Out of the experience and feelings of reading.

When we have new inspiration after reflection, we can often write it as an experience, which can help us understand our study, work and life during this period. I believe many people will find it difficult to write about their experiences. The following are my experiences and feelings of studying alone, for reference only. Welcome to reading.

The protagonist of 1 is you, and you will always be yourself.

You should remember that the protagonist of parting is yourself, not the object. Before considering whether to leave the item, think about whether I can use it, not whether it is valuable.

Of course, don't have a "bargain-hunting mentality" and feel that the supermarket will buy it at buy buy. Most of the discounted food I bought in the supermarket goes into the trash can, and I feel guilty every time I throw it into the trash can. In order to reduce this guilt, I always make a list before going to the supermarket and only buy what is on the list to avoid the temptation of discount trap.

After reading the e-book "Separation", I began to reflect on my life. I have a lot of things at home and only a few clothes to wear, but the wardrobe is always full. Start from a small corner, get rid of it, and sort out your life plan at the same time, knowing what is important and what is secondary.

Life is a process of constant choice. Items are valuable only when they are used, and they are worn out; At this moment, the article should appear where it is needed in order to give up; Only when something is put in the right place can it show its beauty, which is for the sake of separation.

Remember, the protagonist of parting is you, always you.

As mentioned in the second book, many people pay attention to non-daily things. For example, some people will prepare tea sets and bedding for relatives who can't come once a year and friends who come to live occasionally. Some people put a lot of tableware in the cupboard specially prepared for guests, but their families use very few tableware.

I always think that parties should go to hotels or other places. Home is a private place, clean and comfortable. It should be a place you like and even long for. As long as you come back here, you can relax both physically and mentally. I am an otaku, I have few friends, and I don't like friends coming to my house. There is no need to spend money on things once a year, or even once every few years, and there is no need to put on a facade for vanity.

But I will keep the children's room and the necessary things.

After reading this passage, I have another experience:

Not only shopping, but also other aspects of life. There are many things we want to do, but human energy is limited. After returning to Apple, Jobs said: It is very important to decide what not to do. We should concentrate our limited energy on people and things that are important to us. If these two aspects are done well, our life will be greatly improved. If these two aspects are not done well, even if we do more trivial things and spend more energy, it is meaningless and just a waste of life.

My reading experience and the idea of running away from home. Japanese writer Eiko Yamashita's Leaving My Home attempts to make people embark on a journey of "reducing desire" from life to spirit. After reading it, I remembered an old saying of China, "How can you sweep the world if you don't sweep a house?" There is also the phrase "give up and you will get it."

A person with too much material desires can easily fall into the vanity fair of life and even ignore his inner spiritual needs. In this era of unprecedented material wealth, the pattern of personal desires has become smaller. Only by cutting off redundant desires can he have the spirit of embracing the world.

If you are willing to give up, you will get it. Nowadays, people often ask to give up first and then give up, flaunting egoism as "small fortunate" and taking advantage of others. Unfortunately, no one is stupid, and no one wants others to take advantage of themselves. As a result, no one can take advantage. The atmosphere of selfishness and indifference is unprecedented. Dare to give up, and you will get it.

Let go of excessive obsession, abandon unnecessary sundries and leave the "garbage man" who is full of negative energy in spirit. From life to spirit, you will become a person who goes into battle lightly. Only a refreshing and unburdened person can live the true self from a dull life. Even if you can't be a great person, you can become a little person, bring people around you relaxed, infect others with positive energy and help others get simple love.

My reading experience and thoughts on house demolition were written by Eiko Yamashita, a Japanese sundry management consultant. The so-called breakup is a behavioral technique to get to know yourself, sort out your inner chaos and make life more comfortable by packing things. In other words, cleaning up the garbage at home and cleaning up the garbage in your heart is a way to make life happy.

In short, breaking up is to move from the visible world to the invisible world by cleaning up the space of one's life. Therefore, the actions to be taken are:

Cut off = cut off unwanted things that want to enter your home.

Give up = give up the rubbish everywhere in the house.

Leave = get rid of the obsession with things and stay in a comfortable space.

The protagonist in parting is not the object, but himself, and the timeline is always now.

