Live to understand that bad temper is not terrible. The terrible thing is that someone has a worse temper than you.

In this chapter, Mr. Jia Jie tells a story that he thinks he has a "bad temper". The case owner is good-natured and getting better and better in order to those who have helped him, those who admire and admire him, elders, mother-in-law, father and leaders; For daughters, drivers on the road, sentimental customers, wives, waiters with poor attitude towards restaurant service, colleagues and subordinates who are looking for trouble, they are all bad-tempered, and the order is getting worse and worse.

I believe that many people will smile at the same time after reading this form and order, but it is not. Actually, temper doesn't matter. It depends on who you are suitable for. Good temper to leaders, bad temper to subordinates; Please strangers everywhere outside, but always get angry with relatives when you come home. This is the baton of emotional management ability behind regulation, telling you when you can lose your temper and who you can get angry with. Losing your temper is human instinct, but controlling your temper is your ability.

1

Our best temper

It should be given to the person I love the most.

Cousin and wife have started their own businesses, and both of them are famous for their good temper and popularity. As an educator, my cousin is knowledgeable, intellectual and elegant, and with the thoughtfulness and warmth of southern men, both experts, professors and customers can talk. My wife's service is professional, skillful, kind and generous, with the loyalty and frankness of northern women. I have never seen a loud voice with difficult and wordy customers or neighbors.

But I often hear them quarrel at home, even if our relatives are around, they can't stop their quarrel. It sounds like trivial things, such as the attitude towards an employee, choosing a special class for the children, my cousin's failure to change his shoes in time when he entered the house, and his wife's phone call while eating, which can all be the fuse of their war. But fortunately, after the storm, the two can make up again soon. It seems that quarreling has become their way of regulating stress.

However, quarreling always has a cumulative effect. When you feel urgent, you don't say anything, and every sentence hurts people, which is unparalleled. After a fierce fight, my cousin sent me a message that I had the idea of divorce for the first time.

We always think that home is a relaxing harbor, and relatives can be angry at will, which is an excuse and reason to give up self-emotional management. A wife is also a valued customer and a precious daughter of others. How can she be someone you can deal with casually? Daughter also has an independent personality, a free life and innocent ignorance. How can she become someone you can get angry at will? Friends pay for familiarity, and parents pay for love. How can I be the object that you can freely vent?

There are thousands of kinds of love in this world, but none of them is taken for granted. These selfless loves are worth cherishing. Especially for the closest people in their own lives, they have given us the longest and gentlest love. But we have overlooked that the closer we get, the more vulnerable we are.

All bad emotions are destructive. When you can't control your temper, it's better to think about this person's kindness in front of you and his patience and concern for you. Once your bad temper hurts others, it's like a nail on a stake. Even if it is pulled out, those scarred scars are hard to recover.

Turn family members into friends who are related by blood, and turn friends into relatives who are not related by blood. When you are in a bad mood or angry, you should still respect others, especially your family, and take care of their feelings, because they deserve your cherish and love. Don't hurt them casually because of your negative emotions.

2

Start emotional management in time.

Maybe we can protect ourselves and save lives.

Liu Jie, a 28-year-old Kunming girl, took her fiance to the hospital to visit her sick grandmother. I met a drunk downstairs in the inpatient department. Because he accidentally touched him, the drunkard cursed extremely hard, and then the couple argued with the drunkard. Without saying a word, the drunk suddenly pulled out a knife and stabbed the girl twice, one in the heart and the other in the spleen. ...

At a noodle restaurant in Wuhan, a man came and ordered 4 yuan's vegetarian noodles. When checking out, he was told that the price would increase by 1 yuan. When the man refused to give it, the boss quarreled with him, and the two sides even got into a fight. On impulse, the man ran into the kitchen, picked up a kitchen knife, cut off the boss's head and threw it into the trash can. ...

In Wuhu, a man drove a red Land Rover to a stop, then quickly got on the bus, lit the gasoline dripping on him, hugged the woman who was driving and died with her. Within a few seconds, the car caught fire. According to the survey, the cause is also because of disputes between husband and wife.

Behind these cases, we can see the shadow of bad mood and bad temper. Maybe I didn't say an angry word at that time, maybe I was patient, maybe I said "I'm sorry" on my own initiative, but unfortunately, many times I didn't have a chance.

We often lose our temper easily, that is, we indulge our emotions, don't want to control them, and give up the ability of emotional management. Especially in the face of some scenes that I don't think I need patience, I won't miss every opportunity to fight back, I won't show weakness, and I will let my bad temper vent. It's not terrible to have a bad temper. What's terrible is that some people have a worse temper than us, so in an instant, you die, with or without me, leading to tragedy.

three

As long as you have a good temper

Everything will be fine.

Bai Longwang, a Buddhist monk in Thailand, once said, "As long as people have a good temper, everything will be fine." When you are still complaining about unsatisfactory career, unsatisfactory life and disharmony in your family, you might as well ask yourself first, is your bad temper blocking your financial path?

In the morning, when the family is in a hurry to go out, they nag at their husbands and yell at their children. They are in a hurry. When the child got on the bus, he found that he had forgotten his schoolbag. His mother was worried about being late and ran to get it, but she scolded her children all the way to school. On the way, when a cyclist occupied the motorway, he swore and honked his horn wildly. A bad-tempered mother may make the whole family miserable.

Too many things are troublesome, and too few things are ignored by the leaders. It is a bit too much for office colleagues to make a joke, so we can argue. The supermarket cashier clamored for a complaint when a product was not ordered, and the restaurant waiter waited for him to react and shouted to see the manager. In the face of customers with low total project amount, the other party can put forward some additional requirements to others. Back in the office, my colleagues criticized in front of the whole company for a small mistake. A bad-tempered workplace person may be unhappy with many people around him.

Emotional control and management is a sign of a person's maturity, and it is also an important content of emotional intelligence. Some people say that high emotional intelligence means talking and controlling emotions. In addition to manners, people have to have tolerance. Grace is the embodiment of their inner strength, and tolerance is the expression of their inner quality.

Starting today, keep convincing yourself.

Living in a bustling city or alone in a room, I have such a good temper;

I look up to saints or ordinary people, and my temper is so good;

I have such a good temper when I am at work or at home.

No more no less, no more no less.