After my classmates and I finished eating, someone suggested the AAB system when checking out. What should I do?

Don’t you want to? Why? Or are you saying that people who mention the AA system are annoying?

What to do? I've done this before, more than once.

When we first went out to work, several of our classmates were assigned to the same factory. We were unfamiliar with the place. We all liked to hug together to keep warm, and we always went to eat together.

At the beginning, the male classmates bought the bill in a gentlemanly manner. After doing it twice, I felt that this was not good. Everyone did not have much money and no one could afford it, so before eating, I I said that one person would pay the bill first, and then everyone would give the money to him. Fortunately, I used to be a cadre in the school, so everyone still believed me and had no objections.

Later, we got married and started a family. Three or five of our friends also liked to get together, especially with our children. At the beginning, a classmate who was well married always rushed to pay for it. After doing it twice, I honestly said that everyone should buy their own from now on, it is more convenient. We all have to live together, and there are many opportunities to play together. It would be very troublesome if the time goes on for a long time, so they also followed my advice.

I think there is nothing wrong with the AA system among friends, classmates, and colleagues. If others ask for too much, you will feel like you are taking advantage. If you ask for too much, you may not be able to bear it. The AA system gives us space to choose, which is good for both of us.

An old classmate invited me to dinner. But when I paid, I had to ask for AA, which cost me 800 yuan out of pocket! After knowing that I was being tricked, I couldn't bear it! With the last little operation, not only did I not spend a penny, I also made a profit of 1,600 yuan!

I am Xiao Zhou. After graduating from college, I found a sales position in a smart home company in my hometown of Ningbo and have been working there for several years. Life is basically two points and one line, and I live a dull life, but I am also relatively content.

Around 8 o'clock last night, after dinner, I happened to be staying in the study room with the air conditioner blowing on and watching a movie, when suddenly my cell phone rang. I picked up my phone and saw that it was a call from my classmate Xiao Zhang.

Xiao Zhang is my college classmate. Because his hometown is in Jiangxi, he returned to his hometown to develop after graduation, so we haven’t contacted him again. We just keep each other’s numbers and occasionally send messages.

He called me suddenly. I was also very curious and didn't know if he wanted to see me. So I picked up the phone, and a voice came from the other end of the phone: "Hey, is this Xiao Zhou? I'm Xiao Zhang! Haha, long time no see!"

I replied politely, and then he Then he said: "I am on a business trip in Ningbo these two days, and I happen to be eating in the square near your home. Are you free? Come over and have something to eat together. It's been a long time since I last saw you!"

Me After hesitating for a moment, Xiao Zhang, whom I haven’t contacted for so many years, is on a business trip to Ningbo without notifying me in advance. He suddenly wanted to invite me to dinner again late at night. What was he doing? I murmured in my heart, feeling that he was really acting out of common sense!

I didn’t want to go at first, it was so hot. So I said to him: "Xiao Zhang, I just finished dinner, less than an hour ago, and now I have no appetite for another big meal. Besides, I've already taken a shower and plan to go to bed, so I won't come over tonight." Well, why don’t we make an appointment another day?”

“Xiao Zhou, why are you so young and going to bed so early? Come here, please? Have a few drinks! This is my first time in Ningbo. I don’t know if I’ll have time to see you again.”

No way, he said so, after all, it’s his first time. I came to Ningbo on a business trip and took the initiative to call me and invite me to dinner. After all, it was unjustifiable to refuse to give him face. It spread to the ears of other students that I was unreasonable and would not be able to hold my head high in the future, so I had no choice but to agree to him.

Xiao Zhang sent me the location of the hotel, and then I simply dressed myself, washed my face, turned off the air conditioner and computer, and went out.

I took a taxi, followed the location, and soon arrived at the restaurant Xiao Zhang mentioned. Pushing open the box door, besides Xiao Zhang, I saw three other people: two boys and one girl. Looking at the dishes on the table, it was obvious that they were almost finished.

Xiao Zhang saw me coming in and stood up to greet me very enthusiastically.

I asked the waiter to add a pair of bowls and chopsticks to me, then brought me a few bottles of beer and asked me what I wanted to eat. I only ordered a spicy crayfish dish.

After sitting down, Xiao Zhang introduced the friends and I to each other, saying that these three were his colleagues who had come to Ningbo on a business trip together. They had just finished working overtime, so they came over to the square here to eat together.

