Marriage documents are exquisite.

◎ Ren Zhijiang

In the folk, especially in the countryside, whoever has a big happy event will always arrange a person who was once called "Mr. Accountant". His task is to record the amount of gifts paid by relatives and friends during the wedding. In addition, there is a reimbursement staff, who helps the account writer to collect the gifts from relatives and friends, and then reimburse the account writer.

There is also "Mr. Accountant" in the wedding. But men and women, old and young, cannot be collectively called "Mr. Accountant". Especially now, for weddings held in some hotels, the job of "bookkeeper" seems to be much less than that of writing accounts in the past, just simply recording how much gift money someone gave. When writing the "address" of relatives and friends, regardless of the size of the generation, men and women near and far, all directly write their names. The difference is that there are more official names, such as how much money the mayor gave.

It should be said that the above practices are somewhat inappropriate and some are not in line with etiquette. Even now, many rural people will not do weddings in the above way as long as they know some accounting rules. In fact, the account "address" in the wedding is very particular, not just to write down how much money someone gave as a bride price.

First of all, the bookkeeper must know the relationship between the giver and the bride and groom, whether it is kinship, friends or colleagues, and so on. (Social etiquette) If you don't understand the relationship, you must ask clearly, and it's not too late to write an explanation. Regarding the "address" of the wedding account, the bride and groom all take this as the center, that is, how the bride and groom "address" the person who pays the gift. The first page of the household registration book must be reserved for new relatives (the woman's' relatives'), and other relatives and friends cannot occupy this position. From this perspective, it shows that we in China are very clear that we should respect others first, especially the most distinguished guests at the wedding.

Secondly, the "address" on the household registration book must be clear to people at a glance, so that people can know at a glance what the relationship between a relative and the bride and groom is. For example, the groom's uncle gave a gift of 200 yuan, and the correct writing on the account book is: My uncle gave a gift of 200 yuan, and wrote his full name next to it.

In addition, when writing other people's surnames, because some people's surnames are relatively rare, they often can't be written. I heard a story about a family wedding. The person who wrote the accounts was a female college student in her twenties, who had just left school. One of her relatives and friends named "Ai" received a gift of RMB 100. Mr. Xu's word "Xu" really made college students ponder, but he didn't write it for a long time, so he had to ask that Mr. Xu, that. Then, the girl wrote: Zhai Moumou paid a gift 100 yuan. Mr. Xu said unhappily, "Girl, this is not right. You should write' Uncle Zha paid 100 as a gift' and put my name on the bottom. " After that, Mr. Xu smiled and said to her, "Girl, although you are a college student in a famous university, you are still a melon in this business." By this time, the girl's face was red to the neck. Why do many rural people, especially those who know the rules, pay more attention to this? Generally, people who give gifts observe the bookkeeper, fearing that the bookkeeper will make mistakes, especially in "addressing". China people's surnames are complicated, so you must ask them clearly before writing them, otherwise you will be unhappy if you write them wrongly or irregularly.

In fact, there are still many requirements for writing an account for a wedding, so I won't list them here. China is a country with traditional etiquette. The ancients said: "People put ceremony first, and trees are round with branches and leaves." There are no rules, Fiona Fang. Everything is like this. Therefore, don't ignore the "address" of the marriage account. Proper "address" is respect for a person's personality.

It is only a trivial matter to write the "address" of the registered permanent residence at the wedding. But personally, I think that a person, a family and a society all reflect their civilization and self-cultivation from these small things.