When I encounter difficulties in my work, I am afraid to ask for help. How can I get rid of this bad habit?

In our work, it is inevitable that we will encounter difficulties, and we dare not ask for help or help when we encounter difficulties. It is entirely because of "face" and "heart disease". If you want to get rid of this bad habit, you must change your inherent way of thinking and have a correct understanding of "asking for help".

1. Tear off the veil of "sorry" and focus on solving the problem.

It is human nature to feel embarrassed when asking for help, but it is not normal to pay too much attention to face.

When I first entered the workplace, I was always embarrassed to ask my colleagues for help because of saving face. On the one hand, I am afraid that once I let my colleagues know what I can't do, I will feel incompetent. On the other hand, I am afraid that my colleagues will take trouble and refuse my help, which will affect interpersonal relationships.

But it turns out that when I don't ask for help in time and can't solve it smoothly by myself, my work efficiency and quality will be affected, and even the performance of the whole team will be affected. Leaders and colleagues will be more dissatisfied with me, and my interpersonal relationship will be worse.

After all, a person's strength is limited, and no matter how strong his ability is, he will be unable to do it. Sometimes it may be the worst policy for a person to support himself.

People who pay too much attention to face often lose the goal of doing things when they encounter difficulties, forget what their purpose is, and care too much about what others think and say about themselves.

So as long as you focus on how to solve the current problem, you will feel that face is not so important and there is nothing to be embarrassed about asking for help.

2. Pay attention to "reciprocity" and provide help to others.

There is a good saying: "Being needed is a great recognition of a person's ability."

In the workplace, each of us hopes that our abilities can be recognized by others, and then prove that we are a valuable person.

So we think that asking for help will bring trouble to others, but many times, what we think of as "trouble" is "recognition" and "trust" in the eyes of others.

From the perspective of "reciprocity", only when we ask others for help can others ask us for help when they encounter difficulties, and our relationship will be consolidated and deepened in this kind of mutual assistance.

On the contrary, if each of us thinks highly of ourselves and you don't bother me and I don't bother you, there will be a lack of emotional communication and interpersonal relationships will not be too close.

If it is really difficult for you to overcome your "embarrassing" mentality, you might as well try to help others first. In this way, when you encounter difficulties, you will no longer be entangled in the problem of face, so that you can speak out your demands with peace of mind and boldly seek help from others.

In short, it is a kind of "heart disease" to dare not ask for help when encountering difficulties in work, which requires comprehensive adjustment and change from the deep heart to the way of thinking. It is recognized that "begging for people" is a normal behavior in interpersonal relationships and a way of emotional communication between people.

When we can correctly understand this matter, the "heart disease" will naturally heal.