Why are there more "leftover women" than "leftover men" in Xi 'an?

Meanwhile,119.59 million men aged 30-39 are unmarried, while 5.82 million women of the same age are unmarried. According to the data of the sixth census, there is an imbalance between men and women in the marriageable age population after 70 s and 80 s in China. The male-female ratio of unmarried population after 1980s is 136: 100, and that of unmarried population after 1970s is as high as 206: 100. Meanwhile,119.59 million men aged 30-39 are unmarried, while 5.82 million women of the same age are unmarried. A few days ago, a survey showed that in China, most of the leftover women are "white" with excellent qualifications, while more than half of the leftover men have no cars or houses. It is not surprising that high-quality women hate marrying Xi 'an, but why is it so difficult for local "leftover women" to marry? A few days ago, some netizens summarized eight reasons in the forum. Today, Bian Xiao sorted them out and shared them. First, the legacy of exclusion: At present, more than 80% of the locals still insist on marrying the locals, but there are not many authentic locals, and even fewer have lived here for more than three generations. With the influx of foreign population, the proportion of local people on the road is getting lower and lower, and it is of course more and more difficult to find a qualified local opposite sex. Second, the lion roar: the most serious quarrel in public places is the shrew with local accent, which leads many foreign women who are married to Xi' an to learn Xi' an dialect and practice good quarrel skills in a few years; The local mother-in-law is notoriously difficult to serve, and she is still haggling over money and housing. The situation of the new generation of Xi women is slightly better, but some girls with poor quality still have no progress. Third, short-sighted: under the long-term influence of the market atmosphere, local women are generally smart and short-sighted. There are not many opportunities to broaden your horizons in other places. They look at problems and think things in front of them, lack foresight for more than three years, and have no long-term plans and plans. This is true for their career development and the prospect of living together after marriage, and they also form a mindset that men had better take care of everything and not worry about themselves. Once family life encounters a sudden change, their reaction is usually very fragile. After being distracted, they often evade their responsibilities and even go their own way when disaster strikes. So many people finally choose to leave, really out of a subconscious fear of the future. I am afraid that they will have to leave after they have this mentality; 4. Greedy for petty gain: in the arrangement of marriage expenses, the local woman's family usually pays only a very insignificant share, and it is common for more than 90% of the expenses (note: excluding the cost of buying a house) to rely on the man; There are still some people who can't tell whether to seize the property rights of the man's wedding room. I can only turn a blind eye to such ignorant people; Five, four bodies are not diligent: local women are used to pampering themselves under Xi 'an's pampering, and the proportion of taking the initiative to undertake housework is very low. Some are still in their thirties and can't cook a dish; As for the washing job, I refused to take it on the grounds of hurting my skin, even if I barely washed it, it was not clean; The room is also untidy. When I got home, I took off my shoes and socks and threw them on the bed. Almost have to wait on the nanny and clean up the room, hehe! This is a common problem of the only child in the post-80s cities, but I recently found that a similar situation also exists in the post-80s peasant women, especially the youngest daughter at home. 6. There is no money at home: it is common for local people to eat up and run out. Take the 1980s as an example. Now more than half of the families' income does not exceed 300,000 yuan. As for the relocated households and renters, although there are many houses, it is mainly because of the government's housing reform policy. More families have only one house, one parent retires and the other goes to work, and some have been laid off and unemployed. In addition, with the growth of age, the expenditure on cosmetics, clothing, diamond jewelry, entertainment and so on is also increasing day by day. Petty bourgeoisie living and keeping pets is also a big expense; However, it is considered as a kind of stingy and poor performance, which limits the growth of family wealth, so the ultimate pressure of marriage cost has to be left entirely to the man's family. Seven, the door is right: although it seems to be taken for granted, it is not easy. Local women have a general family background. If they want to find someone who is financially suitable for them, it may mean that they can't afford to get married. Besides, their attitude towards diaosi man is unfair. They are usually used as spare tires, and they can come and go at will, full of disdain and contempt. What they want is a girl who is taller, but more beautiful than herself, and a girl who is attentive to the second generation of young masters, who has long been jostling with each other. Therefore, many local diaosi women actually live in an illusory spiritual world and express unrealistic fantasies about a lover in Gao Fushuai who doesn't actually exist, which is out of proportion to their age. The meaning of love can be reduced to this point, which is also a big joke in a harmonious society! Eight, the phenomenon of spare tires: In some places, women have a thousand choices and cast their nets widely. If you are not sincere to others, you will never be treated sincerely; Abandoning each other mercilessly will also be abandoned mercilessly by others.