Marriage customs and matters needing attention of bridesmaids in Fuzhou

The marriage customs in Fuzhou are as follows:

" c3 Z. W' |' c# {- P！ L' _ 1 N( p( 1)) First of all, the man will go to the woman's house to propose marriage, and the man will give the woman's father a bride price of 33,000 yuan, and he will also give the woman's mother money ranging from 3,000 yuan to more than 3,000 yuan, because it is not easy for her mother to give birth to her. 5 j5 q% l3 E8 S+ }( U，Z/ O

(2) Secondly, the man bought the woman three sets of wedding dresses, including underwear, underwear, autumn clothes, autumn trousers, coats, suitcases and purses. Because the woman's mother gave birth to the woman, she also had to give her parents some expenses. 9 u* P2 R9 Q8 h3 c' n. r

(3) Third, if the man is from Fuzhou, he should take the bride to the groom's house and give gifts to all relatives of the man's house.

' |; K- o( K6 w* A' A' P(4) Fourth: When the man goes to the woman's wedding, he needs to use a red umbrella to block the sun from shining on the woman's face;

$ I ' @ M)M $ D； N( M(5) Fifth, the man must negotiate with the woman to book a hotel, and he must meet the guests at the hotel gate when he gets married that day; i 1 _: O+ v$ G！ _.l； q

(6) Sixth, the man also needs to buy some household appliances such as dolls, red buckets and red washbasins; % H * @ 4x 0m . N D； k. x

. K" ]$ Q, P' S3 j After the bride gets started, she has the custom of "before cooking". When the bride goes into the kitchen, she puts on an apron, burns firewood first, then cooks eggs, and sings with the housekeeper: Before the couple goes into the kitchen, the family property is "salty" (high) ... This is a demonstration ceremony, and the bride just makes an action.

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# e8 z！ ) The next day, or three or five days later, the bride will go to the kitchen to cook, which is called "trying the tripod". The so-called "Tintin Test" is a "test" of the bride's cooking skills, such as cooking, stir-frying, frying soup and stewing fish. At this time, my mother-in-law, aunt, aunt and other relatives and elders come to watch and can suggest how to cook, stew and cook this dish. You can use it to cut vegetables, fish and meat with a knife, and use it to cook oil and salt sauce. Generally speaking, it is instructive, focusing on doing well and frying well. If one or two relatives and elders deliberately ask questions, the bride should have her own opinions and don't listen to what she says casually to avoid making mistakes. However, as a bride, it is not convenient to answer irrelevant questions, and take "what to say when you say it". Cooking test skills should also have their own qualities. If someone asks questions, they will say "taste the taste first, and then do as you say next time", or calmly and modestly answer "eat first, then do as you say" to avoid "topping the bull" and causing complications. Usually try to make tofu with oysters and garlic. After the bean curd soup is boiled, it is important to add thin sweet potato powder. If the powder is added too much, the tofu soup will solidify into pieces; Too little powder is added, and tofu soup can't be soup. The bride should try the tripod calmly, so as not to panic and cause the imbalance of salty, sour, bitter, spicy and sweet flavors. Farmers attach importance to tofu and homophonic "service" (yes), which is a good sign; Oyster, commonly known as "oyster", homophonic "little brother" (child); Garlic, commonly known as "garlic" and homophonic "grandson", is Jia's pursuit and expectation. . E" D# c4 n8 e '

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Please go back to the door and "pinch vegetables"1k&; d# A$ l2 d0 v' v- `9 a

After the woman gets married, she will send the bride's brother, nephew and other people to the man's house the next day or the third day to "please call back". At this time, the bride and groom will walk together under the guidance of the younger generation representatives. If the families of the two sides are far apart, they should take a sedan chair, carry a bag, ride a bike or take a boat. The transportation is convenient now, so take the bus. / F# n. N！ D5 K" _ 1 N/ H( V0 p4 x

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Please go back to the door, which was called mothering in ancient times. Those who have only been here for one day and return to their husband's house that night are called "please catch candles" and will return to their husband's house in the middle of the night. If the journey is long, or the scene of the bride's family is lively, you can stay for three to five days, not only to meet relatives and friends of the bride's family, but also to make fun of the groom (commonly known as his uncle and brother-in-law) in the lively scene. As a new son-in-law, you must be polite and civilized, and be tactfully correct, so as not to fall into the "trap" of conspiracy calculation and be punished and teased. If the tea is full, you should drink it smoothly, without dripping or leaking. Another example is eating Taiping, how to use chopsticks to clamp Taiping (duck eggs), and how to pick the thread and noodles. Others use ivory chopsticks or silver chopsticks for their new son-in-law, so we must use our brains and deal with them calmly. Another example is how to drink correctly, how to hold food, how to talk, etc. In the banquet hall. If you make a little mistake, you will be punished (fined). From a single fine, buying a gift cake, etc. to the relatives and friends present, it is called a small "pinch of vegetables"; After collecting a few fines, we held a banquet to invite relatives and friends to be present, which is called "pinch of vegetables". The new son-in-law was "eaten", leaving the laughing stock of the "silly son-in-law" and making a long "stop". Generally, parents-in-law intervene excessively, as long as they don't belong to the new son-in-law with mental retardation or make a fool of themselves.