In the materialistic era, all kinds of goods, infinite greed, the home is full of sundries and unnecessary things. A pile of clothes, shoes and hats have been idle for many years, and even the newly bought clothes are hung on the shelves for display. The room is full of misplaced items. The bigger the house, the more sundries, the less space and the worse the mood. Because of the mess, I am too lazy to clean up, forming a vicious circle.

Let's take action, from increasing life to reducing life. Give up unnecessary uncomfortable things and don't buy cheap and unnecessary things at a discount. Green, environmental protection, simplicity and exquisiteness. Constantly clean up the garbage at home and inside, and live a comfortable and beautiful life.

With the thinking mode of "why, what and how", I carefully read the book Breakthrough recommended by Zhang Defen, a body and mind writer.

First, why do you want to break up?

I remember a sentence in the article that impressed me the most: making people happy is the premise of making everything better. Then "breaking up" is not only to promote us to sort out and summarize, but to understand and like our true self and experience the feeling of self-affirmation through the process of sorting out. Articles are valuable only if they are useful; At this time, the article should appear where it is needed. Only when an object is placed in the right position can it show its beauty. Only with a relaxed and happy mood can we actively participate in a better life.

Second, what is a breakup?

Cut off = cut off unwanted things that want to enter your home.

Give up = give up the rubbish everywhere in the house.

Leave = get rid of the obsession with things and stay in a comfortable space.

The popular understanding is to clean up the rags at home and sort out the rags in your heart. This is the way to make life happy.

Third, how can we break up?

First of all, what we need to do is to reduce it completely, starting with "everything is rubbish" and saying "I'm sorry, thank you!" Give what you don't need to those who need it.

Secondly, we should learn to sum up useful things in an orderly way. We should limit the number of items in space and screen out our favorite items more strictly by limiting the total amount, which naturally improves our taste.

The book "Break Free" not only brought me spiritual purification, but also taught me how to organize and think in an orderly way. At the same time, making friends with the "needed, suitable and comfortable" makes life meaningful.

After years of research, Harvard Business School found a phenomenon that successful people with strong happiness often have a very clean and tidy home environment; Unfortunately, people are usually at sixes and sevens. The conclusion is that the room you live in is a reflection of yourself, and your life is actually like your room.

Goethe once said: The greatest sin in life is unhappiness! The writer Eiko Yamashita's "Breaking Up" has freed the psychological space and made life happy by sorting out things at home, throwing away what should be thrown away and leaving what is not needed! The protagonist of the breakup is not the object, but himself; The so-called parting is the way the protagonist gets along with things.

Disconnect = goods are valuable only if they are used, with the purpose of "disconnecting" and cutting off unnecessary things that want to enter your home. Give up = at this moment, things must appear where they are needed, in order to give up the garbage that is everywhere in the house. Separation = Only when the object is in the right position can the aesthetic feeling be displayed, and it is to "separate", get rid of the obsession with the object and be in a comfortable space.

In addition to things, everyone may have some invisible things, such as some emotions that only frown but come to mind, relationships that are constantly disturbed by it, and repeated choices that are difficult to look around, which will always bother us, bother us and make us unhappy.

The criterion to judge whether an object or a relationship should be broken is whether it brings us happiness and happiness. Here, you can use a coordinate to understand.

On the relationship axis, distinguish between "I want to use" and "can use". For example, there is a pair of disposable chopsticks in the kitchen at home. You can use it clearly, but you don't need it now. Let's give it up decisively. Since you have to give up eventually, don't take more disposable chopsticks when you go out for dinner next time, and let them appear where you really need them. This is called "broken".

In the timeline, distinguish between "use now" and "keep it for use". In order to live happily, everyone should live in the present at the right time, and those things that may be needed in the future can be put in a sorting box to make room. What appears in front of you only needs to be used now. Is to "leave"

Living in this storm of life, everything in the past is a mental journey, and those that remain unchanged, reluctant and inseparable will become piles of garbage in the growth of life. Not only can we not make room for new positive energy and positive life concept, but the original channels and circuits are also blocked and blocked. Physical and emotional energy is not smooth and cannot be metabolized. The old can't get out, and the new can't get in. How can the body be better? How can the mood be good?

