Anxious for the marriage custom in Jiehe Town, Tengzhou! Especially the engagement ~ ~ Thank you!

the bride price is much more, and it is only a moment of glory; Getting rich by hard work can make you glorious all your life.

Now there are more and more demands for bride price in Bashang. This year, I actually heard that there are 5,. In order to start a family, it costs a lot, from meeting men and women, giving a bride price, fixing a wedding date to holding a wedding ceremony, every step will cost thousands or even thousands of dollars, plus the cost of building a new house, it will cost at least 5, yuan or 6, yuan, and there are more than 7, yuan or 8, yuan. In some places, in order to marry a daughter-in-law, some young men began to go out to work and save money from their teens. In order to make more money, they often choose jobs with high labor intensity and have no time to learn any skills, which forms a vicious circle. The poorer they are, the less chance they have to develop.

I wanted to earn some money to do my own business, but I had to pay a bride price of 1, yuan. If we use this money to learn some skills, our future life will definitely be much happier than selling coolies, but the backward thinking will make us more and more backward. From the time the matchmaker comes to the door, you can't live without money step by step! The heavier and heavier "bride price" has already overwhelmed people. Some work hard outside for a year, and the money they earn is not enough to send a bride price; This has seriously affected the improvement of cultural quality, and even many people have hurt their feelings for the bride price. Parents' excessive involvement in marriage aggravates the contradiction after marriage, and it is not uncommon for people not to go to their mother-in-law's house for several years after marriage.

I don't know if I'm a man, but from the perspective of this matter, I hope some women can speak here and talk about your feelings. Do you dare to tell your colleagues about the custom of talking about marriage in our hometown in big cities? One of my classmates once said, "If you find someone, don't find anyone on the dam. Not to mention the bride price, the thought has been seriously corrupted. " Maybe my classmate said something too much, but if you think about it carefully, it makes sense.

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Author: 219.238.54.* 25-7-18 2:45 Reply to this statement

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Author: 219.238.54.* 25-7-19 8:29, reply to this statement

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I just want to talk about my situation and thoughts: in the past few years, I have my own independent thoughts because of my maturity and maturity. I had a lot of differences with my family. At first, I was very painful, and then I slowly figured it out. Parents have lived in that kind of ideological environment for most of their lives. It is very difficult for you to try to change their minds. If you don't do it, you will be branded as benevolent and unjust. (Although this is not the case), sometimes when they say what they think is right, it will make you laugh and cry, but at the same time it will give you a feeling of helplessness, because no matter how they think and do it, their starting point is not wrong, but out of love for their children. I believe this, everyone will not refute me.

I once saw an article on the Internet, but I forgot where I saw it, which made me completely understand that a knot buried in my heart for many years has been opened. Grateful parents, although it is very inappropriate for them to ask for a lot of bride price, can children object? Different people have different opinions. You are smart, so don't go against your parents, let alone follow them, because they are already wrong.

Have a thorough communication with parents, find out what their concerns are, and then try to dispel all these concerns. In addition, there is other people's public opinion, and rural people have everything to say, saying that their girls have been with others for nothing, and so on. . . . . You can say anything. Speaking of which, maybe some friends will talk about me. Of course we don't care, but as our parents, they care, care, care, because they will continue their lives in that land; Some families may be out of this, and they can't afford less bride price money. At this time, should you do something, prove to them with facts, and prove that you did the right thing, because you didn't live according to their requirements, and you live well, so others have nothing to say.

Author: Thunderstorm Flying 25-7-19 8:57 Reply to this speech

--------------. I have a good opinion, too. Everyone on the other side of the dam, including around the dam or other counties and cities, has this saying. Many people who have never been out of town are now starting to compare. If you want 3,, I want 5,, if you want 5,, I want 8,. From the first three big pieces to the present, I want a variety of unspeakable folding condoms, and even made up a jingle, what kind of gold and gold?

There is also a kind that has been left over from the distant past. Now many young people have not obeyed their parents' arrangement in marriage, and they have chosen free love. But at the critical moment, that is, at the wedding ceremony, their parents still want it. Of course, they want it appropriately, and they also comfort themselves with courtesy. It is really difficult for the man to take it out. Therefore, if young men can find southern girls outside, they may lighten the burden on their families ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~ ~

Author: Kangbanol, reply to this speech at 9: 34, July 25

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5 Reply: About the custom of asking for bride price on Bashang

What's more, houses in counties and mobile phones have become popular now. What else is popular?

Author: Thunderstorm Flying 25-7-19 9:52 Reply to this speech

----------------. A reply, when my sister got married, I did a bad job for my parents, and finally I wanted 1 yuan, but it was the least in the village. I send this post, I hope you can mobilize your relatives and abandon this bad custom. To be honest, the man who wants the bride price is cold, will he cherish your daughter? It was never pleasant at that time!

Author: 219.238.54.* 25-7-19 at 11: 9, reply to this speech

---------------. I want to know, Am I biased from a man's point of view

Author: 219.238.54.* Reply to this speech at 11: 1 on July 19, 25

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Author: Kangbanor 25-7-19 11:1 Reply to this speech

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How to leave a name for the landlord ~ ~ ~

Author: Kangbanor 25-7-19 11:11 Reply to this statement

-------------. The custom of asking for a bride price on the dam

The road to revolution is very long. The difficulty is that there are drops

Author: Thunderstorm flies at 11: 18 on July 19, 25

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What kind of revolution is this?

Author: Kangbanor 25-7-19 11:22 Reply to this speech

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overthrowing the revolution of huge bride price

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Author: Thunderstorm flies at 11: 33 on July 19, 25.

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Author: My heart has already replied to this speech at 13: 6 on July 19, 25

----------------. Bro, Thank you for your support.

Author: Lei Yu Fei Fei 25-7-19 13:34 Reply to this speech.

-------------. > as far as the four counties in Bashang are concerned, Under the dam, there is no such hatred as that on the dam

Author: reply to this speech at 13: 4 on the net RS 25-7-19

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Marrying a capable husband can change poverty and require tens of millions of property. I can't spend it all the same

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