Excuse me, the process of engagement and marriage ...

Engagement procedure: ancestor worship

Ask the bride's uncle to light candles and burn incense. The woman gives her mother-in-law two pairs of "candle-lighting gifts" (provided by the man), one pair for her parents and four pairs for the bride-to-be. The matchmaker reads auspicious words, and then the woman's parents worship the gods and ancestors, suing for marriage and blessing. When inserting incense, you must not insert it once. (taboo: the possibility of bigamy)

Engagement procedure: engagement party

After the engagement ceremony, the woman gave a banquet.

At the end of the dinner, the man's parents gave "table pressing ceremony" and "sister table" red envelopes.

The woman should also prepare chicken legs with red paper and attach red envelopes to the young man.

Young women hold washbasin water (with towels in it) to wash their hands for the man's visitors (the man gives a red envelope for "holding washbasin water gift"), which can be omitted if entertaining guests in the restaurant.

The man also gave red envelopes to all those who had helped him as a thank-you gift.

At the end of the banquet, don't say goodbye when the man leaves, so as not to breed complications.

The prospective father-in-law gave the new son-in-law a "face gift" (omitted). The prospective mother-in-law gives the new wife a "face gift" (omitted).

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Engagement procedure: send cake

The woman will distribute the engagement wedding cake to relatives and friends, and the bride is not allowed to eat her own wedding cake.

Engagement procedure: ancestor worship

Before leaving, the man offered sacrifices to his ancestors and prayed for a happy marriage.

Appointment procedure: sending

On the day of engagement, the man took a bride price (six or twelve copies) and set off for the woman's house with a cannon.

Those who go to the woman's house should be served by the man's older relatives and friends (preferably boys); Parents and groom-to-be plus 2, ***6, 8.

The number of people/limousines must be even, but 4 or 8 people should be avoided. Generally, the number of limousines is 6.

Both parties should pay attention to the time of wearing the ring (usually before 1 1 o'clock in the morning), and the man should arrive one hour in advance.

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Arrive at the woman's house

Engagement procedure: welcome

When the man hired a motorcade to go about 100 meters in front of the woman's house, she fired a shot and the woman responded.

The matchmaker gets off first, and then the others get off; Finally, the groom was invited out by the younger generation of the woman's family, and the groom gave the younger generation a red envelope (opening ceremony).

Participation process: introduction

The man's relatives and friends filed into the woman's house in turn, and the matchmaker formally introduced the relatives and friends of both sides; Introduce the man to the woman first.

Employment procedure: recruitment

The man's staff carried Chunsheng (now known as the red wooden box) into the woman's living room as a bride price, and the woman accepted the bride price and rewarded it with a red envelope (a gift from the porter/driver) to show the bride price one by one.

The matchmaker sends gifts such as dowry and gold ornaments to the woman's parents, and the woman's relatives and friends collect the dowry and display the offerings on the altar.

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What is the engagement procedure? Serve sweet tea.

The elder of the woman asks the relative of the man to sit down according to his age, and the groom comes last.

At this time, the bride was led out of the hall by a blessed woman, holding sweet tea for the man's guests one by one. The number of cups is the same as the number of people drinking tea, neither more nor less. The matchmaker read auspicious words and wishes with him.

What is the engagement procedure: pressing tea.

Later, the blessed woman will take the tea tray to lead the bride out of the hall to collect the tea cups, and the relatives and friends of the man will put the red envelopes and the tea cups (the red envelopes are rolled up and put in the cups) on the tea tray one by one.

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Engagement Procedure: Hanging Fingers

Ring: gold ring, bronze ring (taking its sound, meaning concentric. You can also use a diamond ring instead.

At that time, the blessed woman will lead the bride into the hall.

In the witness of parents and relatives of both parties, the bride-to-be sits on the high chair in the hall facing outward, with her feet on the low chair (facing inward if it is supernumerary).

Wear a ring, first the bride's middle finger and then the groom's middle finger (generally only to the second knuckle, both men and women are left-handed), and the matchmaker reads auspicious words.

The groom gives official money (red envelopes) to the bride, and the matchmaker reads auspicious words.

The prospective mother-in-law put a necklace on the bride as a gift.

After putting on the engagement ring, the matchmaker suggested that both parties change their names and address them one by one.

What is the engagement procedure? Women return gifts.

The gift that the woman gives back to the man is called "rebirth" (also called "pressing life"), and the man's "dowry" is taken out and put into the empty life.

The woman returned a part of the "employment gift" sent by the man.

The bride prepares personal belongings (6 pieces or 12 pieces) for the groom from head to toe in advance.

Traditional return gift: If the fee for breaking off an engagement is very small, the woman will leave a red note, and the matchmaker will take it from the woman's parents and give it to the man's parents.

Editor's Note: As modern China society is more and more influenced by western culture, the traditional form of engagement is no longer suitable for modern young people's views on marriage and love. Especially in recent years, with the rise of marriage proposal, more and more young men and women put forward marriage instead of the original engagement. But even if there is a proposal, most of them still need to go through the engagement procedure. Engagement and proposal are still different in some ways. The modern engagement process is very different from the traditional engagement process.