Disengagement is a comfortable state. The relationship between people and things is actually a metaphor for the relationship between people and life. Breaking up can clear the mind, clear the environment, clear other thoughts, live a simple and happy life and enjoy a free life. As a result, the whole mental outlook and spiritual growth have taken on a new look from top to bottom.

The heart is motionless, the troubles are in vain, and the heart is more like a mirror. Bodhi has no trees, no mirrors and no clouds. No one can live anywhere else, so, give up entanglement, stubbornness and worry and live a good life here and now.

In the face of the disturbance of the world, we need to start from inner awareness and compassion, without entanglement, opposition and pessimism, and live out the origin of this life. Use those warm and bright beliefs and strengths in life to resolve anger, impetuousness, anxiety and ups and downs in life, and live a life of freedom, firmness, love and joy.

1, psychological deprivation

People who like hoarding often have a poor psychological environment in their early years. The psychological environment is because their material life may not be scarce, but in the process of growing up, they are injected with many beliefs about scarcity, which are deeply rooted. So, always worry and fear, as if insecurity will come at any time. Many people hoard relationships, which are euphemistically called "connections" and "social relationships". However, many times, just storing a phone number and adding a micro-signal, just like some hoarded items, is inefficient, and it is likely that there will be no chance to contact each other in depth in the future. But I still can't bear to throw it away. I always think about it in case I need it.

2. "unworthy" complex

Hoarding means that I think I need something like this, so I bought it, but I can never really have it. I only use outdated and dusty things. Because I believe that I have no value in my heart, I will constantly create situations to complete the "unworthy" self-realization. So is the hoarding of interpersonal relationships. When people think that their time and energy are worthless, they will be more willing to pay in some meaningless interpersonal communication. In this way, he will have an illusion that I am still valuable in these lifeless relationships: "Look, this is still necessary!" " "

3. Contact with emotion

Some people hoard used items in the past, especially those used by others, which makes the space at home narrower and narrower. They just can't throw away things related to the past, which means they have strong feelings for these things. Therefore, losing things is like losing the memory of the past years and life. Some people have embarked on a completely different life track from their primary school classmates, and they have nothing to say at all, but they still can't quit the group chat and say hello from time to time. Similar things can happen in extended families. When they grow up, they have almost no relatives to talk to, and there is no contact between their relatives at ordinary times. However, when we met in the street, we had to show enthusiasm, even to eat and spend the night to prove our innocence and simplicity.

4. Intrinsic fuzziness

This is the case with hoarding goods, and so is interpersonal relationship. Many people are not sure what is most important to them now and don't know what their future development direction is; I don't know what kind of friends I want, and I don't know where the right person is; You can't judge what kind of interpersonal relationship is good for you, and you can't judge what kind of social interaction is a complete waste of time. The result can only be to linger in various interpersonal relationships, whether it is appropriate or not, first establish relationships and then talk about others.

How to break up?

1, for psychological deprivation

When we can realize our own lack and fear, fear and lack can't catch you. You can do meditation or hypnosis. Himalayan and Taobao have a lot of meditation and hypnosis audio, which can be found by searching. Choose an audio that reshapes your inner richness and enrichment, and feel it with your heart. It doesn't take long, but 30 minutes is enough to reshape the inner richness and enrichment. Next time, you can say no to unnecessary occasions, and then you can have a warm dinner with your family.

2. Against the "unworthy" complex

Real connections come from you and your connections. If you can't respond to some resources that others may need, then the so-called "contacts" and "social relations" you have established are just a bunch of useless phone numbers. When you realize this, you will know that instead of clinging to various interpersonal relationships, it is better to calm down and study your professional skills or a specialty. If one day Bole gives you a great favor and an important task, you can accept it effortlessly and move towards a new step in your life.

3. Aiming at the connection with emotion

When you realize that some interpersonal relationships are just to maintain superficial harmony, their essence is only the existence of zombie fans. You're just afraid of some kind of fracture, or you can't live with your face, so it's not good to delete those old sesame seeds and rotten millet relationships. So what you want to hoard is a past emotional or memory connection. As a result, you have lost time and energy to establish more contacts with your most important relationship now. Isn't this not worth the loss? Some people's things are destined to be the past, drifting with the wind, anyway, you can only live here and now.

