Watch "Ode to Joy 2" to understand PAC analysis

A good-looking TV series or movie must be successful in shaping the characteristics of the characters, so that the audience will have a deep memory of the characteristics of the characters, and be willing to think about and explore why such and such situations happen to the characters.

"Ode to Joy 2" continues the popularity of the first part, and the emotional story surrounding the five girls on the 22nd floor of Ode to Joy has undergone considerable changes. In particular, the heroine Andy is a mature woman with high IQ, successful career, high vision, and very professional. The encounter with Singularity goes from the Internet to reality, which is a bit romantic and very practical. In the play, Singularity is so stable and has a successful career. He was also very good to Andy. The two of them seemed to be a good match, but they lost to Mr. Bao, who seemed to be a charming and suave person. Andy would rather get pregnant with Xiaobao out of wedlock than let Singularity have any intimate behavior. His final choice of Xiaobao was surprising.

Although Lao Hu himself likes the actor Qingdian very much, he feels that Andy's choice makes some sense. This change in the plot has also triggered heated discussions among many movie fans.

In fact, if you know something about human resources, you will find that Andy's choice is normal and "obeys his heart", or it is an inevitable choice of free love.

Today, Lao Hu will use a theory in human resources management to briefly explain to you Andy, Mr. Xiaobao and Singularity.

In 1964, Canadian psychologist Eric Berne proposed a famous theory in his book "Game People Play": PAC Interpersonal Communication Theory. This analysis theory believes that an individual's personality is composed of three psychological states with different proportions, which are the "parent", "adult" and "child" states.

Take the first English letter between these three, Parent (parent), Adult (adult), Child (child), so it is referred to as PAC analysis of personality structure. The "P-A-C" theory divides an individual's "self" into three states: "parent", "adult", and "child". These three states exist interactively in everyone, which means that these three states constitute the multiple natures of human beings. of three parts.

The "parent" status is marked by a sense of authority and superiority, often characterized by paternalism. When the P component is dominant in a person's personality structure, this person's behavior is like teaching and blaming others, but he also often cares about and comforts others.

The "adult" state is characterized by paying attention to factual basis and being good at objective and rational analysis. This kind of person can estimate various possibilities from past stored experiences and then make decisions. When A component is dominant in a person's personality structure, this person's behavior is as follows: calmness in dealing with others, careful thinking and judgment, and respect for others.

The "child" state is like a child's impulsiveness, which manifests as a preference for impromptu, impulsive, and emotional behaviors. When C is dominant, they are often brave enough to express their feelings and are willing to let go, which can easily attract The favor of others; but these behaviors are immature and even absurd in the eyes of the majority of people.

The proportions of the three psychological states are different in each person, and they will appear unconsciously under certain conditions. PAC theory has many applications. Let’s take a brief look at the types of Andy, Mr. Bao and Singularity in "Ode to Joy 2".

In Lao Hu’s view, the characteristics of the three people are very obvious:

Andy: A professional woman who does not make friends easily and is very rational in dealing with others. Due to family changes since childhood, , wraps himself very tightly, but deep down he longs to relax, but has never found the right person or environment to relax and get to know himself;

Mr. Xiao Bao: From the outside, he looks like a typical rich man. The second generation has a handsome appearance and is suave. Under the seemingly flamboyant appearance, he is practical and well-versed in social rules but treats others sincerely and cheerfully. He has a high emotional intelligence and will not let go easily once he identifies someone or something.

Singularity: He is successful in his career, but he thinks he has a thorough understanding of the world and is cautious about everyone. He is hard to get close to even though he is admired. Qingdian is very mature. Although he is not as good-looking as Xiaobao, he exudes the charm of a mature and successful man in every gesture. He is of very high quality. He is very tolerant of Andy, but there seems to be a clear distinction between them. a line.

From the perspective of PAC theory, Lao Hu believes that the three of them are as follows:

Andy: It belongs to the low-high-low PAC distribution, that is, the proportion of her parent roles and child roles. Low, the adult role is relatively high;

Xiaobao Zong: Belongs to the low-high-high P AC distribution, that is, the proportion of his parent role is low, and the adult and child roles are high;

Singularity: It belongs to the high-low PAC distribution, that is, his parent role and adult role are high in proportion, and his child role is low;

Therefore, Andy and Singularity both use A's way of communication is that both parties are very rational, and their lives do not interfere with each other. They only spend more time together than ordinary friends, and the way of interaction is not much different from that of colleagues.

Even Singularity hid his identity when they met because of suspicion at first. Later, after the two parties became boyfriend and girlfriend, they occasionally communicated with each other as parents, and Andy is a very independent person. People who obey the P-to-A communication method or the A-to-A communication method in a love relationship because they have no better choice have never brought her inner happiness!

Until he met Bao Yifan, the boss of the small package. At work, of course they communicated rationally in an A-to-A adult manner. Andy discovered that Bao Yifan underneath the playboy appearance was very down-to-earth and sincere in his work. Yes, this contrast not only dispels doubts, but also builds goodwill.

After Xiaobao decided that Andy should be his goal, his high proportion of C role was completely revealed in front of Andy, which was exactly what blocked Andy due to family changes when he was young. The key to the broken heart. So we see this scene in the play: "As soon as Andy arrived in Phuket, Thailand, Bao Yifan followed him, and Bao Yifan followed with a silly smile on his face. No matter how coldly Andy looked at him, He always seemed to be reluctant to leave.

Andy was as cold as the moonlight. She walked straight to the room as if there was no one around. As soon as she opened the door, Bao Yifan stepped in without hesitation. Bao Yifan refused to leave the sofa and looked at Andy pitifully, while pretending to be cute and begging to be taken in. When Andy was leisurely reading a book by the pool, Bao Yifan was topless and danced coquettishly, attracting An. Di's eyes. Andy had never seen such a rogue person. She got up and left angrily, leaving Bao Yifan dancing alone."

Therefore, Xiaobao always has a high proportion of A roles and C roles. Andy's character gradually attracted Andy, and even allowed Andy to strengthen his role as a parent in front of him to face Mr. Bao's role as a child. From then on, Andy was unable to accept Singularity's role as a parent, nor the emotional world of A to A.

We understand the PAC theory and can analyze our own psychological and behavioral performance when focusing on different roles. It is also easier to understand the reactions and behaviors of others. Communication based on understanding will be very efficient.

The above analysis may be one-sided, and everyone's understanding of the role will be different. But Lao Hu used so many words to tell his friends that it is interesting to learn some management knowledge. Management knowledge is not exclusive to managers.