My mother-in-law stopped the wedding change, and the change fee of 50 thousand yuan was too expensive. What do you think is the appropriate change fee?

As we all know, marriage needs investment, not only feelings, but also money, time and so on. You can't be afraid of giving, because giving is mutual. You don't have to throw a lot of love at each other. How can they be dead set on you? You haggle over the cost of love and marriage, and the other party will redefine whether you can marry such a person when they see your small pattern.

If you don't take the time to stabilize your feelings, then your feelings may be like castles in the air. It is foreseeable that you will face ups and downs in the future. However, salary is also divided into reasonable salary and unreasonable salary, especially in the material aspect, which is particularly important and needs to be distinguished. Although I said in my article that marriage must be paid and can't be stingy, it is not without preconditions, and this premise is based on a reasonable range.

What is reasonable? We know that marriage requires a bride price. Based on mutual acceptance, the bride price within the man's economic ability can basically be characterized as a bride price within a reasonable range. On this basis, other expenses recognized by the public are counted as reasonable wedding expenses, such as wedding expenses and wedding photos.

In addition, it is unreasonable, such as the well-known sky-high bride price, changing your mouth, opening the door, getting off the bus and so on. These expenses sound ridiculous and have no reason to exist at all, but some people think that these expenses have the meaning of his existence. I think this is part of traditional culture and folk customs. More importantly, from the process of asking for these fees, we can see whether the other party has enough sincerity in it.

However, you should know that you will never get what you want by testing the truth with irrationality and lies, because truth only exists in reason, and you can get the truth with sincerity. I once met a girl who didn't agree with me. She said that getting married once in a lifetime is a woman's most precious memory. Can't a woman order anything? On the wedding day, a man should understand to be a wayward woman for a day, shouldn't he?

Marriage is a major event in life. No problem. Women should have requirements. Everyone wants to be the happiest woman in the world at least once on the wedding day, but this premise is reasonable. Insisting on these unreasonable conditions is a burden to marriage and a drag on life.

Willfulness has nothing to do with adults. No one will pay for your willfulness, only you will pay for it. Marriage is not a unilateral effort, but a mutual effort. If you treat each other well and understand each other, they will treat you well and understand you. But if you are willful, selfish and willful, please don't blame the other party too much at that time, because even if there is a mistake, it is your fault first. You set a wayward precedent and put forward unreasonable conditions, and the other party has the right to refuse and treat you in the same way.

In fact, this truth is not difficult to understand. To put it bluntly, you can of course ask for marriage, but please be careful not to go too far. The world does not revolve around you, and you are not unique. If you annoy the other person, he will tell you what a lesson is with practical actions. If Zhang Lulu knew this fact, she wouldn't lose face in front of everyone on the wedding day. She thinks she is a shoo-in. She thought she was clever, but in the end she found that the stupidest person was herself.

Put forward unreasonable reasons and make a mess of what could have been a beautiful wedding. She thought that the most humiliating person would definitely not be her, but after the wedding, all the comments were directed at her alone.

What did Zhang Lulu do? She temporarily blocked the wedding day and asked her husband's family for a change fee of 50 thousand yuan. She thought that even if she didn't want to, even if she didn't want to, she would still agree to her request for the sake of the overall situation. In this way, she not only took it from her mother-in-law, but also proved her importance in her mother-in-law's house.

But what she didn't expect was that her mother-in-law said something that surprised her and humiliated her in public. She was caught off guard. To make it clear, you have to start from the beginning. Zhang Lulu, a 25-year-old jx native, comes from an ordinary family and has a younger brother. Zhang Lulu, with a low education level, retired from junior high school and went to work in a second-tier city in the south.

Zhang Lulu worked as a textile worker for two years, then worked as a waiter in a hotel for one year, and then began to sell second-hand houses under the recommendation of a fellow villager. She knew how to read people's expressions from an early age. Zhang Lulu has done a good job in selling this job. Her income is much higher than other jobs and her time is much more free, so she has been selling this job until now.

It was this job that made her know her later boyfriend Zhang Wei. Zhang Wei is a customer in Zhang Lulu. Zhang is going to sell his old house and buy a new one. The house has been transferred to Zhang Lulu. Zhang Lulu is good-looking, and her work attitude is moderate and practical, which is deeply liked by Zhang Wei.