I chatted with Xiao Zhang and asked him how long he planned to stay in Ningbo. Most of the rest of the time, Xiao Zhang was chatting about work with his colleagues, laughing and bragging. Anyway, I couldn't get a word in, so I picked up my glass and drank.

Gradually, I felt something was wrong: I was exhausted from wine and food, and there was no food on the table. I had already drank three bottles of beer, and I couldn’t drink it anymore, so I sat quietly aside. It's been about an hour, and they've been talking about it for a long time, but no one has checked out!

Later, the hotel waiters came over to urge us, saying that they were about to close and hoped that we would finish quickly. But no one expressed any intention of paying for the treat! Only then did I understand: What a guy! They didn't decide in advance who would treat this emotional meal!

Later, I probably felt that it took too long and the atmosphere was very awkward. I couldn't bear it anymore, so I spoke first: "Friends, it's getting late. We're almost done eating and drinking, so let's break up. The restaurant is about to close, and it's not polite to keep the waiter waiting."

Those people lowered their heads and said nothing, but Xiao Zhang continued: "It's almost the same, so be it. I suggest that everyone have AA for this meal tonight. Between friends, everyone Don't be a freeloader, no one should suffer! "

"Okay, then listen to Brother Zhang. Brother Zhang will pay the bill for everyone. We will form a group later and transfer the money to you. What do you think?" one of the male colleagues responded.

Another male colleague said: "I agree! But forget it about Xiao Su, the girl didn't eat much. We feel bad about asking her to pay!"

" Ouch. Why are you so embarrassed? I have eaten and drank after all." The girl pretended to be very polite, but before anyone could reply, she immediately added: "Thank you all!"

I thought to myself: Good guy, let’s get away from it now. This woman is not a fuel-efficient lamp at first glance! So thick-skinned! AA turns into AAB in no time!

Then several of them looked at me at the same time. The meaning was very clear, and they also asked me to express my position! I could only nod reluctantly!

After everyone reached a consensus, Xiao Zhang got up and went to the front desk to check out. After a few minutes, he ran back, took a small ticket and told us the total amount of tonight's consumption: 3200 yuan! After this calculation, each of the four boys has to share 800 yuan equally!

Let me go! 800 yuan! I thought to myself: I just finished dinner, I didn’t want to come over, but you called me over and said you were treating me! In the end, I was asked to take out 800 and give you AAB! I just drank three bottles of beer and a few spicy crayfish, and they asked me to pay 800! You are too cruel!

Damn it! Only then did I realize: Xiao Zhang must have called me here to pay the bill on purpose! It's also possible that they teamed up to trick me! Emotionally, they see me as an honest person, and they play tricks on me because I don't follow martial ethics!

When I think of this level, it’s so fast! I immediately came up with a plan: "Xiao Zhang, I have something to do at home, so I have to take a step forward. You can just pull me into the group later, and I will transfer the money!" After saying that, without waiting for their response, I stood up and Go out the door.

As soon as I walked out of the hotel, I took a taxi. Not long after I got in the car, I received a system notification on my phone that I had been added to the group. The group name is quite humorous: One-night trip to Ningbo for business trip!

I quietly watched them bragging in the group, waiting quietly, waiting for the rabbit. Sure enough, within a few minutes, two red envelopes worth 200 yuan came out as the red envelope issuing system sounded "ding dong" and "ding dong". Six more beeps followed, and six more 200-yuan red envelopes came out!

It was too late, but it was so fast. In an instant, I was like a tiger coming out of the mountain or a cheetah attacking. With my nimble little fingers, I gently clicked on the screen of my beloved mobile phone a few times, and eight red envelopes came out. Everything dropped into my account.

Soon, a message came from the group: Why did you take the red envelope? This is for Xiao Zhang. Did you order it wrong? Spit it out quickly!

Another message: Spit it out quickly! Forward to Xiao Zhang!

Ha! Do I care about you?

Immediately afterwards, Xiao Zhang sent a separate voice message asking: "Xiao Zhou, you didn't transfer the money to me, why did you take away all the money they gave me equally? Didn't we agree that the boys would share the meal tonight? Isn't that too kind?"

