Boyfriend pretends to eat, and frequently goes to the hotel with the boss.

Boyfriend pretends to eat, and frequently goes to the hotel with the boss.

Letters from readers:

I have a new boyfriend, and he and I are not the first love, so I didn't plan to get along for a long time when I first faced this relationship, let alone get married. I know it's irresponsible to treat feelings like this, but I can't let go of my ex-boyfriend. Maybe my relationship with my new boyfriend is just to cover up my hurt feelings.

He is an ordinary employee of a company. He is handsome and handsome, and he is the target of many company girls. But in this vast world, he chose me. He said that I was the kind of challenging woman and that I was independent. Although his reason amuses me, it is also true.

Sometimes feelings are cultivated. After two months together, I found myself deeply in love with this man. His words and deeds attracted me. But he seems to have lost his original challenge and admiration for me and started to ignore my love. He also commented on me, saying that I lacked charm, was not sexy enough, and was not as independent and maverick as before. I'm sad. I'm too attached to him to give him this feeling, or I'm not attractive enough at all. Our relationship was for fun from the beginning, that's all!

Slowly, he began to say that he was busy at work to reduce the number of times he met me. Later, I found that he was very close to his boss, and I began to doubt their relationship. My boyfriend said that I was too sensitive to bear my constraints and broke up. I refused to break up with him anyway, and the relationship was so deadlocked. In fact, I can feel that he still has feelings for me.

After a long time, every time I call him, he always finds an excuse to go to his colleague's house for dinner. I asked him which colleague he was, and he told me openly that it was his boss, which was even more difficult to refuse. Although I was uncomfortable, it didn't interfere with his life and work. Until one day, a good sister of mine who works in a hotel called to ask if I broke up with my boyfriend. I said I didn't break up and asked her what happened. My sister said that my boyfriend recently checked into a hotel with a woman. At first I thought we broke up, but I was still not sure, so I called to confirm.

The news came as a bolt from the blue. Boyfriend's so-called infidelity turned out to be an affair with the boss. I collapsed at once, and my heart was very entangled. I don't know what to do. He will be very willing to break up with me, but I have deep feelings for him and I don't want to let go of our love. But what should I do? How can I get him back?

Taboo reply:

As you said at the beginning, your's feelings have no foundation, he is just the sustenance of your feelings. It's just that you have a good impression on him later, and he may not have true feelings for you, so your feelings are actually just your wishful thinking.

There are many kinds of cheating, and there are many ways. Your boyfriend's excuses are actually very common. I don't think he intends to lie to you all the time. He only deals with you on the surface, because he knows that only when you feel that he has hurt you will you be reluctant to break up with him and the your relationship will be terminated.

I don't know how much you care about your feelings and how much you love your current boyfriend, but what you have to do now is to find out the reason for your rigid relationship. In fact, you don't know your boyfriend at all, and there are some aspects you can't give him. Many times people have a habitual thinking, that is, to understand each other in their own way of thinking, which leads to the lack of communication between the two sides.

Boyfriend uses cheating rice as an excuse, which is terrible and hateful. What should you do? Want to crush mistress? So how do you want to beat each other? I don't advise you to act on emotional impulse. Feelings are two of a kind's business. You didn't know this man before, but you just used him as a tool. I don't want to hold anyone accountable. I just want to say that you talk to him well, tell him your truest thoughts, tell him how much you care about him, and let him make emotional choices. Don't force him, let alone intimidate him. Love is love. Not loving is not loving. Why torture yourself and hurt others?

Feelings can be painful, but in the end, the pain is waking up and maturity. I hope you are happy! ~