What should I do if I meet an asshole colleague?

Cold treatment, stay at a respectful distance from others, killing the heart is indispensable, and preventing people is indispensable.

First, the performance of people who "spy on others' privacy": everyone has privacy. In everyone's heart, there is a territory that people don't want to be violated. But some people are out of ignorance, or out of curiosity, or out of ... Every time they meet you, they have to ask you, "How old are you?" "How much is the income?" "How is the relationship between husband and wife?" Wait, a topic that is annoying to answer. Although such people are glib and eloquent, they don't understand the essentials of conversation. Generally speaking, a person who respects others will not ask himself whether he knows something is the privacy of others. On the other hand, a person who knows that it is someone else's privacy and asks questions is a person who doesn't know how to respect others. They may spread right and wrong, or they may be quite short-lived China Financial Mayor's unique trick of the annual meeting: Answer irrelevant questions to people who ask about other people's privacy, and you can't be uncompromising when you meet people who ask about other people's privacy. The best way to treat intruders is to answer irrelevant questions. If he asks you "who is your backstage supporter", you can say "thank you". If he asks you "how much is the bonus", you can say "no more than others". If he asks you "How to pursue your girlfriend", you can say "If you are interested, I will tell you in detail later". In short, for each other's questions, it is not not not to answer, but to answer irrelevant questions. In this case, it will neither offend the other party nor let the other party succeed.

Second, the performance of people suffering from "sighing": Nine times out of ten people are unhappy. Some people who are pessimistic about the future and mainly talk about me often take their own misfortune, distress and anxiety as the theme of their conversation. They kept complaining loudly, sighing one after another, which made the speaker not listen. If you carefully analyze the unpleasant things that sigher said, you will know that these things are actually normal and not so sad, but sigher said that his condition is very, very serious. Unique skill: inject vitality into sighing people, communicate with such people and inject vitality into them. In sighers' mind, he doesn't think he is poor in ability and ambitious. On the contrary, they strongly hope that others will affirm that they are very talented and have an unusual level. When communicating with them, we should properly affirm his specialty, praise his achievements and inject vitality into it. In this case, they will be very close to you and will appreciate you.

Third, the performance of those who encounter "Taoist right and wrong": "Those who say right and wrong are also right and wrong." Don't think that the person who tells you about others is your friend. People who are right and wrong, since they say other people's shortcomings in front of you, will naturally say yours in front of others. They are willing to tell people right and wrong, which is the reason for their excessive jealousy. In their hearts, they often hope that others will become more and more unlucky and embarrassed. Smart people don't confide in such people. Unique skills: The way to stay away from people who are right and wrong is to react coldly to any right and wrong topic he says, so that he knows that he is wrong and quits. Don't offend such people. I don't agree with what he said. It's a good way to communicate in his words, huh, huh. Because "hum" and "ha" are vague languages, it will not only make the Taoist feel mature, but also make him feel that this topic can no longer be communicated, thus stopping the conversation or making the conversation develop in a healthy direction. In some cases, it can be said that "Heha" is a kind of life knowledge that cannot be underestimated.

Fourth, the performance of people who meet "chatter": when people talk to others, people often hate those who talk to you endlessly. Some people talk a lot, but they can't speak well. They will talk all morning in one breath and all over the world in one morning. They can not only talk about literature and geography, but also men and women. They are happy and expressive. They talk a lot and never feel tired. Trick: Ask the chatterbox skillfully. When you meet a chatterbox, it won't hurt each other's feelings. The way to make each other talk less is to ask questions skillfully. One is to ask some difficult questions according to the topic he said, such as "What is the molecular formula of missile fuel?" "How many men and girls are mentioned in Water Margin?" Wait, let him not know how to answer. In this way, he can talk less and you can talk more. The second is to ask some questions irrelevant to the current topic, such as "Excuse me, what time is it?" "Your glasses are very nice. Are you comfortable? " Wait, in this way, the other person will feel a little stunned, so as to stop and make time for you to do something useful.

