Is there any custom to drink wedding wine in Changle?

amid the annoyance that "I have received many invitations in one month, and I am unable to support them", it is a bit strange to "not accept a gift", but it is nothing new in Fuqing. After investigation, the reporter found that not accepting gifts began more than ten years ago and became a new local custom.

The red bomb is sorrow rather than joy, and now it has become a topic that everyone talks about. Xiao Weng, who entered her thirties, complained that in 27, when she first entered the company, she met colleagues from another department who sent out invitations and invited everyone to have a wedding banquet. "I don't know at all. I have a feeling of being robbed in disguise." Since then, there have been more and more invitations. "I received six' fines' a month for a long time."

As friends enter the wedding hall one after another, "post-8s" find that sometimes they have to contribute half of their monthly salary to the wedding reception. "Everyone just work soon, purse is flat. With the ceremony at least 2 yuan, the pressure is great. It is an unspoken rule to send friends to 8 yuan and 1 yuan. I think it is a happy thing for a friend to get married, but when it comes to gift money, it is disappointing. "

Compared with the embarrassment of most post-8s generation, Xiao Chen, whose ancestral home is Fuqing, breathed a sigh of relief. "In 26, I began to attend the wedding of my hometown classmates. All I have to do is sign my wedding book. Newcomers don't accept gifts." He "complained" sweetly. "I've had four games this month, and I'm so tired of eating and taking."

Xiao Wu, who just got married in Fuqing Rongqiao Hotel on January 12th, thinks that getting married is doomed to burn money, which is just a matter of how much it costs. "Now, excluding drinks, a table of better dishes costs more than 2, yuan." Xiao Wu thinks it is right not to accept the guests' gifts. "Fuqing began to acquiesce to this custom very early, drinking so many free wedding banquets from colleagues and classmates, and collecting money for his own wedding. Is it reasonable?"

Ms. Wu clearly remembers that the first wedding reception she attended without receiving a wedding gift was in 1999, when the couple's parents came back to China and invited their close friends and colleagues to hold a lively wedding in Haiyang Building at Chantang Street in Fuqing City. Finally, all the gifts were refunded. The first thing she said after returning home was: "It's really fresh, and there are still people who don't receive gifts."

After that, Ms. Wu found that the wedding banquet was no longer fresh. She said that in the early years, people with better families did not accept gifts, but later it gradually became a custom, and people with ordinary families began to stop accepting gifts. Now she attends more than a dozen wedding banquets a year, and all of them go empty-handed happily. "If you want to accompany the ceremony, you have to spend thousands of dollars every year. How good it is, everyone is happy."

Even in rural areas, many people hold wedding banquets to celebrate. In 26, Xiao Xie and Xiao Hexi of Xietang Village in Jiangjing Town tied the knot, and the wedding invitation marked "no gift" and held a flowing banquet in the village. Seven aunts and eight aunts just gave Xiao He a red envelope as a gift, but Xiao He "resolutely refused to accept it", and relatives said it was "something". When I got home, I opened it and saw that there were one yuan and two yuan in the red envelope, and five yuan and ten yuan more. Xiao He said that he didn't intend to accept it. They are all family members, and happiness is the most important thing.

""new customs become new pressures?

A well-off family can bear the pressure of avoiding the gift, but what about the average family condition?

at the end of p>29, Xiao Wang, whose father was an ordinary worker and his mother was a housewife, did not accept wedding gifts according to the custom, and had certain economic pressure. In order to save costs, she held a banquet in her father's hometown in the countryside. "Didn't spend too much, to discuss good don't accept gifts. In Fu 'an, my husband's hometown, I also had a party, and I didn't accept a gift. He thought it was so good, so he used it. " Xiao Wang said.

Xiao Wang said that whether to accept a gift in Fuqing depends on the situation of each family. "Is the default new customs, but didn't say must do so. Last year, I attended 7 wedding banquets, and 2 of them were still collected. " Some wedding banquets selectively collect gifts for some guests.