Girl, you are already over 20 years old, no longer seventeen or eighteen.

Summary: No one blocks anyone’s way, no one owes anyone! Girl, you can be poor, but you have to work hard! Don't blame others for your failure

After the last exam, I checked the results and found that I have passed [smile] I just got the certificate today. Of course, the certificate doesn't mean anything! Now I continue to study several subjects, working at 3 o'clock and 1 line every day, and I don't even have time to go to the toilet! It's hard and tiring, but it still feels worth it.

Some people say to me, you are already married and have children, and you are over 20 years old. Is it still interesting to study? Haha, I don’t even know what the mentality of the person who said this is! Don't look down on others for things you can't do, and don't blame others for your failure. Why not see if you have tried hard? People who make excuses like this are even more disgusting. No one blocks anyone's way! No one owes anyone!

If you can’t even control your own life, what else can you accomplish? You don’t work hard, you are self-destructive, and you are shameless. Why do you expect others to be the same as you, who are not working hard, degenerate, and shameless!

Girl, listen to me, if you are over 20 years old, So don't spend your time on those Korean dramas with Obama, these are just bubbles. Read more and travel more, improve yourself more, don't be like a little girl, smoke and drink, don't hang out with men all day long, say outrageous words, use your hands and feet, don't think that such behavior means you feel great and you know how to be a good person. Do things! In fact, in the eyes of men, they are enjoying themselves while looking down on you!

Girl, you must love yourself! Don't try to be in two different places, being with this man and that man at the same time, let alone getting pregnant and having a miscarriage, being with a man and getting pregnant and miscarrying again! Girl, you are doing this to yourself! No serious man would really treat you like this!

Girl, if you are out of society, don’t disappear, don’t let your parents not be able to contact you for months, you are not a child, do what an adult should do!

Girl, if you have already left society, don’t ask your parents for money. You should know that as long as you are over 18, it is very embarrassing to ask your parents for money!

Girl, if you are out of society and have a job, go home often and give your parents as much money as you can. Parents are getting older day by day. Don't ". The tree wants to be quiet but the wind doesn't stop; the child wants to be nourished but cannot be kissed".

Girl, you must work hard, work hard, and save money! Learn to manage money. Even if your monthly salary is only two or three thousand, and you spend money lavishly, you must force yourself to spend 200 to 300 every month to learn to manage money.

Girl, you must have your own job and a struggle experience. Then buy your own car, buy your own house, have your own home, own your own car, and go wherever you want! I have now bought my own car and house, which I earned through my own hard work]

(Thank you to my sister and brother-in-law for teaching me a lot of things! Some may say: Don’t you just have someone to teach you? So I said this. But I want to say, if it was just my brother-in-law and sister who taught me, but I didn’t learn and didn’t want to do anything, and I spent three days fishing and two days working on the Internet, I could go to work if I wanted to, and I couldn’t go if I didn’t want to. It’s all in vain. I work hard towards my goals and slowly achieve them!

Just like my brother-in-law said: Don’t compare yourself with those who are inferior to you. Maybe among many peers, you are great! , there are more people born in the 1990s than you! Only if you don’t forget your original intention, you can always do it!

I told my sister that I want to study and pass English, and even my sister is very supportive! She also tells me what I want to learn! My sister always says, don’t think that your career is worry-free now and give up on learning other things. It’s always good to broaden your horizons and learn more! I contacted my tutor and helped me get some things!

Sorry guys, the topic is a bit off topic, I am getting a little excited as I write this!

My current efforts, The purpose is to provide a better life for the children and a better sense of filial piety for the father. I also hope that when Mr. Yang is rich, I won’t have to feel that I am high up, and when Mr. Yang is poor, we will not be destitute.

My current efforts are so that if my family gets sick in the future, I will not be unable to get money, let alone borrow money from other people everywhere!

My current efforts are to make my father look good in the village. There is a saying: 10 years ago, others treated you as your parents; 10 years later, others will treat your parents as you! Therefore, I have achieved the standards of others 10 years later!

Girl, do you know that I once suffered from depression for a period of time, but I didn’t tell anyone! When I was in the fifth grade, a female classmate said she would come to my house on weekends. You know, the countryside was really poor at that time. My family was a very poor household in the village. We didn’t have a decent house and our family was bare. Later, when I went back to school on Sunday, the girl My classmates went around telling their classmates how my family was doing. He also said that my father was ugly. Anyway, he said all the bad things. Poor me, I never knew and I kept talking to her! It was the people in the same village who couldn't bear it anymore, so they told me this!

