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How to prevent and deal with children's precocity

Communicate and correct bad tendencies in time when they are found.

Feng Bo, owner of Longxin tobacco and liquor store in Binxian County, Shaanxi Province

In real life, the phenomenon of junior high school students writing love letters and falling in love is gradually increasing, which is a "precocious" phenomenon and a difficult problem in school and family education. In this regard, parents should guide their children to shift their energy to study and normal entertainment activities.

The child is in the third grade of junior high school this year and has received a love letter before. The child came home from school that day and accidentally told me about it. At that time, I thought: children can reveal their privacy, which just provided me with an opportunity to communicate with him. I must handle this problem carefully. After that, I had an in-depth conversation with my child. The child told me the reason why others wrote him love letters and his own confusion. I didn't reprimand the child, nor did I ask him how he was studying recently and how his grades were. Instead, choose to let the child talk about the topic he is interested in and calmly observe his emotional changes. In the process of communication, I also told my children about life and ideals, and guided them from the side, so that children have a more comprehensive understanding of adolescence.

This incident touched the children very much. Because of timely and correct guidance, he knows how to deal with the love letters he receives. His later study and life were not affected by this incident.

Don't let children be obsessed with TV.

Wang Pingan, owner of Ping 'an grocery store in Binxian County, Shaanxi Province

In daily life, various media, especially television, have a great influence on children. Children watching TV for a long time will hinder their language and emotional communication with their parents to some extent. There are all kinds of content on TV now, and sometimes there are violent and vulgar scenes. It is easy for children's curiosity to germinate and then imitate blindly. Some children's "precocity" has a lot to do with this.

In order to avoid children's "precocity", parents should scientifically choose suitable and educational TV programs or film and television dramas to accompany their children, inspire and guide them, and thus enhance their ability to judge right and wrong.

Correctly guide children to communicate with the opposite sex

Zhang Li, owner of Linli Tobacco and Liquor Hotel in Binxian County, Shaanxi Province

The children are curious. As long as I have never touched or experienced anything, I really want to try it. In my opinion, it is normal for children to be curious and like the opposite sex during adolescence. Under such circumstances, parents should not blame their children and force them to suppress their affection for the opposite sex. Instead, we should stand in the child's perspective, understand the child's feelings, and don't blindly label the child as "puppy love".

Parents should first let their children feel their parents' love and trust, and then give them advice and tell them that it is not a scourge to have a good impression on the opposite sex, but if it is not handled well, it will not only affect their study, but also affect their later life. In this way, children can easily accept their parents' opinions better.

Look at children's growth rationally

Liuli, owner of Binxian State Tobacco Hotel, Shaanxi Province

To prevent children from "precocity", I think we should do the following two things:

First, parents should follow the law of children's growth, choose education methods suitable for children's age, avoid cramming education, and try not to add extra burden to children. Some children are not old enough to go to school, but they have to attend several remedial classes in English, dance and art every week. Turning children's play time into study time is easy to make children lose their innocence and look like "little adults".

Second, parents should be more patient with their children, treat their children's growth with a normal heart and never encourage them. Let children get out of the environment with adults and create more environments and opportunities for children to communicate with their peers.

In short, we can neither blindly set high requirements for children nor let ourselves go. Everything is decided by children, but we should treat children's growth rationally. Parents should understand that a healthy and psychologically sound person can go better and further on the road of life.

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No matter how busy parents are at work, they should communicate with their children more, talk about school life, and take the initiative to get to know their children's teachers, friends, classmates and other people who have frequent contact with their children, so that they can know more about their children's situation, which makes it easier to enter their inner world.

-Sun Qiangbin, a retail customer in Binxian County, Shaanxi Province

Communication is an effective way for parents and children to establish friendship. Parents and children become friends through communication, and children will naturally speak their minds. In this way, parents can grasp their children's psychological changes in time and guide their children to grow up healthily.

-Wang Junjun, a retail customer in Bin County, Shaanxi Province.

Now the living standard of many families has improved, and the consumption level of children has also increased accordingly. Many businesses grasp the psychology of some children pursuing fashion, and the products they buy are too adult. Parents can't correctly guide their children to form a healthy consumption concept, which easily leads to their "precocity".

—— Zhang Gang, a retail customer in Binxian County, Shaanxi Province.

expert opinion/advice

It is not conducive to mental health for children to be sensible too early. We often hear many parents praise their children as "little adults" and "really sensible", which will make children subconsciously form psychological hints and take the initiative to play the role that parents want them to play. Sometimes, children will hide all their emotions and try to be sensible and strong while bearing the pressure of learning. This is not conducive to the healthy growth of children.

According to relevant surveys, children who are "precocious" drink more alcohol and take more drugs as adults, and suffer from a larger proportion of depression. Therefore, parents should bear in mind that children should never bear the mental stress that they should not bear at this age.

—— Yang Guangwu, Psychological Counselor of Binxian Hospital in Shaanxi Province

With the economic conditions getting better and better, parents nowadays give priority to taking care of their children, regardless of their educational background and age. The reasons for children's "precocity" are very complicated, which are related to improper diet and abuse of health care products, as well as family and social environment.

How to make children develop physically and mentally in a superior learning and living environment, parents should do the following. First, start with improving the food structure, pay attention to balanced nutrition, try to let children eat more seafood, green vegetables and fruits, eat some coarse grains appropriately, and eat less foreign fast food. Second, the education and guidance of children should try to avoid becoming adults. In some families, especially the one-child families, the fast-paced lifestyle often confines children to the family's land in Xiaotian, reducing the communication between children and their peers, and most of them face and communicate with adults every day. Over time, it is easy to lead children to early adulthood. The third is to give children free time and space, and don't control them too strictly. Parents should spend more time communicating with their children and don't force them to do what adults can do.

Family education is a systematic project involving all aspects. If parents put love into their children's education, they can sow the seeds of love in their young hearts and let them grow sturdily.