What should Qin An bring and pay attention to when proposing marriage?

Matters needing attention in marriage proposal-men

Pay attention to the appearance of clothes: clothes must be decent and tidy.

Don't bring two bunches of bananas: propose to the woman's house, and don't forget to bring some small gifts! This is a courtesy and a respect for the elders. Although they will say you're welcome, they will be very happy.

Smile: Never frown, but show your sincerity and smile. This will add a lot to the score!

Show respect: show respect to the woman's request or opinion as much as possible, and handle it according to its regulations, otherwise the atmosphere will be too stiff if there is disagreement.

Be punctual for appointments: never be late. If it's really because of traffic jam or other force majeure factors, be sure to call to inform you that you will arrive a little late.

Can I stay for dinner? Looking at the views of both parents, some people think it is inappropriate, while others think they can increase their feelings and chat while eating; If you don't say anything, you must do nothing, so you must do it; A lot of things depend on what people think.

Matters needing attention in marriage proposal-women

Clothing appearance: Dress neatly and neatly, leaving a good impression.

Clean environment: the home environment should be cleaned in advance.

Kind attitude: Your daughter will marry the man's family in the future. Don't be too hard on that man. The two sides should establish good relations.

In addition, if the man's parents are not eloquent and don't know much about customs and habits, find a middle coordinator * * * to propose marriage. This person may not be a matchmaker! A matchmaker, or an elder friend he knows, depends on his parents' personality and needs. On the day of marriage proposal, the woman usually tells the man the requirements and customs on the day of engagement. After some discussion, it is a good idea to find someone to be the middle coordinator. The scene will be more lively and easier to communicate.

Matters to be discussed in proposing marriage

What exactly is this proposal about? Most of the issues discussed in marriage proposal are matters of principle, and details will be produced one after another, and communication will continue. After the principle is determined, many things will know how to deal with it. Generally speaking, the discussion items mentioned at the marriage proposal meeting are as follows.

Marriage: First, make sure that both parents agree to this marriage, and there are no other opinions.

Wedding date: the choice and selection of wedding date. Under normal circumstances, after the proposal, the woman's parents are willing to give the bride-to-be's birthday to the man to choose the date; However, some women decide the date. You can express your hope first. What January? Or how long to get married after engagement, and choose another birthday after reaching the knowledge of * * *.

Engagement money: engagement money is divided into big engagement and small engagement. The man should take the initiative to ask the woman's views and opinions. For example, the size of the amount and whether to accept the engagement fee. (Generally speaking, it means accepting small employment and quitting large employment)

Engagement gifts: 6 gifts or 12 gifts?

Engagement ceremony: Some people hold a simple ceremony to entertain 2-3 tables of relatives and friends, and the woman only formally entertains the guests when she returns to the province (southern custom), and some people only entertain the guests when they are engaged. (Northern Customs)

Wedding cake: Who decides the wedding cake? Chinese cake or western gift cake? The man is responsible for the money for the wedding cake, so some of them are directly decided by the man, and some are decided by the woman. The man pays or makes up the money afterwards. Generally speaking, it is mostly the woman who decides and the man pays. As for who will order the cake, it may not be Luo!

Location and type of banquet: engagement is mainly the responsibility of the woman, without too much interference. But respect the woman's parents and ask about the venue where she wants to get married. Some women's parents will say, "You decide whatever you want, and we have no problem." Some will have requirements.

Secretly tell the bride-to-be a little secret. Before the man's parents formally propose marriage, they should communicate with their parents in advance and let your prince charming formally visit your parents first. This is official! In other words, dress neatly and tell them politely that you are getting married. If you get permission in advance, the process of proposing marriage will be smooth. Don't wait until the day of marriage proposal to let mom and dad know that you want to grow old together!