My middle-aged colleagues who are having extramarital affairs

One

When I turned forty, I suddenly noticed that more and more middle-aged people having extramarital affairs were appearing around me. They were like bamboo shoots after a rain, emerging one after another from their hiding places. Head corner.

This surprised me a bit, and as I saw it more, I gradually became blind to it. Perhaps for some men, the emotional life in middle age begins to become as dull as plain water, and his immunity to extramarital emotions is greatly reduced.

2

One weekend night, I was sitting on the sofa watching TV when I suddenly received a call from my colleague Zhao Gang. He sounded a little anxious and told me hastily: "If I were my wife When I call you, just tell me that I will have dinner with you at a certain hotel tonight." I didn't ask him the reason and agreed immediately, thinking that he was always mysterious in the office these days. The way he answered the phone behind his back, I concluded that he was having an affair and must be with another woman tonight, otherwise he wouldn't have let me help him cheat on his wife.

When we met at work on Monday, we had a tacit understanding and no one mentioned it again. Zhao Gang was originally the kind of person who I thought would not have an extramarital affair. He was low-key and had never heard of any problems with his lifestyle. His wife was also a very virtuous woman. The couple raised two children and had just been elected. The unit’s “happy family”.

One night a month later, I took my wife and children to a restaurant for dinner, and met Zhao Gang at the door of the restaurant.

I greeted him, but I felt that his expression seemed a little unnatural. At this time, a woman who looked about 40 years old came out of the restaurant, took Zhao Gang's arm affectionately, and said, "Husband, let's go."

Husband? I was stunned. This woman was not Zhao Gang’s wife. Why did she call him husband?

Zhao Gang became even more unnatural, smiled at me awkwardly, and hurriedly took the woman away.

My wife saw my surprise and asked me: "What's wrong?"

I told her: "This woman is not his wife."

Wife He said "Oh", looking like he was not surprised. No wonder, this kind of thing is so common now, there are so many of them around, who can be surprised.

The wife asked: "Is he rich?"

I said: "How much money can he have if he gets a salary like me."

Wife Said: "What does this woman want from him if she has no money?"

While eating, Zhao Gang called me and told me: "Don't tell anyone what happened today, keep it a secret for me, please! "

I teased him: "It's okay to keep it secret, but you are quite capable. The red flags at home are not falling, but the red flags are flying outside!"

Zhao Gang smiled bitterly on the phone: " Brother, don't laugh at me, there's nothing you can do about it." It sounded like he had a hard time.

After drinking that time, Zhao Gang and I took a walk along the road for a while, chatting while walking.

"Do you think I am a fool?" he suddenly said.

"What's wrong? Why do you ask that?" I asked.

"That woman is the one you saw that day. She was my girlfriend back then." He said.

"Oh, you guys are very close!" I teased him again.

"I just don't understand, why is she so attracted to me? Back then, she didn't treat me wholeheartedly."

Zhao Gang and I walked together, and he talked all the way. From his narration, I seem to have seen a scene from more than ten years ago:

Zhao Gang desperately rode a motorcycle through the traffic and almost got scratched several times. He didn't care about the car at all. He only had one thought in his mind: to get on the bus in front and intercept the man and woman on the bus.

Twenty minutes later, Zhao Gang boarded the bus that had just stopped to unload passengers. He tilted his motorcycle to the side of the road and hurried over, blocking the way of the young man and woman. The young woman His expression immediately changed.

The young man asked doubtfully: "Who are you? What do you want to do?"

Zhao Gang's blood rushed to his head. He pointed at the young woman and said without hesitation: "I am Ask her, she is pregnant with my child.”

The young woman in this scene is the woman I saw that day. She was Zhao Gang’s girlfriend more than ten years ago. Step on two boats.

After that incident, she severed contact with Zhao Gang.

I asked: "In this case, why are you together again now?"

Zhao Gang answered a little helplessly: "I can't explain why, no matter what it was like before, I still can't I couldn't resist her attraction to me. We got in touch again a year ago and she got divorced." I asked, "What are you going to do?"

Zhao Gang. Said: "I don't know how long I can maintain this relationship with her. It may end soon. I often feel guilty and feel sorry for my wife."

"Your wife is very kind. , just do it yourself." I said.

Three

I know that Zhao Gang did not end this extramarital affair quickly. Later, he was seconded to a higher-level unit for half a year. I stopped caring about his affair for a long time.

Extramarital affairs of colleagues around me still popped up from time to time. Because it was so common, I lost interest in paying attention to such things until I saw another colleague, Lao Zhang, who has superhuman talents in this area.

Lao Zhang is about to turn fifty. Except that his appearance is slightly younger than his age, his figure is not out of shape, and he still retains some of the arrogance of his youth, there is really nothing special about him. . During that time, we were working on the same engineering project. I didn't think his business was very good, but I was impressed by his extramarital affairs.

In his free time, Lao Zhangte likes to tell me about the women he has acquired. He said that there are five or six women who are still in that kind of relationship with him, and they are all women from good families. Afraid that I wouldn't believe it, every time Lao Zhang finished telling me about a woman, he would make a frivolous phone call to the woman on speakerphone in front of me to let me know that he was not bragging.

