Why did the girl who was a mistress forgive love rat for being with him?

After reading the story of the subject, I thought of a joke I saw on the Internet:

Boyfriend broke up for no reason, is it because there is a mistress outside? How come there are so many mistresses these days!

No, maybe you are a mistress.

How much does it hurt to be a mistress?

Many girls may not know that they are shady mistresses until they break up.

Jiang Shuying said in a program that she had a boyfriend who was going to get married in this relationship, and they really got to the point of talking about marriage.

During the period, because both of them were busy with work, they didn't have time to meet.

Later, Jiang Shuying specially chose a time to have a good meal with each other.

I didn't expect her to wait for more than 6 o'clock in the restaurant alone, but her boyfriend stood me up for no reason.

What she didn't expect was that after just over an hour, she received a unilateral breakup message from her boyfriend.

The news was a blow, and Jiang Shuying was caught off guard.

After the reaction, Jiang Shuying began to frantically send messages and call her boyfriend, but they didn't get any response.

"What message I send him and what phone call I make, this person is like missing."

No one will be willing to change this situation.

So, Jiang Shuying found a friend, but what she got was the one who agreed to spend her life with her. Originally, he had a family and even children.

Jiang Shuying unconsciously became a mistress.

In fact, I have met many girls who have been "being a mistress".

Obviously, I am also a victim in this relationship, but I became a third party unconsciously.

There is a question on Zhihu: What is the experience of being a mistress?

An anonymous user replied: It's painful, but it's hard to stop.

It's really painful to know the truth: on the one hand, I have to bear the inner moral suffering and worry that if it gets out, others will look at it with colored glasses.

On the one hand, it hurts to think of someone you like. After all, liking doesn't mean you can't have it without it.

There is neither free and easy "love rat is sand, which was blown up by the wind" nor the obsession of "regardless of the consequences, but seeking to have it".

Love and hate are intertwined, that's all.

Yes, the most terrible thing in a relationship is cheating.

What you think will last forever is just someone else's caprice.

But some girls, still silly, don't want to believe it, and let themselves get stuck in the mud, from junior three to real junior three.

Once there was a girl in my consulting room.

She cried and told me her experience as a mistress.

"I have been dating him for half a year, and he has been very considerate. I felt lucky, but I accidentally found that he had a condom in his pocket. He grew up.

I installed a positioning software in his mobile phone and found that he didn't go to a hotel, but to a community only 5 minutes' drive from where I live.

When I knocked at the door after him, I found that he was married.

And a 5-year-old child. At that moment, I really felt dark, and I didn't know how I drove back that day.

Friends who are familiar with this matter have advised me to break up quickly, telling me that it is still a good girl to break up decisively, and it is really rubbish to continue to entangle.

But I really still have the illusion that he is in trouble.

Sure enough, he told me that he loved me, and he had decided to divorce, but he was still going through the procedure.

I believed it, but after I found out I was pregnant, he disappeared.

Until now, I didn't know how wrong I was. "

Yes, a man who really loves you will never have the heart to let you be a mistress.

Love yourself before you love others. In any case, women should always stick to the bottom line of love: never go beyond morality, never give up on themselves, and never trample on dignity.

People and themselves are spiritual practices.

Read a sentence:

Love is not just two people face to face, but two people face the world hand in hand.

Everyone wants to meet someone who can hold hands in love, but most of the time, we just look at each other's face and ignore that his hand may be holding someone else.

So, what should be done to avoid falling into the situation of "being a third party"?

1. Block the social circle

Some people say that only poverty, cough and love in this world can't be concealed.

When you really love someone, you can't help but want to "tell the world" about your relationship.

If you meet a man, he will only refuse to show you his circle on the pretext that "feelings are only two people's business".

Be careful not to take you to meet your friends at first and your parents later.

2. Periodic disappearance

A person's daily life is almost fixed, especially when he has a proper job.

If it is not a job that requires frequent business trips, when you find that your partner will disappear periodically, especially on holidays.

You know, holidays are the best touchstone of feelings. You don't need to give him a good reason. He doesn't have time for you, but he won't go home empty-handed.

3. Lack of persistence

What is the greatest sincerity in loving someone? Some people say it is marriage.

There is a saying on the Internet that I love you no matter how much, it is better to spell a marriage certificate.

When you find out, he always cares only about the present with you, regardless of the future. Even when you mention marriage, his language is avoided. Even if he is not Neptune, he is not a lover after all.

In addition, what if it is really "being a mistress"?

In the movie "Almost Comedy", Ren Suxi plays Momo, an older devil who is deceived by playboy Zheng Duoduo.

Even if he witnessed another woman in his family, he was fooled.

But after all, paper can't hold fire, and the fact that Zheng Duoduo cheated and had a fiancee was still known by Mo Mo.

Instead of feeling sorry for herself, she made a clean break with love rat and wanted to tell his fiancee about love rat's misdeeds, because she felt that more girls could not be deceived by this man.

Yes, when you find yourself cheated, there is only one correct way, and that is to cut the gordian knot.

Don't give yourself and the other party any hope, don't have too much entanglement, delete all contact information and learn to stop loss in time.

Otherwise, once you forgive him, you will not only be inarticulate, but also be more passive in the future.

You don't have to feel indebted or guilty, because it's really not your fault.

If you are interested, you can selectively tell the original match the truth, but you can use anonymous methods. This is a good way of self-salvation, and no matter what the result is, it will make you feel better.

Everyone who has been hurt thinks about himself and others, reminding others to bypass or skip. This is gentleness and goodwill to the world.

There is still a long way to go, everything will pass, turn over and start over.

In an unrepeatable life, I hope every girl can meet someone worthy, without self-reproach, self-deception and always believe in her own value.