Unmarried man and unmarried woman, Zhang Wei began to pursue her shortly after her work in Zhang Lulu was completed. Zhang Lulu didn't like Zhang Wei at first, but Zhang Wei was sincere. I often send her to work, and I don't talk lightly. She never shows off her efforts, but she treats Zhang Lulu silently in her own way.

Zhang Lulu was finally moved by what Zhang Wei did. She agreed to Zhang Wei's request. Soon after they got together, Zhang Wei couldn't wait to take Zhang Lulu home to meet her parents. This time, Zhang Lulu found that Zhang Wei's family was not rich. Zhang Wei's father drives a taxi. In recent years, his health has been poor. In addition, he can't use the smart phone network to pick up customers. At least half of the tourists were lost, and his income plummeted. Zhang Wei's mother is an ordinary housewife and has no source of work. As for Zhang Wei, she is an ordinary company employee with a monthly salary of about seven or eight thousand.

The only redeeming thing is that Zhang is lucky. There are two old houses in the local area. No, I sold one of them and changed a new house for Zhang Wei to get married in the future. Anyway, the house fell down. Zhang Lulu thought for a long time and felt his situation. Just like that, it is impossible to find a better one. After all, over the years, her boyfriend is either not as good as her, or just playing, and has never really treated her.

Unlike Zhang Wei, she can see that Zhang Wei really likes her and loves her. Some time ago, Zhang Wei also proposed to her. When she proposed, Zhang said a lot with her eyes closed, which made her choke. Zhang Wei also said that she would fully respect the customs of her hometown in Zhang Lulu and let Zhang Lulu get married with dignity.

Zhang Lulu looked at the man in front of her. Maybe it was the first time she felt deep love. She nodded in tears. If Zhang Lulu had always remembered the scene, for a man who loved him so much, she wouldn't have done that stupid thing later.

According to the bride price of Zhang Lulu's hometown, she asked her boyfriend for 200,000 yuan, which is the lowest in their family. She already thought it was the minimum, but her promised boyfriend showed obvious hesitation and surprise, which made Zhang Lulu feel very unhappy. She felt that she had given in a lot, but her boyfriend's attitude made her feel particularly disrespected. Fortunately, her boyfriend finally gritted his teeth and agreed to Zhang Lulu's request.

Then the wedding began to be planned, and everything was going well. The wedding reception booked the best five-star hotel in the local area, and the wedding photo was taken on a global tour. Even the bridesmaid's accompanying gift, Zhang Lulu, chose the most upscale one.

These, her boyfriend and future in-laws also support this Lulu. After all, there is only one marriage, and luxury is nothing at all. Boyfriend thinks for himself, and in-laws are accommodating and can think for her. Zhang Lulu is actually lucky enough, but there is a saying that this is not the case. Zhang Lulu began to be dissatisfied.

That is, a week before the wedding, she received a phone call from her cousin, and they were very close. A casual remark on the phone suddenly reminded her of Zhang Lulu. She patted her head and remembered that she didn't ask for the change fee for changing the link.

In Zhang Lulu's hometown, it is common to find money, but it is unheard of in the man's home. Because her boyfriend said that Zhang Lulu could follow the customs of her hometown, Zhang Lulu seriously considered the change fee.

Zhang Lulu is going to ask for a change fee of 50,000 yuan. First, it is to test the attitude of the man's family towards her. Second, she feels that she wants less bride price. Many fellow sisters felt that they were not worthy of her and urged her to take more.

She was so worried that she thought of a good excuse to change the fee. In fact, in Zhang Lulu's hometown, the highest revision fee is 10. 1 10,000, which shows that it is one in a million, while in Zhang Lulu, lions demand five times the price. Maybe it's because she's guilty, or maybe it's to catch the man off guard and make them too late to react. It was not until the morning of the wedding that she told him about the change in the cost.

At that time, my in-laws were all black, and even Zhang Wei's face was not good-looking. Zhang Wei discussed with Zhang Lulu and said that he couldn't come up with the money now. Could he pay less or make up for it later? It's important to do something first, but Zhang Lulu doesn't care.

"I don't care. Anyway, you said you would abide by the rules of my family. My family has a change fee. I won't change my mind if you don't give it. If I give it, I can change my mouth appropriately. " Zhang Lulu spoke very hard, which made the atmosphere stiff. Finally, her mother-in-law spoke and said that she would solve this problem, so it is very important for Zhang Lulu to get married first.

