"Mindset" listening notes

Do you think your idea is right?

At first I didn’t like the title of this book, but I was attracted to listen to it because of this question.

So, what is mentality in this book? Mindset is the filter of our inner energy.

His premise is that everyone needs to make more than 30,000 choices a day. In fact, the reason why we don’t feel this way is because:

90% of the choices are not used It’s an automatic choice that goes over your head! The automatic selection in this area is our mentality

So this is why there is a saying:

The solution to the problem is always outside the problem

Because he There is a pyramid of mentality. The top layer is success in life, work and leadership. The second layer is thinking, learning and action, and the third layer is mentality. When we usually solve problems, we always move on the upper two layers, but in fact it is not If you change your mentality, you will find that even if the upper two layers are moved, if the bottom layer remains unchanged, it will still return to its original position after a period of time.

How to change your mentality?

The book analyzes the case of hotel waiters losing weight: they tested a group of hotel waiters, and half of them were not trained carefully, but still performed half of the services according to their original jobs. The students gave them training and told them how much energy they would consume by spreading a sheet and mopping the floor, and what kind of fitness effects they would get.

After a period of time, it was found that people without training were not much different from those at the beginning, while people who had been trained generally lost weight, and when they worked, they were more active and enjoyed the labor process. I also tend to do more and provide better services.

The purpose of writing this book is how to make the 90% of the mentality that is processed unconsciously and spontaneously more positive, so that we can have a better life.

So how is mentality analyzed and provided with guidance and suggestions in this book?

Mentalities are divided into four categories

The first category is fixed mindset and growth mindset.

The second category is closed mindset and open mindset.

The third category is the defensive mindset and the aggressive mindset,

The fourth category is the introverted mindset and the extroverted mindset.

The difference between fixed type and growing type is explained in detail in "Lifelong Growth"

Fixed type people care more about the evaluation and results of others, while growth type people pay more attention to Focus on the process and don’t be afraid of making mistakes.

For example, in an experiment with blurred handwriting,

the first half of the test paper was normal and the second half of the test paper was blurred.

In the test, growth-oriented people, 74 % will do it and do it well; with a fixed mentality, only 35% will do it, because failing to do it is a question of the test paper.

How to change?

First, identify your own mentality,

Second, determine a goal and set a path for change,

Third, write a mentality diary, encourage yourself more, and see Process

The difference between the closed type and the open type is: I am right

This kind of I am right (one word) mentality has certain benefits, it will make people I think you are charming and determined; at the same time, you will be more efficient when dealing with problems.

But it will also be insulated from many kinds of growth optimization.

Because group efficiency: The key depends on the psychological safety of team members

If other members are afraid to speak, the efficiency will naturally be very low.

How to change it?

First realize the fear in your heart,

Through 1 meditation, 2 change the perception, I may be wrong, 3 increase the capacity of thinking, that is, replace the small cup with a big cup, You also know that there are people outside the world, and there are mountains outside the mountains.

Three defensive or aggressive mentality

In fact, it is a question of initiative. In communication with foreign objects, whether you are defensive or offensive.

In fact, there is no fixed right or wrong, it depends on how you choose.

So how to be an enterprising person? First, you must have a grand goal, because Confucius once said that a gentleman has a lifetime of worries and no one-day troubles

When you have a grand goal, you will not be defensive because of small problems or mistakes. .

2. To make your mentality more positive, you can obviously maintain righteous thoughts and read more ambitious good books, such as biographies 3. Remember three good things every day

4. Introversion or extroversion Mentality?

The so-called introverted mentality is to strictly distinguish oneself from external objects, value oneself, and suspect that external objects may bring obstacles

And the extroverted mentality Will tend to equate external objects with oneself.

There is a short story where the author called his teacher to complain about something. Because he was staying in a hotel for a meeting, he made it clear to the hotel front desk that he wanted a non-smoking room. When he entered the room, he found that his friend living with him was smoking and making the room very messy. When he came in, the person said sorry, let me clean it up, and then she went to the balcony to smoke. Then the author became very angry because it was said that there was a non-smoking room, so why did he smoke here?

Then his teacher said something, and the author suddenly lost all temper.

This sentence is:

Do you feel that he has tried his best? Already?

When we see many things, we will habitually criticize others because we use our own yardstick to measure others. But in fact, as you and I know, everyone’s life Environments and experiences are different. All your perceptions are actually based on your own experience and life background.

When we use our own yardstick to measure others, we will feel that the people around us are inferior to ourselves, as if we are surrounded by hedgehogs

And if you are an extrovert Mentality, you will try to understand others more. Do you feel that he has tried his best?

When you are in this state of mind, what you will think about is whether you can provide some help and whether you can make it better than it is now.

How to do it?

1 Take the initiative to learn to care for others, starting from the small things around you,

2 Be careful of your own fear and self-betrayal

3 Learn to care for yourself

Among them, something needs to be said here: self-betrayal

What is self-judgement? That is to say, you are afraid that others will hurt you, so you hurt others first.

Being careful about your fears means that when you don’t know how to do many things, you should realize what the underlying cognition of your fear is and whether its basis is real and established.

There is a lot of self-betrayal in life, a lot of fear, and each of us will face many problems and make many choices, right and wrong, no doubt now and in the future.

The purpose of this book is to understand more, to see places we once couldn’t see, and then to see if it can make our lives move more in the direction we like.