife.

But even if he wrote it down, he would inevitably make mistakes, so in order to overcome his lust, he turned himself into a working machine. He studies hard every day and runs out of energy. As long as he opens his eyes, he keeps thinking about his work. Zeng Guofan was busy with state affairs during the day and kept a diary by copying calligraphy at night. He recorded all his thoughts and feelings in Huasong, and he also wrote letters to every brother and child at home to tell them about their study and life.

Zeng Guofan successfully gave up his lust through unremitting efforts. I have to say that this method is not suitable for everyone. Perhaps most people have long wanted to keep a diary, but Zeng Guofan can successfully quit lust in this way, which tells us that the real strong can overcome their weaknesses. His method seems simple, but it is still difficult for many people.

Although I understand the truth, how many people can do it? Zeng Guofan can only admire his strong self-control from diaosi counterattack to saint.

Zeng Guofan, the first minister of ZTE, and Zhang Zhidong, Li Hongzhang and Zuo are called "four famous ministers".

He is the founder of Xiang army. Without him, the Qing Dynasty would have been destroyed by the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom during the Xianfeng period. He was also called "the first minister of ZTE" because of his loyalty to the Qing Dynasty.

Famous officials are also lewd. Zeng Guofan had a lustful heart when he was young, just like most officials at that time.

It is said that Zeng Guofan was jealous when he saw other people's wives and concubines as beautiful as flowers and pure as jade at the official banquet. He remembered that his wife's appearance was far from them, and he was resentful to her.

But the next morning, he realized that his idea was wrong and called himself a "real beast".

On another occasion, Zeng Guofan heard that his colleague had a really beautiful concubine, and he wanted to meet her, but the official refused, but he could not stop Zeng Guofan's repeated entreaties and finally let the concubine meet Zeng Guofan.

After seeing Zeng Guofan, he fell in love again, said a lot of disrespectful words, and had many ideas that he shouldn't have. He is also a "playboy".

How Zeng Guofan quit color

In fact, Zeng Guofan's way of abstaining from lust is also very simple, that is, every time he commits lust caution, he keeps things in his diary to alert himself, then deeply blames himself and reflects on himself, and so on, and finally lust caution disappears completely.

Evaluation is this boring question again.

Did you see Zeng Guofan get rid of lewdness? According to what he wrote in his diary? Or listen to those unpretentious pseudo-literati to spread the truth?

Zeng Guofan married a concubine in his sixties. Is this a habit of abstinence? Do you believe what the executioner said? Fuck you!

Zeng Guofan said, "Either a saint or an animal." If he is not half a saint, then the other half is an animal.

Reading his books, coupled with the noisy work of his neighbors, blew him to the sky. Actually, that's not the case at all.

Boring, ignorant, boring and shameless questions!

The prodigal son never changes his gold, so he introspects.

As the old saying goes, food and sex are also important. It can be said that lewdness is human nature, and even saints can't avoid it. And since Zeng Guofan can only claim to be half a saint, he can't avoid custom. According to historical records, Zeng Guofan's life was very indulgent when he was young, and he was addicted to women all day long.

That was when Zeng Guofan was twenty-seven years old. After three imperial examinations, Zeng Guofan was finally admitted to Jinshi and was appointed as an academician by Daoguang. From then on, he came to Beijing to start his career. It stands to reason that Zeng Guofan finally set foot on his official career, and he should be more eager to make a fortune.

But Zeng Guofan may have been suppressed by his long-term studies for too long, just like those high school students who finished the college entrance examination, so after he came to Beijing for further study, like many college students, he began to let himself go. At that time, the capital was ten miles prosperous and everything was feasting. As a warm-blooded young man, Zeng Guofan could not resist the temptation.

Moreover, Zeng Guofan, as a new official, wants to make friends with old officials, and inevitably drinks and exchanges with those dignitaries, and often goes in and out of fireworks places to have sex. In the long run, Zeng Guofan is naturally addicted to debauchery. Even so, he still learned from other officials, not only taking concubines, but also openly keeping several lovers in the brothel, and having fun.

In this way, Zeng Guofan is probably one of those officials in the Qing Dynasty, and his name will not leave any trace in history, let alone be known by all of us. However, when Zeng Guofan was 30 years old, something happened, which made him determined to learn from these mistakes and make positive changes, and eventually became Ceng Wenzheng, one of the "four famous ministers of Yixian".

At the age of thirty, Zeng Guofan had gradually gained a foothold in Beijing, so he specially took his father to Beijing for a few months. However, his father only lived for a few days and then went back to his hometown directly, which puzzled Zeng Guofan greatly. He kept asking his father why he went home, but he said nothing but that he would go home. Finally, Zeng Guofan had to obey his father's wishes.

