Long-distance dating online dating boyfriend meets me in my city for the first time. Can I book my own hotel? Or should I pay?

Hello! I understand your thoughts very well, be polite and do my best as a landlord. These aspects should be based on the perspective of each person doing things for others, the way of treating people, and the time and emotional level you get along with. What you do is understandable, there is no right or wrong. Maybe your boyfriend will insist on not letting you pay and book. In that case, you can give him some local specialties or some small gifts. But in any case, you should invite him to your place for dinner as the host, which is also a courtesy. In short, don't rack your brains and think too much. As long as you think it's the best, try to do it.