How bad are those who can control their emotions?

How bad are those who can control their emotions?

What can control emotions? In this increasingly stressful society, emotional management is becoming more and more important. People who know emotional management will know more about life. Let's see who can control their emotions.

What's wrong with those who can control their emotions? 1 The company opened a restaurant downstairs, focusing on salty porridge, which was delicious and served quickly, and soon became a frequent place for us.

The restaurant is not big, except for the boss, there are only three waiters and a chef. The girl who often receives us, Xiao Xu, graduated from high school for one year. She is a smooth and enthusiastic Sichuan girl. We all like Xiao Xu's cleverness and cuteness. After a long time, we became familiar with her. We learned that she has a younger brother at home, and took a fancy to this restaurant. He can get off work on time, go to work during the day and teach himself English at night. She wants to work in a better hotel and earn money for her brother.

One day, as soon as I entered the store, I heard a fierce scolding. The voice came from two slightly drunk men, pointing to the porridge on the table and saying that there was hair in it, swearing and trying to touch Xu's hand.

She bowed her head, gently explained and apologized in every way. When she saw a group of us in the shop, the two men had to stop, waved their hands and gave an order for mercy, saying, then two bowls of porridge should be used as compensation.

We don't know the cause of the whole thing, only to see that Xiao Xu was busy appeasing the chef and sent porridge in a hurry. The two of them easily finished eating and left. This was a sigh of relief and a smile that was uglier than crying.

Don't worry, there is no hair in the porridge. She said.

I have long yellow hair, but the chef has no hair. From rice washing to serving, only the two of us handle it. Obviously, they put short black hair in their porridge to avoid giving money.

Her face was still pale and stunned after being frightened. She cried, but the logic of explanation was clear and reasonable. After eating porridge, she disappeared for a while, and when she reappeared, she could see the traces of crying, but she managed to squeeze out a smile and joked with us as usual.

The predecessors at the same table think that the little girl has an unlimited future, can swallow her voice and know how to control the situation and what is most important.

Have you been bullied for nothing? Someone is unfair to her.

But what's the use of being angry, wronged and unwilling on that occasion?

You can argue it out and even scold it back. It's a waste of time, but if those two make a scene, it will not only affect business, but also break things. Solving problems quickly is more important than fighting for breath.

About half a year later, Xiao Xu successfully applied for the front desk of the hotel, resigned from the porridge shop, made a special trip to call me and returned the English book he had borrowed from me. She insisted on inviting me to dinner. In a small shop on the street, we talked for hours. She told me about all kinds of difficult and wonderful customers she met, her eyes were reddish, but she still smiled.

Are you used to being so patient? I asked.

And her answer made me unforgettable for a long time.

I didn't put up with it to adapt to these people. I put up with it just to get rid of these people and this life one day.

She said.

We exchanged WeChat, but we seldom contacted each other. We only occasionally saw her dynamics in the circle of friends, and then we jumped ship. We went to a four-star hotel to sign up for a etiquette class, learned how to match clothes, swept away the original rustic dress, and began to have a little OL style. I was promoted to foreman and had a relationship with the lobby manager. ...

It is difficult for a girl to climb up step by step by her own efforts. In addition to redoubling her efforts, she will spend more time dealing with emotional burdens. I don't mean to divide people's occupations into three or six categories, but the reality is often that it is a bottom-level job and contains more emotional components.

Gritting one's teeth or swallowing blood, helplessness that nobody cares about, anger when facing difficulties and finding fault, and unwillingness and imbalance caused by looking at other people's cars and BMW.

These are all products that are too easy to breed in life, like a dark phantom of the opera, unconsciously eating up what little fighting spirit he has left.

This may be the reason why many disgruntled people can't change their lives. All their energy is spent complaining, complaining and getting angry, hoping to let the whole world know their difficulties and forgive him for being angry or depressed.

I have a girlfriend who went to work in a well-known audit company after graduation and finally survived the abnormal training period. There was something wrong with the first project she took over, and the original information given to her by her boss was wrong, which led to a great deviation in the final data.

Even the top management of the company was shocked when customers complained. In the meeting room, she was severely criticized in front of everyone, while her boss sat by and watched her being scolded, but said nothing.