After hearing this, I chuckled, cleared my throat, and tapped the voice reply button: "Xiao Zhang , who is being unkind? Are you still shameless? When you just graduated, you said you couldn’t find a job. At that time, you borrowed 1,000 yuan from me for living expenses. It’s been two years and I haven’t paid back a penny! You kept silent, and I didn’t intend to argue with you!”

“Now that you are on a business trip to Ningbo, you think of me, and you still play tricks on me, bullying me for being honest, and trying to take advantage of me! Take advantage of me? Tell you, if you are still young, this money will be treated as my interest!"

I hung up the phone directly and added him to the blacklist, then Exited the group chat.

Shut down directly! Go home and sleep!

Through this experience, I have understood the following truths, which I would like to share with you:

First, true friends respect each other, and friendship is never one-sided. pay.

In the process of making friends, we must clearly understand the character of the other person. Make friends with like-minded people who help each other and make progress together!

Second, you must not have the intention to harm others, and you must have the intention to guard against others.

There is truth to this old saying. Even if you are a former classmate or friend, your relationship will change after you have not contacted them for a long time. You need to get to know each other again. The relationship between each other needs to be readjusted to take a step forward or take a step back.

Third, stay away from fair-weather friends and friends with evil intentions as soon as possible.

As the old saying goes: Those who are close to vermilion are red, and those who are close to ink are black. Environmental factors have a great impact on a person's growth. Choose those mentors and friends to learn from and help each other. Isn’t it better than those fair-weather friends who are deliberately trying to trick you and harm you?

So, how should you deal with a sudden request for AAB after having dinner with your classmates? I think there are the following methods:

In short, after being tricked by an old classmate this time, although I did not cause any losses through some means in the end, I also got back the money I was owed for two years. But I understand that I will not contact this old classmate again in the future.

I hope everyone can learn from this: Be careful when making friends. Let me encourage you all!

I received a message from the class group last Saturday morning. Some students suggested that we should celebrate Children's Day in advance, and that older children should also celebrate Children's Day! As soon as this statement came out, many people expressed support, and everyone had a young mentality.

Everyone agreed on the location and time in the group, agreed on the AA system, and went to the party that night. Before going, the classmate who proposed as the organizer said it would be 12 people per group. But in the end, 17 people arrived.

Two of the classmates did not inform them in advance, and then they went with their families, 14 adults and 3 children. A good party was ruined! And the two of them seemed to have agreed upon it, and they even said boldly,

"It's Children's Day! The children are clamoring to follow, and they can't live without their mothers, so they are brought together." Here you go! We are all on our own, don’t you mind?”

Having said that, and you have already brought people here, can you still force them to leave? We didn't say anything, but the classmate who organized the party finally spoke,

"It's okay, let's sit down together! Just add a few more sets of bowls and chopsticks. The table is not big, so everyone can squeeze in!"

After everyone was seated, we called the waiter to take our orders, but there was some unpleasantness on the way! The 14 adults each ordered a dish, and then thinking that there were men and women, and women couldn't drink foreign wine or beer, they decided to open three bottles of red wine.

But at this time, the wife of one of the classmates who brought his family was particularly disappointed, insisting that she could not drink and the children wanted to drink. Later, I had no choice but to order 5 cans of apple cider vinegar for them individually.

The party was quite happy. Old classmates gathered together and chatted while eating, talking about the "June 1st" celebrations in childhood. Many things left a very deep impression on me, but in a blink of an eye, everyone had their own children, and I had to lament that time flies by so quickly.

After having a full meal, the organizer called the waiter to pay the bill, which was 3,200 yuan a day. He said that as agreed before, he would pay first, and then everyone would pay. But at this moment, the wife of a classmate said,

"Do we all need AA? We women don’t eat much, and we don’t even drink wine. We also have children playing around. Now, I’m eating less. Isn’t it unreasonable to share the meal expenses equally?”

The others were stunned when they heard this, and turned to look at the classmate. In the end, he also helped his wife and said, "I don't think it is appropriate, so we should pay according to the AAB system. We are 12 I share the expenses equally with my old classmates, so my family members don’t have to pay for it!”

I am an impatient person, and I get angry as soon as I hear something. It was originally agreed that he would bring his family to the class reunion without everyone's consent. They also break the rules of the dinner party. The AA they agreed on will now become "AAB", and the family members will be asked to eat and drink in vain here.