You know, when I went to school on Sunday, my dad gave her all the money he had, 2 yuan, and I didn’t get any. Instead, they slandered me everywhere. Haha, now that I think about it, I wonder how some people can be so vicious! I'm only in fifth grade. How could I have such vicious thoughts and let the whole grade laugh at me?

Speaking of this, you may think that 2 yuan is how poor you are? Yes, my family is very poor! Basically I go to school every week without any money. When I go to school, I have to carry rice and vegetables by myself, and then walk to school for almost two hours. A bottle of sauerkraut will last a week and you can go home on Friday. My family was so poor that I couldn't bear to put in oil, so the only seasoning was salt. The vegetable oil must be sold for money! And in school, others at least eat half a catty of rice for each meal, but I eat half a catty of rice in the morning and at night. The school’s half-pound meal is just a small bowl! As I grow older, I am often hungry during classes in the afternoon!

Later, in the first semester of the second grade of junior high school, I returned to the dormitory after evening self-study. I was the last one to arrive, because every time I would stay in the classroom longer to read and review my homework before ringing the bedtime bell. Go back to the dormitory! Before I entered the dormitory, there was a crowd of people around the door. As I approached, I saw a female classmate in the class, the fifth-grade classmate I mentioned above. I’ll call her B here. B yelled in a strange way: "Yo, extra big." News, I didn’t expect you to be such a xxxx. I felt baffled. It turned out that a female classmate’s soap in the dormitory was missing. It was the kind of Safeguard soap that cost three yuan a piece. That person B found out from my schoolbag, so everyone said that I was a thief, so poor that I even stole a piece of soap.

Haha! It's funny, isn't it? If I stole the soap, I would be stupid enough not to hide it. I would be stupid enough to put it in my bag and hang it there. I would be stupid enough to leave the zipper of the bag unzipped completely and leak out. Cut out the soap! Haha, I feel ridiculous even writing this! I can't argue, what can I say? It’s just that my character is becoming more and more silent!

I survived like this, I thought, I am already in the second grade of junior high school, and I will be relieved in the third grade of junior high school! But I didn't expect that something like this would happen again in the second semester of the second grade of junior high school! The newly bought pants of another classmate C were stolen, so they didn’t even check, so they just spread the word everywhere that it was me who stole it again! When I went to the classroom for self-study class in the morning, everyone was talking about me, and I didn’t even dare to look up! As it happened to be Friday, the head teacher called the female students in the class to the office in turn and asked them to open the bag and show it to him! I don’t even know how I got here, I just hope to get home from get out of class soon!

I stayed up until school was over, and when I was walking halfway, classmate C, whose pants were stolen, stopped me and told me to check my bag. He felt that the class teacher at school did not check carefully enough, or that I had stolen it. I hid it somewhere else and took it home after school. I was really shattered at that time. Why did they frame me like this? I couldn't help crying anymore, threw my schoolbag directly to the classmate and left! I've finally had enough!

I didn’t tell my family about this when I got home, for fear that they would worry. On Thursday afternoon, when my father came back from chopping firewood and saw that I didn’t go to school, he asked me, and I said I didn’t want to study anymore. .

After being pressed by my father, I told the truth! My father was furious because although he was poor, his tutoring was extremely strict! My father always said that even if you are poor, you must not lose your backbone!

My father took me to school and found the head teacher. The head teacher said that he also believed me, but I didn’t want to stay in school anymore. But the head teacher said that since I had never done anything, I shouldn’t transfer to another school. This further confirms what everyone said, that if you are upright, you will not be afraid of your shadow being crooked. It didn’t work out after all!

I thought that the head teacher advised me not to transfer to another school and would help me prove it in class, haha, but no! After all, I was overthinking it!

From the second half of the second grade of junior high school to the third grade of junior high school, I spent every day in torment! I started to suffer from depression at that time. As long as I buy a new pen, they will say, "Hey, where did you get the money to buy an eraser?" They will also say, "Hey, I am really rich. My money just happened to disappear. Did you steal it?" Shopping? Anyway, no matter who can’t find their things, they will always come to me to ask for them, haha! Even many lower grade students know it. Whenever I walk on the school road and meet junior students, they will talk behind their backs: Look, it’s that xxx, oh, that one, the one with the best grades in the school. I didn’t expect someone with such good grades to look so honest. , can do such a thing! ?: That’s right, a child without a mother will have cheap hands, three hands!

Those days were really difficult. I had insomnia every day and had nightmares when I fell asleep. In my dreams, everyone scolded me, which was as unpleasant as it sounds! When I couldn't sleep, I would take out a knife from under the pillow. I secretly took the knife from home. I planned to kill everyone in the dormitory, and then cut the nasty classmate B into pieces. Let go of eight yuan! Then I am committing suicide. I don’t want to suffer like this!

