Who do you choose, work or boyfriend?

A girl said that she was 25 years old and failed in the postgraduate entrance examination. She wants to go to Shenzhen for development, and her boyfriend is in Wuhan, saying that she doesn't want a long-distance relationship. Girls are confused and don't know whether to go to Shenzhen or not, so how to choose for netizens.

In my opinion, this is not a simple multiple choice question. The options are not only work and boyfriend, but also family factors. If you simply replace yourself and your boyfriend with the same amount, it may reduce the difficulty of choosing. No matter what happens in the future, you need to bear the consequences. All roads lead to Rome, and I can only take one.

Look at the comments below, most of them are "follow your heart" and "improve yourself and come with whatever you want", and some even advise girls to stay. One of them made me hot all over, and my words were sharp, and every sentence hit the pain point. Can't make a choice? Can your ability keep up with your ambition? Everyone will encounter high or low situations, so what should be done in this situation? First of all, you know your own situation. You must know the upward direction. Then the next question is whether you lack certificates or skills or want to change careers, and the rest will take time.

Tell me an episode of mine.

At that time, the thesis was defended, and the day was also a special job fair of the Tourism College. I want to read it after the defense, and I have prepared my resume. I didn't expect to go to the job fair a little late, and finally only two or three companies were packing up. I'm glad to see a hotel in Hangzhou, because it's in Hangzhou, which I yearn for, and I'm going to visit it.

A senior service engineer was recruited at that time. If you want to go, you need to start with a waiter. The internship lasts for six months and accommodation is provided. Roommates feel a little far away, and they are in the hotel industry and may be very tired. At that time, I thought it was nothing. It doesn't matter even if I am tired. People are positioned at the high end. The important thing is that I can learn something. I majored in human resource management. "As a waiter, you can better understand the human sufferings, understand the voices of employees, and do your own professional work in the future, which will be more targeted." Well, that makes sense. At that time, HR also said that he planned to open another hotel in 2020, which was also to reserve talents for that time, so I thought maybe he could do it!

When communicating with my family, my mother said it was too far, so don't go. My second uncle strongly disagreed and hurried home. Although my boyfriend is a little reluctant, he still says you can leave if you want. Finally, I went.

I talked to HR when I applied there. She knew my major and asked me which module I was interested in. I shook my head. Seeing that I participated in the mathematical modeling competition, I was surprised to ask if I could analyze the data, but unfortunately I couldn't either. I said I was in charge of writing the paper. Then she naturally asked me, you write very well, have you written a manuscript or something? I shook my head. She's a little embarrassed, too. Finally, when I saw that I had passed CET-6, I said that we had a western restaurant with many foreign guests. I suggest you try.

During the conversation, she led me to the restaurant intentionally or unintentionally, because there were more people to deal with there. As a result, I went to the catering department according to her wishes (actually, according to my wishes). Then I have to communicate with the manager of the catering department. The other person looked at my resume with a sad face. Your major is not like this, and you also do some paperwork during your internship. Why do you consider our profession? Well, I said I wanted to try. Finally, I read my English and talked about western restaurants. After several conversations, she decided to go to that western restaurant. At this time, she suddenly realized that there was also a clerk job in the hotel. I smiled and nodded.

Through talking with them, I realized that I don't know myself. I only do things with blood. The consequences at that time were not very bad, because it was winter vacation and I went home. But I didn't expect to find the right job at that time. This is the real experience accumulation.

As a waiter. The working hours are really eight hours, because there are different shifts such as ABC. But these eight hours are four in the morning and four in the evening. I have to make up for it after lunch. Time is not what I want at all. Ask questions without staff training. Only then did I know that hotel employees are mainly interns, supplemented by holiday workers and part-time workers, and formal employees account for a small part. And these are not what I want.

I wanted to leave a month later, but because of the spread of the epidemic, I was afraid that I would not be able to go home late, so I hurried back.

Now that I think about it, I have no regrets. At least I know that the staff turnover rate in the hotel industry is quite high, and the hotel's 4D management model is worth learning. Of course, I know more. I have nothing to take at the moment.

I did what I wanted to do, but fortunately I did, because I didn't think I would have a chance to do these things when I was hot-headed in the next time.

It seems that I chose it myself anyway, and I will consider the situation at home on the basis of my own choice in the future. I also hope my episode can help some people: at least you can't do things with a hot head.

The following is an excerpt from the article I just read today, hoping to inspire you.