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What about falling in love with an engaged man?

We all know that when two people who like and love each other are together, and then they get married, life will be happy. Instead, they will torture each other and harm others and themselves.

So in any case, marriage can't be settled. When you decide to get married, you must think carefully and evaluate whether the other person can accompany you for a lifetime.

If you find a problem and can't walk into the marriage hall according to the actual situation, then it is the best choice to separate in time.

My good friend Xiaoyun regrets being engaged to her boyfriend just now. What should I do? Will you get married or break up and find the next one that suits you? Let's see what caused their engagement and regret it.

Xiaoyun is a quiet and introverted girl. She met her boyfriend A Bing through a friend's introduction, and gradually became a lover.

A Bing is a boy with high emotional intelligence. He always chases girls in the same way, and no girl can stand it. Xiaoyun caught her because she couldn't stand it. From the beginning, Xiaoyun didn't like A Bing very much. She agreed to fall in love together because she relented after pursuing him.

She thought to herself: shouldn't all girls marry a man who likes them better? In this way, you can be spoiled by each other for a lifetime, and you don't have to worry about indifference anymore.

Two people together for more than a year, A Bing treat her like a treasure at ordinary times, always be caring and attentive, never neglect her. As long as he can give it, he will do his best to satisfy Xiaoyun. Although she doesn't like him that much in her heart, it is enough to have his good attitude towards her.

Therefore, she decided to stay with A Bing, get married and have children, and lead a plain life.

Just at the end of last year, the two met their parents once, held an engagement ceremony directly, and then started a trial marriage and cohabitation. People often say that only when two people really live together can they know everything about each other.

Later, Xiaoyun lived in A Bing's home every day and lived with her parents. Not long after they lived together, they found many problems. For example, A Bing has a bad habit of indulging in games. After work, he doesn't do any housework, but only plays games. At the same time, she didn't pay attention to personal hygiene, which made the house in a mess. Every time Xiaoyun comes home, he always sees a terrible picture.

In addition, his parents are not so enthusiastic about her, and the family atmosphere is not so good. Living together every day is hell on earth.

Knowing this, she began to regret her engagement. Now she just wants to break up, but she can't bear to hurt him. After all, he used to be very kind to her, but the problems discovered later have touched her bottom line, and she really doesn't want to marry him.

In Xiaoyun's case, engagement is actually no big deal, because it is only the first step to deepen understanding. If problems are found, they can be solved in time.

1, A Bing likes to be addicted to games. You can talk to him first to help him quit the game addiction. If he still hasn't changed after his efforts, it's not too late to consider breaking up.

If we can't change because of our parents' attitude, then we can solve it this way: after marriage, two people buy their own houses and move out, provided that you love each other enough. This will no longer be a problem and will not hinder your's feelings.

Only by letting yourself face the facts seriously before making the final decision can we avoid the regret after separation.

Girls should remember that they can do anything except get married. I hope Xiaoyun can think about it. If we really can't continue this relationship, everyone should be quick and leave early. Remember to return all the wedding appointments after separation and wish each other well.

Then the question is, what kind of feelings are suitable for marriage?

Many people don't understand this, and then they get married in a muddle. Soon after, I regretted getting married so hastily, but unfortunately I never took any regret medicine again. Only divorce can solve such an unfortunate marriage.

In order to prevent more people from getting married by mistake, here is how to judge whether two people's feelings are suitable for marriage. Try to sit in the right position.

1. Ask "Do I really love ta?"

Love or not, in fact, everyone can feel it in their hearts If you really love someone, you will find that what ta can convey to you is a warm and happy feeling. Sometimes, I can even go through fire and water for ta. If you ask yourself this feeling, then you really love each other.

2. Can you tolerate all the shortcomings of each other?

It is said that loving someone will tolerate all the shortcomings of ta. In the process of getting along, if you find his shortcomings at a certain moment, you can turn a blind eye without feeling uncomfortable or disgusted. Congratulations on tolerating each other's shortcomings.

3. Are you ready to face the psychological preparation of married life with ta?

You should know clearly that once you get married, you have to face a complicated life, which can be daily necessities, complicated relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and a series of things about children. If both of you can have a brave heart to challenge these and be serious about your marriage, then you can get married. If you don't want to be bound by marriage and want to be free, please be careful, because such a marriage will not last long.

In a word, marriage is sacred, not child's play. I hope every couple will take it seriously and think twice before you act.