I stayed in a hotel two years ago and was afraid of being secretly filmed in an indecent video. How could I alleviate my fear?

In fact, based on your description, I feel that what you are really afraid of is not whether your hotel experience will be secretly photographed? Rather, it means that you are married to your current partner. And your partner is a very good husband. But your opinion of yourself is not so good. You think you are a very ordinary woman, even a very casual woman.

The fundamental reason why you cared so much about that hotel experience was because you were aggressive towards yourself. Why am I so casual, why should I agree? Honestly, is it weird to have an experience like yours? In today's society, if you have a friend who tells you about his experience, you will feel like wow, how could this happen? You are too dangerous.

I believe it won’t happen anymore, you will comfort her and say it’s okay, it’s impossible. Why? Because you won't attack him. But if something like this happens to you, you will attack your own shortcomings and arbitrariness. But these are just self-attacks that extend from low self-esteem. You have very low self-esteem in intimate relationships. As well as your expectations for intimate relationships, you also have very low self-esteem.

So at this time, when someone is very good, very good, and very gentle and accepts you, you will be reluctant to leave him. But there will always be a mentality in your heart that you have deceived the other person. You will have a feeling that you are not good enough for the other person. So at this time, I found the thing I did before. The hotel experience suddenly proved that you are really not worthy of the other person. You will go into intense self-attack.

That thing is not important, that thing is just to attack you as a vector. What is really important now is to deal with the inferiority complex between you and your husband, and the guilt between you and your husband. You ignore your own feelings too much, and you don't care about yourself too much, which leads you to attack yourself afterwards. Why do you ignore yourself like this? Because you don’t care anymore, you don’t care about what you will attach importance to, and if you don’t pay attention to it, then if something really happens, then you seem to think it’s impossible logically. So what's the point? Once you don't care about yourself, when someone needs you, even if it does some harm to you, or even great harm, you will find reasons to satisfy the other person. Hotel behavior is one of them. Anyway, I have no hope in the future so I might as well satisfy him and maybe experience new experiences and feelings. This is an obvious phenomenon of neglecting yourself too much, so I think you will definitely behave similarly in your future marriage relationship.

You and your husband have a certain conflict. At that time, something may hurt you, but in the end you will definitely satisfy your husband. In the long run, you will think, why can't I be stronger? Woolen cloth? Why can't I be stronger? These feelings of regret actually have only one purpose, which is to make you value yourself and find your own position and status in the relationship.