4. Aiming at inner ambiguity

When you can explain the above parts clearly, your internal organization will be clear. You start to pull your focus back to the present and start to think about what you want and what is most beneficial to your life development. Then, you start to choose. You won't scratch your eyebrows and beard anymore. You know the real meaning of breaking up. You won't take home everything you don't give up. Your hoarding was cured, and you started a simple and happy luxury life, full of freedom, determination, love and joy.

If you can think that everything is borrowed from the earth, you will naturally feel grateful and awe. Everything tangible is illusory, and our hearts are constantly changing. Enjoy the rare short encounter with things, which must be the happiness we pursue. When the fate is exhausted, let go smartly. Not only for things, but also for everything. This is the desire to give up. -Eiko Yamashita

At first, I wanted to read this book because its name looked like a spiritual book. Another reason is the beautiful name of Eiko Yamashita. Besides Haruki Murakami, I have never read books written by other Japanese writers, so I am curious.

I always feel that I am a diligent person, and I have to put things in the right place every day. My favorite thing is to arrange them in cabinets and wardrobes, or to arrange them neatly outside. But these things seem to be in a mess every day, and they have to be rearranged several times a day. I feel very proud. Being busy proves that I am diligent. This is a virtue, and I have never felt anything wrong.

After watching "Breaking Up", I realized that I didn't need too much. Focusing on "me", "present" and "used things", I found that many things can be discarded.

After reading this book, I began to make plans for the next day. On weekends, I tidy my clothes. On Monday, I tidy my desk, on Tuesday, I tidy my kitchen, and on Wednesday, I tidy my bookshelf. I don't remember how much I cleaned up. At first, I couldn't find anything when I was wondering if I could use it. , there is no effect.

I especially like hoarding things. When I go shopping, I think I will use it in the future. I think I will use it one day. In fact, these things are hardly used.

The reason why I give up things I don't like, don't fit and don't use is to make better use of what I have and cherish it more.

Everything needs to be balanced, and so does the family.

This is a good book. The only drawback is that all logical sums are a little unclear, but this does not hinder my best absorption.

Personally, I think it's really domineering to leave the title of reading 8, because many people can't do it. When you leave, you have to give up and leave, which leads to many tangled problems.

On the cover of the book, the word "break up" is marked:

This is another book about "sorting". It seems that the Japanese are better at sorting and storing. By practicing yoga, the author Eiko Yamashita has cultivated spirituality and let go of persistence, which inevitably makes this book pay attention to the propaganda of personal consciousness-let go of persistence in things and be your own master.

Relatively speaking, I prefer another book, The Sorting Magic of Heartbeat Life. Although the topic is not very domineering, the content is very practical, and some useful sorting and storage principles are put forward. If you want to learn sorting, this book is definitely worth reading.

Of course, the book "Breaking Up" also has some principles that are good and worth learning, such as:

Whether the principle of judging whether an item is needed is suitable for you now and whether it is really in use.

75 1 principle: 70% of the invisible places are filled, only 50% of the visible places are put, and 1% of the space is used for showing off and displaying.

Things around you should be comrades in arms in your life and work, not burdens.

The object of real parting is not the object, but oneself.

Finishing is always a big problem for me, because it is really difficult for me to completely break, give up and leave. If I follow the principles in the book Peng Ran ~, I should be able to throw away half of the articles. It seems that I am still too persistent to reach the realm of "leaving" at all.

I only hope that "if you really look for it, although you have lost something, it is not far away"!

The growth of nine people is the growth of thinking mode. It is never too old to learn, and people are dynamic, so the way of thinking they need is also dynamic.

Nowadays, material life is very rich, and people are more likely to fall into a situation where there are too many things to choose from, so it is very important to give up.

I was moved to see the name of this book, because I am a person who lacks control. Every time you set a goal, you can't finish it. Instead, you form a vicious circle and let yourself down.

Everything has priority. The more a person has a sense of social responsibility, the easier it is for him to give up his promise to others and himself, such as not working overtime tonight and not playing games tomorrow.

