Why don't young people invite their parents to the wedding today?

For many young people, wedding and marriage seem to have lost their relevance. Marriage is your own, and the wedding may be your parents'.

At present, some young people do become spectators at their own weddings, and their parents are busy becoming the protagonists. Children have weddings, and parents peel off their skin. At the same time, they also paid a lot of brain cells. Because behind the wedding stage, there is a complex network of two families. Poor handling will leave serious sequelae, and fatigue and entanglement are naturally inevitable.

A grand wedding, often staged such a plot: the tearful young couple enjoy the performance, but behind it are the parents' hard work and countless entanglements.

Parents became "migrant workers" for their children's wedding.

"I'm exhausted!"

"This is not they are busy! I don't care who is in charge? "

It turned out that a pair of shiny leather shoes were covered with floating dust. Every time I drag my tired body home to see my neighbors, Aunt Chen always complains and tells me every detail of her decorating her daughter's wedding room.

Nowadays, in many big cities, the marriage of young people is more completed by four old people on both sides. Buying a wedding room, decorating, booking a hotel, choosing a wedding dress … all have the shadow of parents. Parents become "migrant workers" intentionally or unintentionally in their children's marriage.

On the eve of May Day, Aunt Chen, who was nearly sixty years old, checked the coal water meter of her daughter's new house for the last time. After confirming the correctness, she opened the window of the new house a little, locked the door and a stone fell to the ground.

"Renovation can be considered as an end."

No wonder Aunt Chen said that her daughter's wedding date is "November" this year. Just after the first month, she and her wife began to be busy with the renovation of the new house. My uncle is a foreigner, and my daughter and uncle are busy with work and can't leave. Helpless, Aunt Chen took over the "power" of decoration. Choosing furniture and buying main materials, Raul almost ran half of Tianjin. However, when it comes to decoration, Aunt Chen has to do everything, staring at the workers during the day and busy recording the decoration accounts at night.

Because the house was bought by the man, Aunt Chen's family paid for the decoration. The old couple are retired workers. In order to save some decoration costs, they chose a clean way, so they had to arrange a nut and a wire by themselves. In order to save trouble, they often buy two fried cakes for lunch. In the words of Aunt Chen, "We are all in charge, who let ourselves be such prostitutes!"

Coincidentally, Mr. Qin, who is in his fifties, has been very busy recently. He investigated almost all four-star hotels in Tianjin, rode a bicycle, compared the prices there, and then inspected the decoration of private rooms. He also forgot to shoot the lobby and gables with his mobile phone so as to discuss with his son who came home at night.

Generation after generation, marriage is not a person's business. But now the post-8090 wedding is more like a matter for parents. Many parents of the only child feel very tired when they hold a wedding for their children, but they feel that this is their duty, painful and happy, tired and tired.

Wedding becomes a "show" for parents

At children's weddings, parents often complain: "Look at this wedding, I have taken care of it, they don't care about anything ..."

But for many young people, these parents' complaints are ungrateful. Nowadays, many young people don't seem to pay special attention to the form of wedding. Being able to score 70 is the bottom line for many young people, and some simply avoid the complicated procedures of the wedding, so many children will whisper in the face of their parents' complaints: "This is not to give you face!"

Indeed, China people love to talk about face, and often equate the ostentation and extravagance of the wedding with whether they attach importance to their in-laws, whether they have face, and the future development of their children in the unit. Therefore, many parents' wedding preparation process is like climbing a growing vine, which is endless. From the engagement party to the preparation of speech at the wedding, the "three mountains" of body, material and spirit are pressed together. No wonder some parents said, "Giving a child a wedding is like peeling a layer of skin."

My daughter's wedding is scheduled for May Day next year, but Xu Yi is never happy. Why? The dowry is not enough "I heard that escort cars are popular now." Xu Yi took one look and said that the basic level of a grade must be above 200,000 yuan. If the car is too cheap, the child will fall. But this fee is indeed a reception fee for Mr. and Mrs. Rola Chen, so I discussed with my wife to rent the balcony facing the street on the first floor to a merchant, so that I can still earn some money every month. In Xu Yi's words: "The working class can only squeeze through their teeth, and they have to save face for their daughters anyway."

Recently, because her son got married, Aunt Zheng lost sleep and tossed and turned every night. When my son got married, he made it clear that he didn't want to have a wedding, because his girlfriend was pregnant and didn't want to toss. "The two of them really get over it. If I don't hold this wedding, my relatives and colleagues will definitely spare me. If I tell you cheaply, the rumor will not spread. In addition, the gift money for so many years points to the recovery of this happy event. If you don't have a wedding, you can lose a lot! " Aunt Zheng was reasonable and had to persuade her son to have a wedding.

Wedding activities, the couple are spectators.

When young people get married, the protagonist in preparing for the marriage should be the post-80s generation. Now, their parents have become the "protagonists", and the new people have intentionally or unintentionally played the role of spectators.

Lili just got married recently. If you want her to choose the most impressive scene before and after the wedding, it is undoubtedly the romantic bridge where her husband puts a diamond ring on himself on the wedding day. However, for the same multiple-choice question, her mother chose the experience of taking wedding photos with their young couple.

"It seems that my daughter doesn't care about such a big thing as taking wedding photos. I can't forget what happened that day. If I hadn't reminded her to change her shoelaces the night before, I really don't know who would have been blind that day? " What puzzles her even more is that the son-in-law looks like a spectator when taking a wedding dress. It seems to be a decoration, and it is not active at all. Especially when changing clothes, the son-in-law smokes outside alone, does not express his opinions, and is unsmiling. Instead, she is very busy, helping to choose a wedding dress and helping the photographer laugh. The two people in this wedding photo seem to be their mother and daughter.

Of course, the "protagonist" is not always lazy, and sometimes he is helpless.