What are the customs and taboos in Henan, on the wine table and making friends?

People in Henan pay great attention to the way of entertaining friends and etiquette. If you don't understand these etiquette, there will be many misunderstandings.

First of all, banquet seats.

When you are a guest in Henan, when you enter the banquet, you must sit well according to the host's arrangement. Generally speaking, there are two kinds of seats. First of all, the guest sits on the chairman, and the host and important guests sit on both sides of the guest to show the host's respect for the guest. Second, the host sits on the chairman, and the guests sit on the left and right sides of the host. The chairman of the board is the payer. In many hotels in Henan, there is always pandering to arrange seats, which is the reason. When you first arrive in Henan, you don't need to be modest. The host arranges what seats and obeys the imperial edict. Too modest is not good, and the seats are exquisite. The host won't stop until he reaches his goal, and pandering will make the host ugly.

Second, the layout of the dining table.

I have been to many places, and I don't have too many rules about the arrangement of food and wine when I eat. Cold and hot dishes are everywhere. This is not the case in all parts of Henan. Generally speaking, cold dishes are served first, then hot dishes, then staple food, and finally fruits. The number of dishes varies according to the number of people. Common ones are four cool and four hot, six cool and six hot, eight cool and eight hot, even and not odd. Serve cold dishes first, then hot dishes. Hot dishes can only be served after the cold dishes are served. This is the rule. Why do you have to drink white wine before serving cold dishes? If the cold dishes are even, the party can begin. It's time to raise a glass and drink white wine. Many times, cold dishes are only singular. For example, if you order four cold dishes and serve three, the shopkeeper must remove one and then announce the start. As long as the cup is brought up at one stroke, the cold dishes taken away will be brought up again, which is harmless.

Third, alcohol laws and regulations.

With a glass of wine, the formal banquet began, and drinking became the protagonist of this banquet. You must drink the first three cups. Everyone here should raise their glasses and drink enough. After three rounds of wine, the toast begins. The first person to appear was the host, who first proposed a toast to the guests. Generally speaking, give a guest three glasses of wine and then touch one, that is, everyone will drink four glasses of wine. After the host makes a toast, the guests should also make a toast in turn and propose three touches. After the host and the guests have finished honoring each other, the guests should also return the gift according to reason and respect the three companions. If five or six people drink together, it is estimated that a bottle of white wine has bottomed out in this circle. Many friends from other places have opinions on this regulation in Henan, thinking that it is really pitiful to always let guests drink and not drink themselves. Think about the toast. Everyone drinks a cup, and after a lap, they drink more than anyone else. Not only that, such a toast also has a lot to do with the profound culture of the Central Plains. A history of Henan culture is half of that of China, and China is known as "the state of etiquette". Where does etiquette come from? That is, from the historic Central Plains. Some friends don't understand, saying that we respect each other when drinking is to drink the wine in the cup. I don't quite agree with this. As a cup of tea, is it reasonable for the elderly and guests to drink it at one time? Tea worshippers respectfully pour tea for the guests. The wind of tea worship originated from toasting, which has a long history, but there are still ancient relics in the Central Plains, and there is no intention of bullying.

Fourth, fish head wine

Henan is not a land of fish and rice, and people who eat fish are far less than other provinces in the south of the Yangtze River. But at banquets all over Henan, no matter mandarin fish, mandarin fish, grouper or carp, fish must be served. In short, there must be fish. You can't make a table without fish. Do people in Henan really like to eat fish? Not exactly. Just to drink. In Henan, when a fish is served, guests can't eat it first. There is a lot to say before eating fish. The waiter in the restaurant knows very well that he knows who the distinguished guest is today without the host's prior explanation. When serving fish, the waiter will definitely aim the fish head at the guests. Once the fish head is aimed at the guests, the turntable of the dining table can't be moved, and whoever touches it will be fined. There are rules for fish on the wine table. Who the fish head is aimed at is the guest of honor today. Drink three glasses of wine first. Who is the fish's tail aimed at? Have four drinks. Henan people call it "the first three tails and four". Next is Five Bellies and Six Backs. What do you mean? Who is the fish's stomach aimed at, drink five drinks, and who is the fish's back aimed at, drink six drinks. A fish circled around and almost everyone had to drink it. The next drink is one-on-one, more cultured. At this time, guests should move chopsticks first. Under normal circumstances, guests will dig out the fisheye and put it on the host's plate to show "looking up". At this time, the host will drink a glass of wine; Then dig out the fish lips and put them on someone else's plate. Whoever gets fish lips will have wine to drink, which means "lips and teeth depend on each other". There are different opinions in different places and various patterns. There is a man, a professor in a vocational college, who has a special study on this. According to him, a fish should drink at least 30 or 40 glasses of wine. So on the Henan wine table, as long as fish is served, at least one bottle of wine is needed.

Verb (abbreviation for verb) changes wine culture.

Friends who have just arrived in Henan may be embarrassed by the enthusiasm of Henan people. If they don't drink, they are afraid that their host will be unhappy. Many friends who don't know the customs of Henan often can't stand persuasion and get drunk.

In fact, society is changing and customs are changing. The host's persuasion is affirmative, but the guests don't have to drink. In fact, no matter how the host advised, drink a little if you can, and you can't drink less. As long as you have an idea, the host may not care. What you said on the Henan wine table may not be taken seriously. No matter how people persuade you, not drinking a glass of wine may not hurt your feelings, and vomiting and diarrhea may not increase your feelings. Do things or not, drink, this is etiquette; In addition, because drinking causes too many lawsuits, many people are well aware of it, so they won't care too much.

In short, it is certain to go to Henan for business and drinking, because Henan people are hospitable. As for whether you can drink, it depends on your ability. The statement that "Henan comes back without drinking" is too scary. This place in Henan is a granary, not a jar.