How to be highly self-disciplined?

There are many such people around us.

While complaining about unfair fate and bad luck, I brush Weibo and play games.

They are angry and idle away their time.

They hate their present work situation, but they are unwilling to make any changes.

They don't like doing simple repetitive tasks every day, but they are always afraid to step out of the safety zone.

Yes, there are many such people in life. Maybe you are one of them, anxious and lazy. Brushing Weibo, playing games and surfing the Internet in Internet cafes may seem free, but when I can't sleep at midnight, I still ask myself, where is the future? Is it like this all your life?

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It is said that life is full of hardships on the road where few people walk.

Many people waste time, complain about the world and feel that society is unfair. In fact, they don't realize that life is hard.

Each of us will encounter all kinds of difficulties.

Two thousand a month has two thousand troubles a month.

A monthly salary of 20 thousand naturally has the trouble of 20 thousand a month.

How much return, naturally how much effort.

When we realize the suffering of life, we naturally have to solve it.

It is mentioned in The Road Few People Walk that self-discipline is the primary tool to solve life problems and an important means to eliminate life pain. Through self-discipline, we know how to gain benefits from learning and growth with a firm and brave attitude when facing problems.

How to eliminate the pain of life through self-discipline? Simply put, the so-called self-discipline is an important principle to solve the pain of life with a proactive attitude, which mainly includes four aspects: delaying satisfaction, taking responsibility, respecting facts and maintaining balance.

delay of gratification

Delaying satisfaction means rearranging the order of happiness and pain in life without coveting temporary comfort: first, face the problem directly and feel the pain; Then, solve the problem and enjoy greater happiness, which is the only feasible way of life.

This example is given in the book, just like a six-year-old child, who first learns to eat cake, then cream, and finally slowly enjoys sweetness. Seven-year-olds know how to finish their homework before going to play or watch TV.

Develop a model of suffering first and then doing it, that is, delaying satisfaction.

It also applies to us at work. We should finish the most difficult work first and the easiest work last, so that we can become more and more handy in our work, instead of being cornered by ourselves.

shoulder the responsibility

This book mentions a ranking, personality disorder psychology, which is simply to seek advantages and avoid disadvantages.

When you are in trouble, comfort yourself when you meet a hurdle that you can't get through. It's not my fault, it's others who drag me down, which is caused by social factors beyond my control. Someone else or society should solve it for me.

Personality disorder, each of us will have this problem more or less, but truly mature people can take the initiative to stand up and tell themselves that this is my responsibility and I have to bear it myself.

In the book, for example, a doctor chose to treat more patients, which led him to work overtime and stay up late, and spent all day in anxiety.

He found the boss, and the boss told him that this is your own problem, and your time is your problem.

He suddenly realized that he had chosen this desperate working mode, which was neither entrusted nor forced.

This is his own responsibility, so he should make his own choice.

Be loyal to the facts

The third principle is to be loyal to the facts, that is, to admit all the truth and not to deceive yourself or others.

We have no shortage of such people.

My English is not good, I can't recite a few words, and I stutter in spoken English, but I choose to escape, cheat and paralyze myself, and I won't use English in the future. In this way, your English will never stay at the level that you can't pass Band 4.

At work, I realized that there was something wrong with the plan, but I chose to delay it, not solve it, and wait for the end.

To make the mind grow and the mind mature, we must do our best, always respect the facts, embrace the pain, solve problems and grow.

keep balance

We can't overdo it, and so can self-discipline.

Just like you want to lose weight, but you can't restrain yourself from eating only one apple a day. You have to study, but you can't just sleep for two hours a day.

Self-discipline is a hard and complicated job, and you need to have enough courage and judgment.

You take the pursuit of honesty as your responsibility, and you also need to keep some facts and truths.

You should not only take responsibility, but also refuse the responsibility you shouldn't take.

In order to make life standardized, efficient and pragmatic, we must learn to postpone our satisfaction and take a long-term view.

We should live our present life as well as possible, and make happiness outweigh pain through proper efforts.

In other words, self-discipline itself still needs special "constraints", which I call "maintaining balance", which is also the fourth principle of self-discipline.

The road of life is a long process. It's like a long marathon. If you push too hard, you may only stick to the beginning. The same is true of self-discipline. You should keep a balance, let yourself go further, let yourself go slowly, but have unlimited power.

True freedom is actually a high degree of self-discipline, learn self-discipline and let your people live a higher life.

This is methodology, not chicken soup. May you learn self-discipline and take control of your life.

May you be less hurt when you are stubborn, and may things change when you suddenly realize.

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