What are the forms of marriage engagement in Wenzhou?

Wenzhou engagement is divided into big orders and small orders.

There are several kinds of small orders, depending on the family situation of all parties.

Generally speaking, the man buys some jewelry for the woman, and then there will be a pair of "samples" in the dialect, asking for peanut candy, longan, meat and so on. , but the weight is relatively large and there is still a part of the gift money (but because it is a small order, the woman's family generally does not take the gift money), and the samples also need evergreen branches such as cypress and HongLing;

Some families only buy some jewelry because of family circumstances or other factors, and the woman can go directly with the man;

In some cases, there will be a gift from the man directly to the woman, and nothing else will be bought.

There is no specific number of car samples. Sometimes the man takes the "sample" car directly, but he must also bring it. It doesn't matter if the woman doesn't have a bridesmaid.

However, small orders are also inseparable from banquets. The man will send samples, and the woman will arrange a table of wine, but friends such as relatives and uncles at home will not appear.

There are also many kinds of large orders, which are obviously different according to different regions.

1. When the man needs to order money, it ranges from tens of thousands to hundreds of thousands according to the discussion of the intermediary. Sometimes, the man just gives the gift money and the woman doesn't accept it. Sometimes it is agreed that the gift money is not necessarily given. It depends on the man's family.

2. Generally, the man's mother accompanies the woman (the woman can be accompanied by a woman at home) and the man goes to buy gold wares. , to show that the gold is bought by the man's mother for his daughter-in-law (there is such a saying), and some are selected and bought by both men and women;

Before marriage, both mothers need to give red envelopes (big bags). Newlyweds buy their own clothes or several sets of winter and summer clothes accompanied by their elders (full set: from head to toe, from inside to outside);

4, the woman needs to buy all kinds of dowry items, kitchen bowls, gas stoves, rice cookers, tables, rice tubes and so on. Generally, large items only need audio, TV, washing machine, refrigerator, disinfection cabinet, range hood and other things, depending on the meaning of the woman's house. Other small items are needed, including washbasins, toothbrushes, towels, etc., but small items are sometimes missed in small villages;

5, the wedding car must need at least five, from ancient times to the present;

6. The man needs to send the wedding candy (sometimes changed into other things in different places) and the sample half an hour in advance of the time set by the woman, so that he can have time to deal with the goods. Large samples need yellow croaker, red dates, pork and other objects, as well as red fruits, cypress branches and evergreen branches should also be placed on the samples and sugar.

7. Some engagement drinks are held together. Try to put the elders of both sides on the top table to eat wine to show their superior position, and then propose a toast from uncle first; If men and women serve wine separately, they should eat jiaozi at the woman's house first, but not all. Leave some lotus seeds or glutinous rice balls in it to show that there is more than one year. Only after the fish is served at the party can newlyweds propose a toast, but first they should respect the matchmaker. Then when the wine is almost enough, the man can't ask for a dowry, and the woman will ask friends or relatives for help.

8. The man carries things home after loading the car, and the man takes the woman home to drink at night.

9. If the woman is pregnant, she should address her relatives and friends according to the generation of the child.

10, after the man's motorcade arrives at noon, the woman needs to give the man's best man a quilt or use a red envelope instead. Similarly, when the woman goes to the man's house at night, the man's parents need to do the same.