Should my child clean up the room if it is too messy? Psychologist: A little chaos is better for children

For families with cute children, the most crazy thing for parents is that their children often mess up the room without any effort. It seems that children all over the world have this talent, often It takes one minute for the child to make a mess, and two hours for the parent to clean it up.

On this day, Ms. Zhou was chatting with her best friend on WeChat. As they chatted, their topic turned into complaining about children. Ms. Zhou complained to her best friend that her children often make a mess at home. The toys and school supplies they just put away are often poured out of the boxes by the children in less than a minute and strewn all over the floor. The couple are very clean people, and they spend most of their time cleaning the house every day, which inevitably makes them exhausted.

Although the child promised not to make a mess again, there was little improvement in his actions. My best friend said, "What do you think this is? Look at my house." Then she sent a photo to Ms. Zhou. In the photo, the living room was littered with toys, and the table was filled with handicrafts and semi-finished products made by children. , even the sofa was messy with many fairy tale books and various paintbrushes. The messiness was even worse than Ms. Zhou’s home. Both mothers were helpless about their children’s behavior of messing up the room.

Children often mess up their rooms. This happens in every family. No matter how you educate your children, there is still no improvement. Some parents worry that their children’s rooms are messy because they are not organized. In fact, this idea is not entirely correct.

1. Children’s understanding of mess is different from that of adults.

In the world of children, there is no dirt, no mess, and they don’t know what neatness is. In the scope of a child's cognition, there are only toys in the hand and delicious food in the mouth. Children in early childhood are not flexible and cannot multi-task. They can only focus on one thing. Therefore, no matter what is in their hands, They habitually put everything away without realizing that things should be put in designated places. Therefore, the places where children have been are often messy.

2. Children have their own designated places for objects

Adults think toys should be placed in the toy box, food should be placed on the plate, and paintbrushes should be placed in the pencil case inside. But children have their own ideas about where things belong. For example, when a child puts his handiwork on the windowsill, he thinks that the window sill is where the handiwork should be placed. Therefore, what looks messy in the eyes of parents is neat and orderly in the eyes of the child.

3. The embodiment of children’s creativity and imagination

The world has its own unique trajectory and laws. This law is a constraint for children. Children’s nature is love. Playing is full of curiosity. Children often mess up things on purpose because they have a sense of curiosity and freshness about messiness. This is the embodiment of children's creativity and imagination. Many objects give children new insights after changing their shapes.

Some parents ignore the expression of their children's creativity. They not only spend a lot of time and energy cleaning up their children's messes, but also often beat and scold their children because of their irritability, which invisibly destroys their children's creativity development.

1. Exercise children’s exploratory spirit

A seemingly messy and disorderly room is the embodiment of children’s exploratory spirit. Children’s exploration of the outside world is an instinct. When children can After walking, exploration changed from just looking to doing it, so messing up the room became a must. Children find that their actions can cause certain changes in the environment. This change gives them a great sense of accomplishment, so they will never tire of messing up the room. This spirit of courage to explore can cultivate children's brave and optimistic character.

2. Develop children’s nature and talents

It is a child’s nature to mess up the room, and children’s unique talents can be slowly inspired by the messy actions.

If the environment is too tidy, children will feel constrained and rigid. If parents forcefully prevent their children from messing up the room, the children's talents will not be brought into play and the liberation of nature will be curbed. If they live according to the rules set by adults, when they grow up, No personality, loss of enthusiasm for things and hindering the development of one's own talents.

3. Make children smarter

Research shows that children with messy rooms are smarter. Children in a messy environment make them feel more secure, and a messy environment can Stimulate children's inspiration. For example, what looks like a child's messy drawings on paper is actually a reflection of the child's inspiration. A messy room can stimulate children's brains and improve their IQ, making children naturally smarter.

Some children not only mess up the room, but also do not allow them to touch the messed things when their parents are cleaning up. This is because in the eyes of children, items have a special place. It is order in chaos. This behavior will make children's thinking more flexible.

1. Messy does not mean dirty

Parents should let their children distinguish between messy and dirty. It is okay to be messy, but not dirty. Things don’t need to be neat, but they must be sorted into categories. Parents can let their children use their brains to organize the items into categories by letting their children participate in the activity of tidying up the room, so that their children’s thinking flexibility can be exercised.

2. Learn to draw inferences from one example during games

For children, messing up a room is a kind of game. When they are only a few months old, they like to do it over and over again. If the good building blocks are pushed, the fruits will be deliberately smashed to the ground, and they will have endless fun watching the juice splash. These seemingly destructive activities are of great benefit to children's thinking development. When children are a little older, they can mess up the room, expanding the scope of destruction, and their thinking development has also been greatly improved. They are doing In the game of messing up the room, you learn to draw inferences from one example and think about problems more comprehensively and flexibly.

3. Improve children’s memory

Children are in a messy environment, and every object is messily placed. If in this case, they can still find what they need. things, then it shows that the child has a strong memory. The reason why parents ask their children to clean up the house and return all items to their original places is simply to know where to get them when they need them next time. However, children are unwilling to clean up the house because they are very confident in their memory, even if the items are scattered everywhere. Yes, they can find it immediately too. Therefore, being messy and organized can improve your child's memory.

When a child is a child, the higher his acceptance of messiness and disorder, the more flexible his thinking. Therefore, parents should not interfere too much in their children’s messy rooms, and should give their children space and freedom to freely use their imagination and creativity.

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