I directly stepped forward and stopped the organizer from paying, and then notified several other students and said, "Are you full? Let's move on. Those two students are treating us to this meal!"

The two classmates asked in unison, "What do you mean? Why are we just treating each other?"

I didn’t want to waste so much talking with them, so I pushed the other students out and walked out. Then I turned to the waiter and said, "They are paying for this table. Ask them and see who pays. Or maybe they both want AA."

As I walked out of the restaurant, I estimated that the two classmates were "choking each other" and pushing each other to pay the bill. Finally I heard that it was AA, and each of them paid 1,600 yuan, and that was the end of it!

Afterwards, some classmates asked me if this was going too far, but I felt that this was how we should treat such a shameless person. From now on, we are no longer friends, and we will never call them again at class reunions. At the class reunion, when checking out, the monitor proposed the AAB system, where men pay and women go free! I used a trick, and the monitor obediently paid for the meal, which cost more than 2,000 yuan!

Class reunion is originally a very happy thing, but I was very angry because of the last class reunion.

At the beginning, we wanted to hold a high school reunion for everyone to catch up on old times and connect with each other.

After a lot of trouble, we contacted the classmates we had not heard from for many years and invited them one by one to come over and get together.

High school classmates, since they haven’t seen each other for more than ten years, miss each other very much and want to get together.

For this reason, I specially chose a five-star hotel as the location for our class reunion.

Everyone had agreed in advance that they were all AA-made and they would pay for themselves to avoid any further disputes.

But what I never expected was that everyone would have a big dispute just because of the meal money.

When everyone first met, they were all very happy and excited.

Because we have not seen each other for more than ten years and are already married and have children, it is very emotional.

Some students burst into tears at the gathering and talked about their experiences in the past few years, which made everyone burst into tears.

Many people feel that we are still the same group of high school students as before, with no changes at all and no barriers between us.

Unexpectedly, when checking out, the monitor suggested that men pay the bill and women go free!

This news shocked the men present, because they originally thought they were here for the AA system, but now they have to pay hundreds of dollars more.

The men were reluctant, but the women were particularly happy and praised the monitor for his responsibility and sense of responsibility.

Good guy, all the good guys are made by the squad leader. The meal money is shared equally by us men. Why?

So, I made a bold decision, that is, let the monitor pay all the bills this time!

I encouraged the students to toast to the monitor one by one, saying that I wanted to thank the monitor for his contribution to our class over the years.

The squad leader felt even more pleased after hearing this, thinking that I was complimenting him, and he felt particularly benefited.

Who knew that when all the students finished toasting to the monitor, I said something that scared the monitor out of his wits!

I said, monitor, your classmates have toasted to you, should you say something to express your gratitude to your classmates?

Before the monitor could react, I called the waiter and said to the monitor, we are not compromising, everyone is happy today, just buy the order!

At this time, the squad leader seemed particularly embarrassed. If he didn't pay the bill, it would appear to be insincere. If he bought it, more than 2,000 would be spent and he would feel bad.

I saw that the monitor was hesitant and didn’t want to pay the bill, so I quickly said, couldn’t it be that the monitor’s wife was too strict and the monitor didn’t have the money to pay for it?

The classmates were all laughing, saying that the class monitor was a strict wife and couldn't even pay for meals.

The squad leader was blushing at this time. He is a person who loves face very much. How can he bear such ridicule?

He dropped more than 2,000 and told the waiter that there was no need to look for it!

The squad leader shot himself in the foot. He originally wanted to show that he was elegant, but in the end he ended up paying the price!

I don’t know what happened to the squad leader. If we hold another class reunion, we won’t be able to contact the squad leader! Epilogue

I felt that the monitor’s approach was very unkind. Although the AA system was agreed upon at the beginning, the final bill was divided equally between the men. No one was convinced.

It was obviously a very happy class reunion, but the checkout issue made everyone unhappy.

Everyone is not short of these few hundred, but men always pay and women pay for free. Men always feel uncomfortable and unfair.

That’s why I tried to force the squad leader to pay. If you want to be a good person and show your grace, I will make it happen for you, let you be a good person and show your grace!

Do you think my approach is appropriate? Is the monitor's proposal reasonable? Should men buy this?