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) }! @8 O( j2 t" J$ D！ F# K" s) Q Men get married when they are old, and women get married when they are old. How to get married? Except for parents who know each other, are friendly with each other and form in-laws, or men and women who have known each other since childhood and grow up to get married, it is generally through matchmakers. Most of the matchmakers are elderly women, and people call them "matchmakers" to show their respect.

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)D6 M)Q V * w & amp； _ 1 u7 W wedding events, see the matchmaker through the ceremony, there is a difference between dual media and single media. The so-called dual media refers to the successful cooperation between the male media trusted by the male family and the female media trusted by the female family. Single media refers to the matchmaking entrusted by the man's family to the woman's family, or the woman's family to the man's family. Matchmaker, also known as "introducer". In the old society, as a social occupation, matchmakers were mostly women with poor knowledge and low education. They make a living through matchmakers and are often irresponsible. They earned a sum of money from the matchmaker (now referring to the introduction fee), so that "out of place" was despised by people. Therefore, the word "matchmaker" also contains some derogatory meanings, which is different from what the folks call "the mouth of matchmaker". Of course, there are still "matchmakers" in some remote areas today, and most relatives and friends in cities and rural areas are entrusted to act as "introducers", playing the role of matchmaking and delivering news. This kind of unprofessional matchmaker is very popular among men and women. Because men and women can fall in love freely, they don't have to rely on "matchmakers" to understand reconciliation. However, many marriage agencies and personal intermediaries are also measures to replace "matchmakers". Many people don't know each other, but in the process of falling in love and getting married, both men and women know and love each other, and finally they have to pass on the news through an intermediary introducer. Maid, commonly known as "maid of honor", means that when a woman gets married, her parents need someone to accompany her. Because the bride has just arrived at her husband's house, it is inconvenient to be alone in a different place, so the woman's house needs someone to accompany her. If the escort chooses more women, it is best to be good-looking, articulate, familiar with etiquette and rules, and humorous. In the past, there were two kinds of chaperones: single chaperones and double chaperones, and there was a difference in time between long chaperones and short chaperones. Short company for a few days, long company for more than a month

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7 r6 k' s, A8 a) "Housewife" is also a social occupation, which was originally undertaken by women in houses and boats. From the day before the woman's wedding, please accompany her, prepare to "go out", teach her manners and regulations, and meet her parents-in-law and relatives. She often pays tribute and greetings on behalf of the bride, and her words and deeds are neat and generous. Especially when the bedroom is noisy, the chaperone should play an impromptu role and use clever words to save the bride from ridicule or ridicule. Whenever the room is full of teasing and booing from relatives and friends, or when some relatives and friends do everything, the escort should be good at resolving and trying to maintain it, that is, encourage the bride to be easy-going and promise some entertaining action performances; It is also necessary to resolve the anger of individual relatives and friends, avoid "practical jokes", and don't let them "pull out their arms" (referring to laughing and teasing when they get married). As the coordinator of this special environment, bridesmaids must be good at answering randomly and correctly, and be ingenious. Because the bridesmaids are older and the relatives and friends who are in trouble with each other are mostly descendants, they are called "accompanying mothers".

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Bridesmaids also have the mission of taking care of the bride's familiar environment and people, and also take care of the bride's life. On the wedding night, we should also guide the bride and groom to drink acacia wine and guide the rules and customs of the newlyweds' life and diet. Usually, after drinking, roommates will ask the groom for a red envelope. After the groom paid a portion, he asked for an extra bag. "Plus" means adding a nail to the hair, and the groom should meet the requirements of this "plus". At this point, the housekeeper's work is over, and Rosty Yi can leave that night.

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If the bride and groom go home together, they should be accompanied by a housekeeper. After the ceremony, the maid's errand was finished and she left. This time is a little more, and rich people can hire for more than a month.

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“N； I don't like you! X, g Z/ d companions often have "output chapters" passed down from generation to generation. After the bride enters the male family, she will sing traditional songs on every occasion. For example, "Bride's Entrance Song": the bride can live a long and happy life as soon as she enters the door. Flowers bloom all year round, and the children sit in the basin ... "The groom uncovers the cover and can afford it, and the young man (family wealth) is baking; Uncover the cover, buy land, and hold the fine brother; Uncover the lid, reveal the center, four generations of two gongsun …… "Clap the door song": Clap the door and ask, the magpie reports good news before the eaves, the geese Qi Fei for a long time, and the Yuanyang will always get married …… "Acacia Wine Song": The bride eats a chicken head and the property goes upstairs; The bride eats chicken [bone], and the more she eats, the more she begins; The bride eats chicken wings and works hard (good omen); The bride eats chicken's ass, and next year it will be her mother's milk ... whenever she sings with the housekeeper, everyone will applaud and say, "Good!" "yes! "In this way, the atmosphere is warm and the ceremony is grand, showing festive, auspicious and joyful.