I felt disdainful of Lao Zhang’s behavior, and at the same time I was curious about how he got in touch with these women. Lao Zhang said to me lightly: “Actually, women and men are the same, they don’t want to have sex in their hearts. It's easy to get along with them." I don't agree with what he said.

Lao Zhang made no secret that he was looking for women purely for sexual stimulation. I said, "Why don't you just go to the lady and be done with it?" He said, "The feeling between a lady and a serious woman like this is completely different."

To be honest, from a man's perspective, I really don’t understand what attracts these women to Lao Zhang. Besides, he doesn’t have much money, so what are these women for?

I saw one of Lao Zhang’s lovers. On a street far away from his home, Lao Zhang and this girl who looked very young were walking next to each other. Lao Zhang was very calm when Bu Ding bumped into me, but I felt a little embarrassed. This girl, Lao Zhang, told me that she has been friends with Lao Zhang since she was 18 years old, and it has been 7 years now. Lao Zhang said that among these lovers, she is the one he cares about the most.

Later I teased Lao Zhang: "When she finds a partner, you will have to retire honorably. It will be bad if you continue to dominate others like this."

Lao Zhang said: "We'll see when the time comes. I guess she still can't live without me. She always compares me when looking for a partner now. After several kisses, she still doesn't like me."

I said: "Then you are more likely to compare me with me." You have to quit immediately. You will cause interference to her if you are always in her life."

Lao Zhang smiled: "When she went on a blind date recently, I hid aside to check for her. Okay, I'll advise her, if she succeeds, let her do whatever she wants to do with me in the future."

Two months later I asked Lao Zhang: "How is she finding her partner? How's it going?"

Lao Zhang said: "We had a discussion and both parties were quite satisfied. We went to the groom's house to meet his parents yesterday."

I asked: "What about you? , when are you going to quit?"

Just as Lao Zhang was about to answer, a call suddenly came from the girl. Lao Zhang didn't shy away from me either. The two of them talked a few words on the phone and made an appointment to book a room tomorrow.

After answering the phone, Lao Zhang laughed at me and said, "Tomorrow is Valentine's Day, and I have to buy a bouquet of flowers for my wife, and I have to coax her into doing well."

Me I scolded him sincerely: "You are so shameless!"

Four

As a man who has just entered middle age, I have also experienced the temptation of extramarital affairs.

After ten years of marriage, the children have become the focus of the family. Holding my wife’s hand feels like the left hand holding the right hand.

By chance, I met my first girlfriend.

At that time, we fell in love at first sight, but her family firmly disagreed with our relationship, because her parents with old ideas had arranged a marriage for her early on with a boy from a well-connected family. She had already accepted it, but started to resist fiercely after meeting me. .

After half a year, I began to avoid her deliberately until I no longer had contact with her because I felt tired. Later I heard that she used the threat of breaking off the relationship to force her parents to agree to dissolve the engagement.

She was very surprised and happy when we met this time and asked for my contact information. Later, she contacted me often and asked me to have dinner with her that night. I told my wife that I had a social event and went to the appointment.

Sitting in the dark booth, she said to me quietly: "I'm not having a good life."

I asked: "What's wrong? Is he treating you badly?" ?"

She replied: "He is very good to me, but I will never forget you."

I was silent, not knowing what to say.

After dinner, I drove her to the downstairs of her house. She was reluctant to get out of the car. After a long time, she said to me: "He is on a business trip and there is no one at home. You can go up and have a seat." , I want you to stay with me for a while."

My heart was beating so hard that I hesitated to go up. To be honest, I wanted to go up at that moment, and I knew what would happen if I went up. But I still suppressed my desire, hugged her, and then told her: "It's getting late, I won't go up."

When I got home, the child was already asleep. When my wife saw me coming back, she turned around and took out a new jacket. She happily handed it to me and said, "Try to see if it fits. If not, I will change it tomorrow."

My wife likes to buy clothes for me. , but she is reluctant to buy it herself. I often complain that she should not buy me so many clothes and waste money, but she is always happy to do so.

After trying on the clothes, I entered my bedroom and found that my wife had changed and washed the sheets for me. The quilt that had been dried for me during the day was soft and exuded the warm fragrance of the sun. I suddenly felt a sense of satisfaction, and I was glad that I did the right thing today because I didn't cruelly shatter my wife's world.

Five

Half a year later, shortly after Zhao Gang returned to his work unit after his secondment period, his extramarital affair was exposed. However, it was not me who exposed it to him. It was his lover who came to find him. The wife showed her cards and asked her to give up her seat. Zhao Gang didn't want this, but he could no longer control the situation.

Zhao Gang's wife was a relatively weak person. Although she suffered unbearable humiliation, she still hoped to save her family, so she took her two children and went to the work unit crying to find the leader. In front of the leader, Zhao Gang promised to resolve the matter and break off the relationship with his lover.

Unexpectedly, only a week later, it happened that Zhao Gang's lover deliberately knocked down Zhao Gang's wife while driving on the road, which instantly became news in our small city.

After this incident, Zhao Gang finally divorced his wife. Zhao Gang was condemned by people, and he felt that he could no longer stay in the company, so he quickly resigned and went to Beijing to apply for a job.

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Author |? Hechang, a small cadre of a state-owned enterprise.

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