Zhang Lulu must be very happy about this. Now that her mother-in-law has spoken, she has nothing to worry about. After all, this family is not the kind of person who can fool. The wedding ceremony was changed, and the MC asked for it. Just as Zhang Lulu was offering tea, she called her mother, but her mother-in-law quickly stood up and waved her hand, which directly stopped this change.

All the audience, including Zhang Lulu, were puzzled, but Zhang Lulu saw Zhang Wei's manner, as if she already knew what her mother-in-law was going to do, and she was very calm. Before Zhang Lulu could think about it, her mother-in-law had already started talking.

"Don't call me mom, call me mom, call me birthday, just call me aunt, later call me aunt. You are too expensive. Call your mother, and the change fee is 50 thousand, 50 thousand a word. My old woman can't stand it. "

What her mother-in-law said embarrassed the audience. They all pointed at this Lulu, and they talked about it in succession, which made her particularly uncomfortable. She put forward these conditions, but she never thought about not getting married or anything, but now she is humiliated by her mother-in-law. Getting married is not not not getting married, but if she doesn't get married now, it will be even more humiliating. In desperation, Zhang Lulu still crustily skin of head got married.

But now, it's not about getting married. After getting married and returning to China, her husband and in-laws obviously don't like Zhang Lulu. People around her who knew about it had a bad opinion of Zhang Lulu, which made Zhang Lulu feel very unhappy. Not only has the change fee not arrived, but the relationship with the new husband and in-laws has also been particularly stiff, especially the mother-in-law. She didn't know how to shout, aunt, and her mother-in-law ignored her directly and called her mother, who said she would celebrate her birthday.

The husband was angry at her temporary jam that day, and thought that Zhang Lulu was joking with himself, which hurt his trust and feelings. Now Zhang Lulu is the first two, and she wants to go back to her wedding day. If she had the chance to do it again, she would definitely not make unreasonable demands and do such stupid things, but it was too late to say anything.

No medicine can reverse it, but the situation in Zhang Lulu can still be remedied. She is not headstrong and never gets married. After all, she still wants to have a good life with Zhang Wei. Today's plan is not easy and quick. She can only slowly regain the trust of the other party with a sincere attitude and make more efforts to win the forgiveness of the other party.

I have to say that Zhang Lulu is indeed a very realistic girl, perhaps because she came out of a primary school. Her evaluation of Zhang Wei's family before marriage and all kinds of behaviors of weighing the pros and cons made me feel ignorant.

She thinks that Zhang Wei is a relatively advanced opposite sex that she can come into contact with, so she agrees to marry Zhang Wei. Maybe such a girl is very smart. She knows what she wants, and it is easier to get happiness, because their happiness is very specific, and it is easy to see whether they get it or not.

But Zhang Lulu, who is obviously too smart, won't shoot herself in the foot, because penny wise and pound foolish do more harm than good.

However, I think once a girl like her realizes her mistake, it should be easy to remedy her success, because her mistake is not too big. When it was most likely to be irreversible, she chose to pull back from the brink, instead of sticking to her point of view, but took a step back for the overall situation and her marriage.

Although all parties suffered reputational losses, this crucial step helped her save her marriage. It's not good now, but at least it's not the worst. After all, we are all a family, and there will always be a day of estrangement.

In fact, the Zhang Lulu incident is completely avoidable. In fact, it is very simple to avoid unreasonable expenses. Zhang Lulu later said that he was possessed. Looking back, it was only 50 thousand yuan. Why do you have to? I can't earn it myself, and it's not much. How can you be sleepy at that time? You can't figure out such a simple truth? In fact, most people don't really understand it, but they have a lucky feeling that their waywardness may be satisfied.

Again, the waywardness of adults is not cute. Your willful indifference to each other is a kind of harm, and your selfish behavior of venting your emotions and expressing your views is a kind of selfishness. In the adult world, willfulness should not exist. Especially when you are married, you should think more about each other. You know, marriage is a win-win situation, but there is no unilateral victory. In the face of marriage, you are not afraid to give or take. But remember, reasonable demands, reasonable pay, no matter what you do, you should say hello in advance, everything can be discussed and measured, and the road to marriage can be smooth.