But after Zeng Guofan's father returned to his hometown in Hunan, he wrote a letter to Zeng Guofan. The content of the letter is to persuade him not to have sex too often and not to focus on women. After all, this age is a great opportunity to make achievements.

Perhaps the sound insulation effect of Zeng Guofan's family is not good, or maybe Zeng Guofan is too indulgent, which makes his father really unbearable. This is the only way out. Zeng Guofan felt very ashamed when he saw his father's letter from home. Looking back on his three years of indulgence, he suddenly turned himself from a warm-blooded young man for the country and the people into a lecherous lothario.

For example, once, his colleague married a daughter-in-law, and everyone said that the bride was beautiful. Zeng Guofan insisted on seeing the bride, otherwise he wouldn't leave.

Finally, the groom's official could not defeat Zeng Guofan, so he had to let the bride come out to meet Zeng Guofan. Therefore, Zeng Guofan coveted the beauty of the bride, and even dreamed of having sex with the bride at night. Of course, such a thing happened to Zeng Guofan more than once.

In this context, Zeng Guofan increasingly felt that his behavior was too despicable, and at this rate, his life would be ruined. Therefore, Zeng Guofan decided to turn over a new leaf. He wants to "learn to be an official", so the first thing to do is to abstain from color and prevent women from hollowing out their bodies and minds.

Zeng Guofan successfully did three things for his abstinence: the first thing was to keep a diary, and every time he became lustful, he immediately wrote a diary to review it. In a word, Zeng Guofan, Zeng Guofan, shame on you. You are really reading a sage's book.

The second thing is to use other methods to suppress sexual desire, such as imagining a beautiful woman as her sister or a pile of rotting corpses, so as to dispel her inner desires.

The third thing is to make yourself a workaholic. As the saying goes, there are endless things to do every day, and naturally it will not be a dream.

Therefore, Zeng Guofan studied hard every day. As long as he opened his eyes, he kept thinking about his work. During the day, he is busy with state affairs. In the evening, he copied calligraphy and kept a diary to record all his thoughts and feelings in Huasong. He also wrote letters to every brother and child in his family and taught them to study and live, so that he had plenty of time to suppress evil thoughts.

Finally, God paid off, and Zeng Guofan's actions completely transformed him. Since then, his career has been smooth sailing, and he has been promoted seven times in ten years, even ten times. In the end, he became the governor of Liangjiang, the governor of Zhili, the university student of Wuyingdian, and the first-class Yi Hou Yong. posthumous title was the "Zheng Wen" and the last master of Confucianism in China.

It is said that there are only two and a half saints in history who meet the three immortal standards of "making contributions and making statements". They are Confucius, Wang Yangming and half Zeng Guofan. And "half Zeng Guofan" has become "the first perfect person since ancient times."

Zeng Guofan's "meritorious service" was to lead the Xiang army, suppress the Taiping Rebellion and save the ruined Qing Dynasty.

Zeng Guofan's Xiang army was brave and invincible, and fought all the way from Jiujiang to Nanjing. Moreover, it is attacking a city, slaughtering a city and plundering a city, especially Jiujiang in Jiangxi, Ningguo in Anhui and Nanjing in Jiangsu. As the saying goes, "the straight religion will do its best, and the corpses will not flow in the Yangtze River."

At that time, the Xiang army received the most generous treatment, which was said to be at least three times the salary of the Eight Banners. This is absolutely credible. Because even if Zeng Guofan is clean, the court does not allocate the manuscript fee, and he also has money to pay. Why be greedy when you can rob openly?

Ceng Guoquan, Zeng Guofan's younger brother, was very nervous and afraid of retribution after the invasion of Anqing and the massacre. Zeng Guofan wrote to Ceng Guoquan: "Now that you have led the troops, you are determined to kill the thief. Why do you regret killing more people? " Since it is to kill people, there is no reason to regret killing more! "

Since then, Ceng Guoquan has led the army to slaughter and plunder without any guilt. He is full of firepower and fighting capacity, and it is natural to destroy the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom.

Zeng Guofan's "Li Yan" is naturally the famous "Zeng Guofan's Letter".

Reading a letter from home, of course, is the positive part of reading and learning. Only after reading these can I understand that Zeng Guofan is a "saint" and a "perfect man", which is an admirable natural and normal thing.

Excellent, positive things, naturally as an example, study hard.

Zeng Guofan's "virtue" is to always be alert and demand himself with Confucian moral standards, which is the so-called "self-denial."