This question is very interesting. Everyone knows about the AA system, but some people may still feel confused about the AAB system.

In fact, the AA system is an imported product, which means the cost of meals is shared equally. It was not adaptable to our country before, but with the development of social life and other aspects, the AA system has gradually been accepted by many people.

The AAB system is completely based on the AA system and combined with some of our actual conditions. It is born and raised. In fact, you share the cost equally, and someone does not pay for it shamelessly. .

The only basis for the existence of the AAB system is thick skin.

Several good colleagues in the company like to have a drink together when they have nothing to do. At first, the person who suggested it was a treat, but over time it became clear that the person who always paid for it was not willing, so the AA system was proposed. Yu, let’s go out and relax, and the expenses will be shared equally, which is great.

Later, there was an old fritter who loved to take advantage. He was very active during the party and also very active during the meal. Then when the dinner was about to end, he left with an excuse and asked him for the meal fee. He was shy. They say shamelessly or shamelessly that they are here to eat and drink.

Of course, this kind of thing would only happen once, because no one would ask him to eat again.

But sometimes, the issue of face is a big issue, and the issue of interests is a big issue. For example, it is most common in the workplace for subordinates to go to dinner parties under the AA system, and the leader shamelessly participates. This will make everyone feel uncomfortable when checking out. Excluding the leader, everyone can be A, and let the leader have a free meal and be the B among AAB.

Sometimes there is nothing we can do about it. Who makes him the leader?

Of course, let’s put aside the leadership or interest relationships mentioned above. If everyone is the same, and someone proposes the AAB system at checkout, everyone is A and he is B. Excluding him is a joke. If it is true, then Don't be close to this person, stay away as soon as possible, because you are not afraid of taking advantage, but you are afraid of his thick skin.

Finally, we return to the original question:

After you and your classmates have finished eating, someone proposes the AAB system. What should you do?

You can ask directly, who is the B in the AAB system.

If this person has a good relationship with you, you might as well ask him to forget it. If the relationship is not good, you can stick to the settlement method agreed upon at the dinner party.

This person is really thick-skinned and can propose the AAB system. The AAB system means that you all pay equally and I eat for free! Such people are really rare. Anyone with a bit of shame would not open his mouth. Don't be polite to such people, just push them back! Since he is shameless, then don't save him any face and ask him directly who he is. If he is the emperor's second uncle, he can eat for free. If he doesn't follow the rules and let him pay his share, then let him go! I don’t want to see you next time. For, I have never met such a person. However, although the people I associate with don’t dare to mention the AAB system, they don’t even dare to mention the AA system. They are afraid of paying for it. As long as you bring it up, we can discuss the AA system later. From then on, I stopped coming to organized gatherings! Eat for free, and use various excuses not to attend gatherings among friends as long as you pay.

Generally speaking, for such people, you must not save any face for them. If you save face for them, they will be in trouble, so if you don't coddle them, you should fight back directly. The AA checkout system is now more common, but the AAB system is less heard of. Is such a dinner party still meaningful and significant? This needs to be considered.

Since I am having dinner with my classmates, what should I do if I ask for the AAB system when I pay the bill? First, find out who B is (no one will pay for their share.) Then, since it was not what was agreed upon at the beginning, it would be unreasonable to suddenly and ruthlessly disagree. Forget it, just accept it this time. I acted like a good girl last time, but next time I meet you, I will think carefully about whether it is necessary to attend such a party or dinner.

What is meaningless social interaction? It’s roughly like this. Some social interactions without any friendship, just eating, drinking, and just having fun are a waste of time and emotion for people. Rather than participating in these social interactions that waste time and energy, it is much more meaningful to spend quality time alone, constantly enriching and improving yourself.

Conclusion: When classmates and friends get together for a dinner party, the rich take the initiative to treat them, and everyone with average conditions has an AA system. It is normal and more atmospheric. The occasional AAB system doesn't matter, but the occasional AAB system is not so good.

After all the food has been eaten, others can confidently pay for themselves when asking for AA.

But, I mean, although I can pay for myself, it does not mean that I endorse this approach. What disgusts me is not the AA system or the AAB system. It is natural, reasonable and legal to eat and pay by yourself. But it’s a bit unethical and boring for my classmate to say it after dinner.