I planned to implement the plan the next night. But I received a letter from my sister the next day. We didn’t have telephones at that time, so we all wrote letters! I wrote a lot about it, mainly about how my grandma passed away, why didn’t her family tell her? I cried profusely because I was afraid that it would affect my sister's job. She had just graduated and found a more respectable job. We two sisters have a deep relationship with our grandma, because we didn’t have a mother since we were little, so it was our grandma who brought us up.

Tell me, girl, why are you so cruel? When the most important person to me just passed away, those people did this to me?

After all, I didn’t implement the plan because of my sister’s letter. I thought, let’s just live like this and it will be fine after graduation. Although it was painful, I still had to be strong. From then on, my grades plummeted. Every time the teacher gave a lecture, I was in a fuzzy state! Because of depression, my health began to deteriorate. You know, when I was in elementary school (the incident in fifth grade didn’t have a big impact on me, maybe because I was young, I didn’t feel anything, just a little angry), I was pretty good at sports. If you race with male classmates, you can beat Fang!

But in junior high school, consultation caused qi and blood blockage, which has been accumulating. Because of my poor health, I often went to the hospital to get a bottle. Sometimes I felt very uncomfortable, so I just endured it. After all, the medical expenses were very expensive and my family couldn't afford it. If I couldn't bear it anymore, I asked for leave and went to the dormitory to lie down. I didn’t go for running in every physical education class, and sometimes I didn’t even go for gymnastics during recess. In fact, I also envied my classmates who could move so fast on the playground! But I can’t fit in with them!

I remember one time my head teacher talked to me and told me that my grades were slipping and I would have to take the exam soon. If I continued like this, I would not be able to pass the high school exam. It doesn’t matter in my heart, because it really doesn’t matter anymore! Our high school entrance examination was very strict at that time. It seemed like the score for the first high school entrance examination was over 500, like 560 or 570. If you didn't reach the score, you couldn't be admitted!

Graduation is approaching, and we graduates must choose an outstanding student representative to speak to the whole school. Before that, many students had guessed that it was the B. After all, my grades had dropped so much, but her grades had improved. Some students went to congratulate her! But I didn't expect that the head teacher would find me the day before and ask me to be a representative. I was surprised!

That classmate B came over and said congratulations to me, in the same disgusting tone. Maybe she also thought that the head teacher would call her! But then, with this incident, you know, those unpleasant words came from behind again.

They said that my grades were so bad and not as good as hers. They even said that my father had a lot of connections and moved in with the retired principal so that I could be cared for by teachers. He also said that I would sweep the floor every time there was labor cleaning or register statistics. My dad moved here and the old principal told me! She also said that I deceived her into going to my house when she was in fifth grade. I lied to her about how luxurious my house was, so she went there! Haha, I think it’s a fantasy!

The principal used to be from our village and from our housework hall. We were relatives. According to seniority, I called him brother, but he retired in the second year of junior high school!

I finally understand why in elementary school it was just a small fight, not painful, but as soon as the old principal retired, everything went too far. Why?

Hey, girl, let me tell you: it’s because of the grades, just because of that damn grade, you know? After graduating from elementary school, I took the exam for junior high school in County No. 1 Middle School. I did very well in the exam. You know, every elementary school and junior high school exam, the school will post an honor list and put it in the village market. It is an honor. I am not exaggerating. Some adults in neighboring villages Everyone really knows me!

I really can’t imagine that since I was in the fifth grade, I have had such vicious thoughts. Suddenly I feel why people’s hearts are so scary? Fifth grade, how old are you? Isn’t it said to be the simplest?

So much so that when I went to college later, whenever I heard the word steal, I would tremble uncontrollably!

Oh, girl, so, you must not have the intention of harming others, and you must have the intention of guarding against others! You must work hard, but when you encounter unfairness, you must resist. Never accept unfairness, so girl, my current character is that if others respect me, I will give her a foot, and if someone hurts me half a point, I will give her ten points! I even cornered one guy!

Girl, do you often have enough to eat at school? No, now you all have three meals a day, and you eat meat every time. Girl, do you eat sauerkraut every time, and there is no oil, and only eat meat a few times throughout the year? No, you are well-fed and well-fed every day, and you are picky about the meals prepared by your parents. Girl, in order not to worry your parents, did you grit your teeth and persevere alone in order to save medical expenses even though you were so sick at school that you felt like you were about to die? ? No. Girl, in order to let your father wear a new pair of shoes, have you climbed a very steep slope to dig wild ginger and sell it for money while you are still in elementary school?

