The Special Expression of the Relationship between Male Leaders and Female Subordinates

The performance of the ambiguous relationship between male superiors and female subordinates can be summarized into the following six characteristics:

The first characteristic: favoring one thing over another.

If it is only the relationship between the superior and the subordinate, then the male boss should maintain the principle of fairness when treating his subordinates. If we pay special attention to the personal relationship or nepotism of a subordinate of the opposite sex, it is basically obvious.

The second feature: role dislocation.

Male superiors and female subordinates are colleagues or superiors and subordinates. From this starting point, the words and deeds of male superiors and female subordinates should conform to this role orientation. After some male bosses and female subordinates have an affair, there will be role orientation deviation subconsciously. For example, inadvertently treating each other as their closest and most trusted opposite sex will show strong dependence. Or think of yourself as the closest person to the other person, and show the role of the other half uncontrollably in words and deeds.

The third feature: harming the public and enriching the private, and overlapping time.

When a male boss has an affair with a female subordinate, it is inevitable that he will spend some time doing some intimate things. But two people need to hide, and if they take up family life time, they will inevitably arouse the suspicion of their respective lovers. Therefore, in this case, the male boss will inevitably use the power in his hand and the resources of the unit to "create" the time alone for himself and his female subordinates. Moreover, jobbery is definitely not a good thing for others, so it will also show "business privacy", that is, two people are nominally doing business, but it is very mysterious, and others don't know or know. Anyway, the man is the leader, and others dare not ask questions. Therefore, even if two people pay great attention to disguise, if they compare their schedules, they will find abnormal time overlap: traveling at the same time, taking time off at the same time, and so on!

The fourth feature: cover up.

What is the so-called secrecy! In the primary stage of ambiguity, the feelings of two people go from colleagues to friends, and then from friends to ambiguity. At this stage, both of them enjoy it. Although they may have shown some words and deeds beyond the red line, they still think that everything is reasonable and normal. So at this stage, the words and deeds of two people will be very high-profile and very obvious. But once two people have a substantive relationship, they will worry about being noticed by the people around them, so they will deliberately hide it.

The fifth feature: benefit transmission.

Male leaders have a special relationship with female subordinates. It is very important for male bosses to use their powers to convey benefits to female subordinates. Because the benefits are limited, it is impossible for everyone to share them (if everyone shares them, there is no need for female subordinates to throw themselves at each other), so the distribution of benefits is bound to be unfair and biased.

The sixth feature: exclusivity

In fact, this should be the characteristic of all ambiguous men and women, not unique to male bosses and female subordinates. However, the exclusiveness caused by the ambiguity between male superiors and female subordinates has a great impact on work! First of all, male bosses want to have intimate space and time with female subordinates, which inevitably excludes other colleagues in space and time. For example, it is better for them to go on a business trip than to want to go in groups. Even if there is a third person or a fourth colleague, they will try their best to get along with men and women alone. Secondly, approaching the opposite sex is very taboo. For example, my immediate superior is having an affair with a female supervisor in the office. I found him, when he saw the opposite sex take the initiative to talk to the female supervisor, his attitude was unnatural. Sometimes, because the female supervisor was too close to the other person's words, he would eat dry vinegar (he was uncomfortable, but he didn't have the right identity and reason to express his dissatisfaction), and he usually left suddenly with an unhappy face. What's more, because at the meeting, the female subordinates sat together with other members of the opposite sex, laughing and laughing, and he was very uncomfortable, so he communicated with his male colleagues on the spot. This male boss is a bit shrewd. Similarly, women have similar performances. Female subordinates are obviously interested in male bosses, and often say something in front of others that only his wife or girlfriend will care about and be considerate. Once I saw a male boss write a note to another female colleague because of his work needs, which was actually a memo. He told me that he had a good chat at work for about ten minutes. As soon as I saw the female colleagues who were interested in him, I kept staring at them from a distance. Until she saw a piece of paper handed by the male boss, she couldn't help it any longer. She found an excuse to come over and spoke to her female colleague in a very unfriendly tone, but her eyes kept staring at the note until she confirmed that the note was just something to pay attention to at work, and her expression relaxed.