The questioner did not say what kind of situation it is when classmates eat together. It is just a party, or it is a special situation where someone needs help from a certain classmate because of something, or it may be a chance meeting with some people, or someone coming from afar to meet them. Someone takes care of classmates in the same city and nearby, and various situations are different.

For example, a pure class reunion, no matter how big or small it is, whether there are many people or a small number of people, and the purpose is simple, must be AA. And it’s best to have someone organize it, arrange it, and have someone specifically responsible for collection and expenditure. It’s best to arrange and explain things in advance, such as the cost, location, and process.

If someone is involved in a personal matter, and most of the classmates are there to keep him company, such a gathering would be a bad idea, right? The important thing is to say it after eating! Maybe things didn't get done, but no matter what, you can't let your classmates share the burden for you!

Besides, when it comes to chance encounters or special visits, you can’t just take it out of favor and face, and everyone has to pay for it. To put it bluntly, someone else entertains your friends for you!

In any case, it is best to explain the AA system or AAB system before the meal, and it is best to make it clear when setting up the game.

Money is a trivial matter, rules are important!

In fact, the class reunion is meaningless. To put it bluntly, it is just a bragging party. All things like feelings and reminiscing about old times are just to show off their own abilities. Those who are good at it are awesome and coaxed, and those who are not good at it can only hide in the room. In the corner, no one paid attention. Everyone said what was the point of this kind of gathering? There were only a few people who could really help their classmates, but not one of them. Everyone gathered together just to brag and show off, so a few of them played well. You can get together from time to time, but most people would rather not get together to avoid hurting everyone's feelings.

We are classmates who have not seen each other for 26 years. We all go our separate ways and have little contact with each other. Only a few people who have a particularly good relationship have kept in contact. Some of us feel like brothers. We all celebrate the holidays. They all move around each other, get together once a year, and interact with each other when things happen at home. This is the real relationship between classmates. The others are strangers and have no interactions with each other. They don't even know each other when they meet on the road.

We agreed at the beginning that the AA system, regardless of men and women, everyone kept their promises and attended on time, and specially invited two teachers to participate. It was indeed a fun time, everyone gathered together, talked and laughed, and communicated It is not easy for everyone to understand. Some are doing very well, becoming successful, and donating basketball hoops to schools. Some are poor, with their wives and children separated. There is a great disparity among us. Some are silent all the time, while others are chatting and laughing, deeply. It touched everyone's heart. Life is not easy!

No one wanted to attend the party the next year. Many people said it was meaningless and everyone should be well on their own. In fact, it was meaningless. No one would help you if you were poor, and neither would you if you were rich. It's okay to take the initiative to help others and brag when everyone gets together, but it's really difficult to actually take action. This is what classmates are.

I am the host of the class reunion, and I am responsible for the coordination. I have always been very low-key, and I am very good at dealing with people. I like to be with depressed classmates, but I don’t like rich classmates. First of all I won’t fawn over them. Everyone respects me very much. After all, I have a serious job and earn more than 100,000 yuan a year. I am considered a figure after all. Besides, I also like to show off and have a bit of a flamboyant personality, so everyone is special. Respect me. The most important thing is that I dare to speak without fear of offending others.

The class reunion ended at 9 o'clock. A female classmate proposed to go to KTV. I refused directly. I couldn't say anything and went home to sleep. Remember, how many people get divorced at class reunions. This is a hotbed for divorce. No one said anything. They all said they would listen to their brother and go home to sleep. I was the youngest among my classmates. My words were very important and most people liked to listen. After all, we are righteous.

What’s the point of class reunions? Most of them end on bad terms. It’s all about money. Many people talk about being rich and powerful, and pretend to be dead when they actually get money. When they talk about business, It’s millions, tens of millions, even thousands of dollars for a party is a problem, so the classmates are not sincere at all, there are too many people who are hypocritical, and many of them are looking for one-night stands. I once said that none of the female classmates will participate. , I looked to see how many more people could come. The whole group was silent. A few classmates who were close to each other said, "Brother, please stop talking nonsense. It's okay. This is reality."

We don’t have any system. You have to get money when you come. No matter who you are, you have to get it when you come in the end. Even if you don’t eat, you have to get money. As long as you participate, you have to get money. Of course, except for teachers, everyone else No one should be missing, this is the fairest, what do you think?