Zeng Guofan's abstinence from color stems from his desire for "virtue", and his method is actually not troublesome. He just keeps a diary and scolds himself every day. Continue the next day after scolding, and then continue to keep a diary and scold yourself. I have been cursing myself for decades, and when I am 50 or 60 years old, I will naturally stop cursing. Oh, by the way, I successfully quit color!

Let's see how Zeng Guofan did it.

Zeng Guofan once attended a group worship of a Jinshi classmate. Because all the concubines he visited were beautiful, Zeng Guofan opened his eyes wide and couldn't help looking around. After returning home, Zeng Guofan wrote in his diary: "Another day, my eyes are always evil." I'm ashamed of myself.

However, not long after I scolded myself, I went to a friend's house for dinner. When I saw my friend Maggie at dinner, I couldn't help teasing her again.

Of course, Zeng Guofan wrote more than two things in his diary.

In addition to concubines of classmates and friends, Zeng Guofan often goes in and out of fireworks places and often writes elegiac couplets for his favorite brothel woman. That's ... that's shaving. It's all spent.

He wrote an elegy to a brothel woman named Auntie: "Ordinary life is like a dream, and Auntie is fascinated from here."

The other song is for Chun Yan: "Unfortunately, the red light and green wine are actually bad spring;" We have known each other before. When can I see Yan again? "

What else is wishful thinking, horseshoes, a big wave of fireworks, and the list goes on. It can only be said that people are handsome, that is, everyone loves them.

However, after the Xiang army invaded Nanjing, Zeng Guofan vigorously developed the brothel industry in order to revitalize the economy in a scorched land in the south of the Yangtze River. In order to eliminate customers' concerns, Wen set an example and demonstrated it in person.

When Zeng Guofan was in his fifties, he insisted on taking a woman named Chen as his concubine. No matter how to persuade him, it was useless. It is said that Zeng Guofan had a skin disease, and something similar to snake scales grew on his body, which was extremely itchy. Introduced by others, I met this woman Chen, who was only 19 years old at that time. It seems that this little woman is good at tickling. I don't know if any other women have teased Zeng Guofan before.

One of his students later found Zeng Guofan with a sword, saying that you are a saint, and you are going to the Confucian Temple to be worshipped by scholars of all ages. You can't do this. Let me kill that woman. As a result, Zeng Guofan argued that his students also had an affair (saying that his students had hooked up with the landlord's daughter when they took the scholar exam). Two people had a quarrel, and then Chen was soon scared to death.

To say that Zeng Guofan's method of abstaining from color is absolutely effective. Just use it boldly. This method is absolutely applicable to everyone and will definitely take effect. The secret is "persistence"!

If you have been in your thirties and forties, you will be in your fifties and sixties. If you haven't done it by the age of 50 or 60, it means you are still in good health. Then stick to 70 or 80 years old. Ah, I haven't done it yet, can I? I am young and ambitious. I like you. /kloc-I am waving to you at the age of 0/00. However, you must believe in yourself. According to Ceng Wenzheng's method, you will quit color successfully, and you can do it one day! Believe me, I will never lie to you.

Zeng Guofan is famous for his three commandments: first, don't smoke, second, don't lie, and third, don't be rude.

Color abstinence is the third taboo room (bedroom) disrespect.

Zeng Guofan's process of abstaining from color was particularly tortuous. After all, it is difficult to restrain his instinct by "eating color". Zeng Guofan is not much better than ordinary people. He lived in an era when polygamy was highly respected. Besides, his position is not low. It is easy to satisfy his desire, but he can choose to "cut the grass and root out the roots and swear to fight to the end."

Zeng Guofan's caution is recorded in his diary. We learned the whole thing through the diary, which is divided into three steps:

1, the wife is sick, and her physiological desires are not satisfied, thus expanding women's sexual needs;

2. At a friend's house, I found that they all have many wives and concubines, which further produced a "beaming" heart;

3. Make up your mind to adjust your color center and cultivate your morality.

Zeng Guofan's wife, Ouyang, is weak and prone to illness. It is in this case that Zeng Guofan gave birth to the love of color because of his physiological reaction.

At the beginning, Zeng Guofan didn't realize what was wrong with his desire:

After his father's advice and his vigilance, Zeng Guofan reflected on his behavior and was just an "unscrupulous villain".

In this way, Zeng Guofan strengthened his idea of abstinence.

Zeng Guofan set a hard target for himself when he quit color. The first is to be firm in your ideal of realizing your career, and the second is to suppress your desire, even with your wife, to restrain yourself from being too intimate. Third, abstinence from color is one of the three commandments in life.