Separation is an ability of concentration. Fill your world with what you need most at the moment, and all other unimportant things go away. Don't take up your energy. On the other hand, don't be unwilling to use the right thing because of your high price. Where did the style come from?

Looking back, books are thoughts and people are actions. It is valuable to get rid of this matter and continue to do it.

Let's get started. We can start with anything.

Today, I will share with you a novel book, which is neither novel nor prose, but it is more practical and educational than novel prose. This book was written by Japanese writer Eiko Yamashita.

"Break, cut off what you don't need; Give up, throw away excess waste; Leave, leave the obsession with items. " At the beginning of the article, three words in the title are introduced to illustrate the main points of this book. At the end of last century, people's lives became more and more affluent, and there were more and more items at home, which were no longer limited to necessities. Space was limited and there were endless items, which led to messy phenomena in many homes, so various storage technologies and containers appeared to make more space. And Eiko Yamashita's "Break Free" is really an alternative art of shelter. She adopts the idea of controlling from the source, which is more effective, not only for the actual space, but also for the spiritual space.

The protagonist in Disengagement is not the object, but himself. Breaking, in fact, is to cut off and give up all the unwanted things that want to enter your home, that is, to give up the garbage that is flooding everywhere in your home, and repeat the steps of breaking and giving up, and you will enter a state of separation, that is, to get rid of your obsession with things and be in a comfortable space. This involves the change of thinking mode, from "this thing can still be used, so I want to stay" to "I want to use it, so it is necessary". After reading this book, I was deeply influenced. I threw away a bunch of useless things. Many things may have been useful, but if they are useless to me now, or I don't need them, and there is no need to waste time deliberately using them, I will throw them away. In the process of throwing, we will also rethink the problem of buying. When we think something is just for fun, we will buy it on a whim, throw it back sooner or later, and unconsciously give up buying it. There are very few things that really pass by, and it is difficult to screw them up. And in this process, we can move from the visible world to the invisible world, and finally realize a profound and thorough understanding of ourselves and accept the truest ourselves. It is not thought that changes action, but action that changes thought.

In addition, separation is also effective for the mind. Stop, stop the negative thinking mode; Give up, obey your heart and give up what you have; Leave and let go of the idea that "the more the better". To be happy, we first need to let go of our obsession with happiness.

After reading this book for the first time, I was attracted by the name. After reading the preface in the book, I was attracted by the content. The author says that if you want to improve your happiness index, you must establish a healthy relationship with the voice in your head. Especially when you notice yourself thinking negatively, you should be able to "break". The ability to break the game lies in "observation". If you can observe your negative thinking, you have already succeeded half way. If you can ignore your negative thinking and deal with things optimistically and positively, such a person can successfully break the thinking mode that makes him unhappy. Desire needs to be crossed, and the way to cross is sometimes chasing and satisfying. At some point, you will be exhausted and sit back in your seat, only to find that everything I want is waiting for me where I started. The law of breaking up thinking from the beginning of clearing your mind.

In daily life, we always unconsciously fall into the trap of discount and completely forget whether something suits our taste. Many times we just think it's cheap and the discount is low. I didn't expect that even if we bought it back, it would still have any use value, and it has been piled up in a corner since we bought it back. This is where we consider the problem. Many times, many ideas are just made on impulse, regardless of weight. However, when the result of the problem is different, we find out how we did it in the first place. This book tells us not to use "it will come in handy one day" as an excuse, but just put things aside. Instead, we should let them go to the place where they are most needed at this moment, and consciously send things out and "throw them away". Only when the goods are in the right position can the aesthetic feeling be displayed, and this spirit is also needed in the works. Only when your thoughts are constantly improved and your actions are constantly enterprising, the industry and technical information you come into contact with is the latest and best, rather than being dominated by your own solidified thinking and ideas. This is not acceptable.

Breaking up is actually a process of constant choice, choice and re-choice. According to different stages, the selection criteria are also different. Therefore, if you want to break up, it really takes some time. You have to go beyond your thoughts and improve your actions. Life needs constant experience and constant choice to know what you really want, what your work tasks and life goals are, so that life will not be confused, meaningless and lose its vitality.