Fifth, the performance of those who encounter "repeated preaching": Some people like to "indoctrinate" others. Among the ten sentences he said, you can find seven or eight words such as "you should", "you must" and "you can't". Such people are often self-righteous, condescending, self-reliant and domineering. In his eyes, everyone is an ignorant child, but he is a learned professor. It makes people feel stupid and ostentatious. A long-winded preacher is boring, but it is harmless and beneficial to you. First, we can learn useful lessons from it; Second, listening carefully will make him feel extremely happy and help to enhance friendship. Trick: It is more important to listen to a long-winded preacher. Therefore, it is more important to communicate with them than to listen. As long as you have nothing urgent to do, you might as well calm down, listen and write it down. Repeat a sentence or two he said at an appropriate time, or ask a sentence or two about a certain problem. I believe that this practice will definitely benefit you a lot.

Sixth, the performance of people who meet "self-show off": Some people say that I am popular when they see others, and that I am capable when they export. Saying that you are "1" is actually "2". The listener blushes for this, but he is not ashamed. Blow your own horn is both an inferiority complex and a conceit. This kind of person is often weak in the outside, and his purpose of "bragging" is only to attract everyone's attention and satisfy his vanity. This kind of casual boasting gives people a sense of rhetoric and flashy. The correct way to communicate with them is to answer with humorous words. He said "2", but in his heart he thought it was "1". You can't be sure of his big talk, but he will think you are an untrustworthy person. You can't refute his big talk, because he will think you are an unfriendly person. Trick: The correct way to be humorous to self-flaunters is to answer humorously, specious, vague, laugh, haha.

Seven, the performance of those who encounter "killing ambitions": some people have sharp and spicy words. What comes out of his mouth is like pots of cold water, and whether you accept it or not, it is thrown at your head. That drive will definitely put out the fire of self-confidence in your heart. This kind of person is often a failure person, who looks down on everything and treats you as nothing. Unlike others, he is a conceited person who thinks that he can't do it, and others can't do it. He is also an "inseparable" talkative person who keeps people around him at a respectful distance. Talking to him and blindly accepting it will only make him worse. Trick: A proper way to attack the sore spot of the frustrated person is to seize the opportunity and attack the sore spot-his stupidity, incompetence and absurdity in history, or the loopholes, improper words and logical mistakes he is talking about at present, which makes him feel unhappy, thus pushing himself and others, realizing his current wrong behavior and keeping his mouth shut.

8. Performance of people who are "noisy and aggressive": When you are in high spirits, someone with a thick brain or someone with ulterior motives may come in and criticize you, immediately creating a good conversation atmosphere full of gunpowder. Most of these people think that they are superior to others, superior to you, omnipotent and omnipotent. He thinks he is the embodiment of truth. No matter how big the problem is, whether it is watermelon or sesame, he will stand up against you with the spirit of defending the truth to the death. Once such people have prejudice against you, they will go against you everywhere. In this case, it is easy for you to fall into the whirlpool of confrontational debate. Trick: If you want to get out of the whirlpool, you must be strong. This strength is to make every word of yourself an irrefutable truth and a simple truth, so that the other party can't attack you. It won't be long before the "uncomfortable" partner will take the initiative to "return".

9. The performance of people who are full of lies: In society, some people lie as easily and naturally as an excellent actor performing on the stage, and they don't feel guilty at all. Most of them lie without a clear purpose. The reason why people who are full of lies are full of lies may be to cover themselves up, slander themselves and beautify themselves. They may think your discrimination is poor, so they shake their lips and talk nonsense. It is harmful for you to associate with such people. Telling a lie ten times may make you think it really happens. Trick: If you want to correct one of the lies and communicate with them, you must know the strategy and tactics of "attacking one point and crushing the whole line", seize one of the lies and raise an objection with confidence. In this way, he will feel ashamed, and that arrogance will drop immediately. This kind of attack won't hurt his self-esteem, but it will also help him correct his lying.

10. Performance of "vulgar" people: In order to leave a good impression on others, some people make their words full of flowery words and use some professional terms, which seems artificial and flashy; Some people talk rudely, talk nonsense, and Rory is long-winded and monotonous. A sentence can be repeated ten times, and one thing can be asked nine times. Some people have no waves, no ups and downs, no swaying expressions, and no fascinating topics, which make you exhausted. These are all vulgar performances. Most of them are people with narrow knowledge and poor social skills. In my own life experience, I am often laughed at by others and have a sense of inferiority in my heart. They are eager to improve their knowledge and social skills. Trick: Give proper advice to vulgar people, communicate with vulgar people and give proper advice. Say a word or two about the correct practices and precautions to meet their needs, but don't give them too much advice, so as not to hurt their self-esteem and touch their inferiority complex.