Girl, how can you consider your parents’ feelings? You are selfish and take your parents’ money for granted. You have gone out to work, and your parents are sick and have no money. Not only do you not give them any money, you are also cruel to your parents, and you don't even care! Girl, you don’t listen to your parents’ advice, don’t study hard, and often don’t go to school. Your parents criticize you, but you say bad things to them! If you didn't pass the college entrance examination, you don't feel guilty for your behavior, but you blame your parents for your failure. Then he fooled around with others, eloped, and disappeared for half a year! Girl, you still think you are successful, but you think you are good at dealing with others?

Girl, you still don’t understand what it means to be a human being! You don't listen to what others say, but instead speak fiercely. You just think you are right and don't accept it humbly.

Girl, it’s time for you to wake up and walk out of the dream you have weaved.

Girl, you have such good conditions now, but you don’t know how to cherish them. You have always disliked your parents for not giving you money. , everything needs to be good and expensive. Open your mouth when food comes, and stretch out your hands when clothes come. You are so happy, but you often treat your parents like this. I don’t know how to be grateful!

Don’t study hard at school. Smoking, drinking, playing cards, gambling, wearing makeup, donkey shoes, miniskirts, falling in love, pregnancy, miscarriage, changing boyfriends one after another! Taking my parents’ money to go to KTV and singing (Father), (Mother), I would have to spend thousands, or even thousands, on a birthday! And publicize it everywhere, and then ask for red envelopes.

If you spend thousands on your birthday, that’s what you’re capable of: squandering the money you earn!

Girl, if you blindly ask for money from others, what is the difference between you and a beggar?

Girl, your birthday is your mother’s Good Friday. You only know how to squander, but you don’t say thank you to your mother for your hard work on this day! I don’t know if this is how society is formed? You will eventually pay for your actions in the future!

Girl, don’t commit suicide and jump off the building. After all, you are not strong enough!

Girl, you see, so many things have happened to me and I have endured things that I should not have to endure at that age. I even thought about dying together. It started in the fifth grade. Girl, do you know that it started in the fifth grade? How old am I? And I had been depressed for such a long time. I didn’t tell anyone at home, and I didn’t ask for a penny from my family. I relied on scholarships and state subsidies to go to college, and worked part-time by myself. Then I gradually saw a doctor and came into contact with more people, and I also found out. , it turns out that not everyone is as vicious as B!

Girl, every time I see news about someone committing suicide by jumping off a building in a certain school, or that a classmate is causing trouble in class and the teacher says a few words and is about to jump off a building to his death, I find it unbelievable. Girl, there is no obstacle that you can’t overcome. Are your parents treating you too well, so you lack the ability to withstand stress? So is this worth jumping off a building?

Girl, do you know that when you are numbly repeating a monotonous life every day, not working hard and making progress, those rich second generations who are better than you are working hard and working hard. study? Do you know how highly educated those second-generation rich people are? How many languages ??do you know?

Girl, you can’t compare to others’ beauty, let alone a voluptuous and sexy figure. So, let me ask you: What qualifications do you have to do nothing? Who gave you the courage? Don’t think that this is your life now!

Girl, if you are like this, then your pattern and vision will always be there. As the years go by, all the consequences will appear on your face, and you will become the best version of yourself. Those annoying women: surrounding pots and pans, husbands and children! You have to look at your husband’s face when asking for money!

So, girl, wake up, work hard, save money, and build a house by yourself, both inside and outside! When others talk about Shu Ting, Gu Cheng, Zheng Chouyu, Dai Wangshu, Ai Qing, Bei Dao, Bian Zhilin, and Zang Kejia, you will not look blank. But the only thing you can talk about is the Korean drama Oppa, whose parents are short-lived...

Girl, you are only in your twenties, and you still have a lot of youth. Don't settle, let alone rely on others. The most reliable thing is to rely on your own girl, because you don't have the power to conquer the country, nor do you have the wealth to rival the country!

To all girls over 20 years old.

Maybe Sister Fox’s writing is too extreme, but that doesn’t mean that all girls are like that! I remember that Sister Fox once went for a pregnancy test and was shocked to see that there were 15 people booking abortions, 13 of them were students, and the basic age range was 16 to 20 years old! Because I go to that hospital for pregnancy check-ups every time, and I am familiar with the gynecologist. Even the doctor shakes his head and says that children are becoming less and less self-loving!

The content story is Sister Fox’s personal experience when she was studying, and it is not written casually!

So, if Sister Fox can do it, you can do it too, let’s work hard together!

Here, thank you very much to those who always like to read my writing!