After being scolded, she cried in the bathroom for a long time and worked overtime for a week day and night before giving the customer an explanation.

Because of this mistake, she spent a very difficult time in the company, sitting on the bench doing odd jobs, delivering takeout food, and accepting everyone's tangible and intangible questions. I have known her for many years and know her temper in her bones, which broke her glasses for her resignation in this encounter.

I went to work near her company and asked her for coffee by the way. I joked that I thought you would immediately scold her and pat her ass and leave.

Why didn't you think about it? She shouted, thinking of forwarding the original boss's email to all bosses, thinking of loudly defending those skeptical eyes, thinking of simply rushing back to the conference room, pointing her nose and resigning smartly.

But I can't. If I leave at this time, I will bear the title of deserter all my life.

I don't want people to think that I am the kind of coward who can't carry a little wind and waves. I am a soldier.

She gave me a deep look, gritted her teeth and drank a cup of coffee, then turned around and went upstairs to work overtime.

Until I successfully won one project after another, I don't know how many grievances and misunderstandings I endured. From that little girl who is unreliable in doing things, she has become a newcomer with poor foundation but rapid growth. At the end of the second year, she sent a photo in a circle of friends. In the photo, she stood on the stage, holding the trophy of the best employee of the year, with a bright smile and bright eyes.

Her boss left for family reasons. Out of admiration or guilt, he strongly recommended her to take his place before leaving.

No one seems to remember that misunderstanding any more. Whether they look at her with envy or appreciation.

I have hated, resented, and been angry.

However, I also know that such negative emotions will not be eliminated by talking. The more you complain, the more unwilling you are, but it will strengthen them.

People who submit to humiliation are very powerful, not only because they know how to restrain themselves, but more importantly, they know that there are more important things waiting for them besides emotions. Although you can't live without bad feelings, you should try to make a good posture and smile. After all, life will not give in to you just because you have emotions, but only pay attention to your grades.

What are those people who can control their emotions? In fact, in the days when life is important and people are struggling to camp, the seemingly lively situation seems unusually warm, or the thick rolling breath is everywhere, but sometimes in the deep heart's core, they can't help but feel inexplicable emptiness.

Her mood reminds people of some office workers, who sometimes feel that they are increasingly rejecting the work connotation that has never changed day after day, so they can't help but wonder: Will people's mood be exhausted due to the interference of job burnout cycle?

In fact, people sometimes think: what kind of mood will nostalgia be in the true sense? Or what kind of realm should a sentimental person push himself to in order to truly integrate into the true meaning of nostalgia?

What kind of life do people want for this meaningless thinking mode? There are many moments when we are always used to a certain type of life, but we are bound by the habits formed over the years, so that we forget that we have the instinct to find another exit!

Therefore, people sometimes get tired of Xue Xisi complex, and repeated and helpless images seem to be the whole of life; In the seemingly lifeless situation, we feel guilty of giving up our weapons and kneeling, but the external reality requires people to bluff or arm at any time, so we always feel very tired!

My other half has just experienced an unpleasant emotional event, so she must be in a state of mind, which also includes unnecessary nostalgia. Besides, due to hard work, she seems to live in a self-disciplined situation.

So what has lost its meaning. Miss feelings, after all, is synonymous with lovers whispering? It's still miserable. A very young patent? Or is it a natural spiritual exchange between accomplices? Or is it sometimes a process of reflection in your heart?

However, people think that every day is after extreme joy, and then quietly come to mind; But we don't like this boiling. If it is a state of boiling heart, we really don't know how to relieve it.

Maybe these definitions are all right, but they are all wrong; However, people know that the taste of real mourning is pure and sweet!

One day, my partner was very depressed and said, it's really outrageous. I am always in a strange mood these days. I wonder if it has anything to do with attending boring meetings every Monday. I hope the answer is yes, then at least we can know why the mood is disturbed!

Perhaps the partner's mood is based on the above ingredients, which makes him feel a little ambiguous, always feeling lazy, even depressed and unhappy.

And people know better that unless one day they forget to breathe, they will never lose their instinct of missing and breaking cocoons; Will not be forgotten because of stupidity, and sincerely capture the joy of spiritual interaction in life!