Ode to Joy: the singularity of the first generation and the small bag of the second generation. Why did Andy choose the latter?

Andy in Ode to Joy, because he was an orphan since childhood, has a withdrawn personality, and close contact with people will produce fear and psychological obstacles.

So Andy lived to be 30 years old, and she never fell in love once. Apart from work, she is basically a person, and there is no social circle in her life.

It was not until she returned to China and met a singularity that she began her love enlightenment stage.

Judging from the plot, Andy appreciates and likes Singularity, but why did he finally choose to break up with him and choose Bao Xiao who came from behind?

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Let me briefly talk about singularities first.

Singularity and Andy met online, and it is obviously very difficult to meet Andy. The singularity met smoothly after Andy's wisdom.

Obviously, the wisdom of Singularity is equal to Andy's, so it is no problem to match Andy.

At the same time, when they first met, they had a good chat. Andy actually has deep feelings for Singularity, not to mention Singularity for Andy. When he met Andy with both beauty and wisdom, he got a treasure.

So after several meetings and dates, the two quickly established a relationship.

No one is perfect, and gold is not enough. Even Andy, who is so talented, handsome and rich, can't escape his psychological defects.

Just when Singularity and Andy want to get closer, they find that Andy has contact barriers, and it is difficult for Andy to hug and kiss naturally, let alone further intimate actions.

At this point, the total difference between singularity and package is shown.

Singularity thinks that Andy is different from ordinary people in this respect, that is to say, she has mental illness in this respect, so she consults psychologists everywhere to solve the psychological obstacles brought by Andy as a child.

Moreover, he explored Andy's privacy too much, which caused Andy's strong dislike many times.

I think Singularity is selfish. By exploring Andy's personal birth privacy, we can find the root of Andy's psychological disorder, and it also shows that Singularity can't accept Andy's defects.

Singularity did this in the hope of getting closer to Andy and seeking a normal intimate relationship, but he didn't consider whether Andy could accept it, or even whether he could overcome such psychological obstacles.

He didn't respect Andy's idea, but relied on his own cleverness to guess Andy's idea privately, which made Andy very disgusted.

Even find Andy's biological father at all costs, the father who hates Andy's guts, the father who abandoned himself and his mother since childhood.

The appearance of Wei Guoqiang completely touched Andy's bottom line and made Andy crazy many times, which was also the last straw to crush Andy's love relationship with Singularity.

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But Bao Xiao is always different, and it is enough to show it when chasing Andy. He showed completely different patience and perseverance from Singularity, as well as extraordinary self-confidence.

You can catch up, you can catch up. If you can't catch up, you can continue to catch up. In the process of pursuing Andy, he never showed strong utilitarianism.

Because love is not utilitarian, especially Andy, who is not short of money, has higher requirements for the purity of love.

Even if Andy doesn't accept himself, Andy doesn't have any further intimate contact with himself. He doesn't care. He likes chasing Andy very much, and he likes being with him very much.

His love for Andy is purer.

When he touches Andy's privacy, such as Andy's ex-boyfriend, he will feel deeply sorry and then stop asking questions. He won't investigate like a singularity. He has great respect for Andy. He knew that when Andy wanted to tell himself, he would say it naturally.

So Bao Xiao always wins Andy's heart with his patience and perseverance, and even waits for Andy's active confession.

Even together, in the face of her mother's unreasonable investigation of Andy, Bao Xiao always defends Andy and fights with her mother.

In relationships, mutual respect is very important. Boys' respect for girls is not only a sign of wisdom, but also a sign of high emotional intelligence. Instead, it can win the love and respect of girls.

Especially independent women with high knowledge and high salary like Andy will only demand more respect.

Mr. Jiang Yang once mentioned in his book what is a good education and what is a good marriage: the most important thing in the combination of men and women is affection. Only by understanding each other can they appreciate, attract, support and encourage each other, two of a kind.

In my opinion, the most important thing between husband and wife is friendship. Even if you can't be intimate friends, you should be friends who can be partners or partners who respect each other. It doesn't matter whether you are suitable or not.

Respect includes both respecting each other's independent thoughts and respecting each other's privacy. At this point, Singularity was completely defeated by the small package contractor Yifan.

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In feelings, the order of appearance is also very important.

When Singularity was with Andy, Andy knew nothing about love, and he was not even good at interpersonal communication.

So the singularity, to some extent, has also become cannon fodder in Andy's feelings.

Andy, who is with singularity, has no love experience at all.

She believes that if you trust and love someone, you should tell all your privacy and expose your wounds to each other without reservation.

She doesn't know if the other person can bear this imperfect Andy who is perfect in appearance but scarred in heart.

Obviously, Singularity's heart is not strong enough to accept Andy's defects without reservation, so he will continue to explore and explore privacy, so as to touch Andy's bottom line.

After experiencing a failed relationship with Singularity, Andy began to understand that even if he trusted each other again, he should not tell his life and privacy at once.

So when I am with Bao Yifan, I will talk bit by bit and slowly express my inner feelings.

Such feelings often come more firmly.

Therefore, the overall love foundation between Andy and Bao Xiao is relatively stable, so that even if there is a contradiction between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, as well as the subsequent Bao Xiao's handling of Andy's younger brother, there will always be a series of contradictions with Andy, which will eventually be solved and smoothly together.

Finally, I want to say that love pays more attention to propriety and comfort. When Andy and Bao Xiao are always together, it is obvious that there is a happy smile on her face.

When he was with Singularity, Andy later showed more resistance and fear, not to mention normal love.

After all, Andy has no privacy about Singularity, and Singularity is a person who knows himself too well. How can Andy not be afraid of such a partner?

In the final analysis, love is about time, place and people. Meeting the right person at the right time is a good story.

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Today's topic discussion: Singularity or Packet Manager, which do you prefer?